In a relationship, is looks very important, or does a good personallity mean alot to females? :P?

Question

Well, im carrying baggage, but im not overly fat, in my oppinion I have a very plain face, like a grown up baby :P

Anyway, I have a good personallity and although still young, the fear of rejection (Easy to diagnose I have a problem with believing in myself) is pretty bad, I mean, I could never make the first move and I think thats how its MEANT to be, so im in a kind of relationship limbo?1?! p.q

Answer 1

aww, personality is definitely more important.
while Brad Pitt is nice to look at, he's not someone you'd bring home to Daddy.
don't worry about your looks. just put yourself out there. make the first move though, because most women won't. it's scary, I know. but someone's gotta do it.
♥

Answer 2

Hmmm.... Well, a lot of girls will fall first on someones looks.
But ones who fall so quickly aren't even considered as your future choice? That kind of girls are simply ... plain. You don't need them.
That relationships don't last long.
U need to use all your charm and give all attention you can spare to one special person. If U are unique (not like everybody else), You'll conquer that lady's heart. By unique, I don't mean that you should come up with another theory of relativity, or to spend all day under the apple tree waiting to get an idea... Or headache at least.
:)
About your fear of rejection... Overcome it. It may sound difficult, but when you think of all future years , or even decades you'll spend alone, and occasionally in some relationships, you'll feel fear. Fear of waisteness. Cuz you realize that you are wasting your life? And you know what they say that life is too short? They are wright. Who knows, now you're here, next moment PUF! You're gone! While we last, we should take the most from life. there's nothing wrong in rejection!
If you conduct an xperiment, you will realize that your own fear of rejection is the main reason why you are being rejected!
I did it, I went to a club. I was acting like before. staying in back, waiting for someone to approach, being bored... Next time, I came wright in the middle of dance space and setted it on fire!
Now, what do you think? Was I alone the first or the second night?
Don't get me wrong, I'm not suggesting that you come into the club with C4 xplosives :) , you should find your thing. Mine is dancing, and you try yourself out in whatever you want. When you find something in what you're good at, you will gain confidence. It's all about marketing, presentation. Pick any example you like. The following works for absolutely any situation> Like , you fall. Possibilities. You blush like a virgin and run as fast as you can. Or, you could simply get up, slowly shake
dirt off, and continue. I can guarantee that in first case, people will stare and laugh. In second, they may even offer help.
Or (imagine that you're a girl) you are in club,dancing, wearing your top, and it slides down so everybody can see your bra. You can blush again and run away, and be laughed at, or you can simply adjust it where it was, and continue dancing. If someone asks you anything , you calmly answer> What, like you didn't enjoy it? ;) lol
It's everything about presentation...

Answer 3

It would be a lie to say that looks are not important....we all initially give somebody a second look because in some way their appearance is attractive to us. But looks and attraction are different from person to person. Personally, a man with a chisled jaw and muscles leaves me stone cold; if given a choice between Christover Reeve or Columbo I'd go for Columbo. Not everybodys choice but that is what I find attractive. Upon saying that, I could find someone not attractive in the least but their personality will win me over. Why? Because I am attracted to them not the way they look. If your best asset is your personality then go out there and use it. Looks are one thing, but if you have to keep your mouth shut because that's all you do have then I would go for personality everytime. Confidence and you. Everybody lacks confidence they just choose not to admit it. That's up to you. Do you honestly think you are that bad that nobody would want to say yes if you asked them out? I don't think that's true do you? Some will say no, some will say yes. Stop being a big girl and get out there......enjoy!!

Answer 4

Looks are important to degrees... they have to be attracted to you of course. But attractiveness can come from within, n it's what counts in the long run.
It's great that you have a good personality: )
But confidence are a key point in being attractive. If you exercises n look after your body, mind, heart n spirit, then you'll sure feel better n more certain of your ability n appeal.
Rejection is a part of everyone reality, the sooner you accept that, the less it'll hurt.
You'll do fine; )

Answer 5

Ok...you don't mind if I avoid all the usual cliches?

Women look for two types of males, the fun one...and the mate one. The fun one is confident. He makes jokes that get laughed at...he is self absorbed and immature.

The mate one is less confident but is more or less honest...even to the point where he is likely to be shy because of it. He is more mature and boringly reliable.

Looks only matter to giggly young girls who base their relationships on what is in this weeks magazine. Being a good looking boyish type is a lot better than being a bad looking thicko type.

They are just women...they are not going to kill you for christs sake.

Answer 6

Most women look to personality so much more than appearance. Personally, I can meet someone and at first not be at all attracted to them, but once I get to know them, find them irresistable and extremely sexy. Don't be so scared of rejection. It hurts, but it's so much better to try and fail then to not try. Plus, women like a man with confidence, so the more confidence you have, the more women you will get. Make the first move. Women love that!

Answer 7

i have pretty strong opinions on this 1..personality is far more important than looks..yes there has to b some attraction when u first spot someone, say in a club or u wouldnt have looked at them in the first place..but u could get to no them and they could b boring and have a boring personality..i would rather b with some one who makes me laugh, ask yourself this: would u rather go out with a fit bird who had no personality and was just self obbsessed or would you rather b with a not so pretty girl who u had fun with and who made you laugh,girls should like you for you

Answer 8

Personality is the most impotant to me,i'm a girl and as for the baggage babe if it's worrying you try doing something about it for yourself to make you feel good not just to impress someone...Good luck you never know you could meat the babe of your dreams while you're doing something about the baggage you say you're carrying..Happy New Year

Answer 9

i might want to assert it relies upon on the objective of the relationship. If one needs an enduring and healthful relationship, then personality is extra than likely extra significant. that doesn't mean that looks are unimportant; it truly is likewise significant the you locate the guy you're with to be bodily appropriate. personality is merely extra significant for a healthful relationship. As for a short-time period/immature relationship, random hook-up, or booty-call challenge, looks might want to look the significant component.

Answer 10

Looks what do you mean by looks that is rubbish just have the confidence to talk to girls you will be surprised how girls will warm up to you.Seal (the singer) he is not good looking but has a very beautiful who so can you.as long as you are presentable (clean) and personality helps a lot more