I am so confused I don't know what to feel anymore.?

Question

After my bf dumped me I don't feel like doing anything. I feel the want to love and be loved but I just don't know if I'll ever find anyone. I need something to keep me going, like a best friend, ah I just don't know please help me.

Answer 1

well give me some time and lets see how being just being friend work out and then maybe we can advance. lol

Answer 2

You need to get to know you, who you are, what you like. Go to college, make something out of your self. pamper yourself. Find a hobby, get interested in what you like. Don't get so wrapped up in a man that you forget who you are. become independent. I've felt the way you've felt too. get involved in the community some how. Do things that make you feel good and important about yourself. then meet someone who loves and treats you with respect, and loves you for who you are. Not for what you can do for them. Go to the library do some research, do genealogy at the library. Find out who you are, before you give yourself to a man (after you're married) You don't have to have a man, or a best friend to feel like you are a whole person. I've been divorced for 17 years, and I haven't got any friends, but I sure feel good because I'm totally independant. I had some friends, but I always had to do what they wanted, when they wanted. One of those friends took some things from me. So I just decided to be alone. Its not so bad.

Answer 3

Make yourself feel better and confident by writing down 5 great things about yourself. Tell yourself how stupid he is to let you go. The love of your life will find you. No need to worry about finding someone. All you have to do to attract men is to be confident. What I do in a time like yours is to do self make over.
Get my hair and nails done, work out, eat healthy, stuff like that.
You don't need a best friend to occupy your time. Call your friends just to chat, even hang out. I like playing puzzle games, video games, watch tv, match movies that's not love related. They help me not think about him. When you get in bed, I'm pretty sure you'll think about him. Cry yourself to sleep. you'll have a better day tomorrow. And it'll get better each day.

Answer 4

I know exactly how you feel. The difference is that I did absolutely nothing. I hardly went out and see friends, I hardly spoke to new people and became abit anti-social. I recommend NOT doing that because by cutting myself off from other people it really took a toll on my self confidence. Now because I took that path I find it a little hard now to approach women now that I find super charming and attractive. Hopefully you're smarter than I was and not follow the same path. Good luck with that and you and I will keep our heads held high.

Answer 5

Sorry about your situation. Any time our heart gets hurt, it sets us back a little. Im proud of you for reaching out for some answers. Sounds like you are experiencing some depression. This is normal. Loosing interest in things, wanting to sleep all the time, loosing desire for food, or wanting to eat more than ever. these are symptoms of depression but they will go away. Life is going to throw lots of good times and some not so good times at you. there is no getting around that and there is no escaping that. They key to enjoying life is learning how to handle the bad times in a way that it doesnt keep you down and out. You are on the right track in wanting to find a best friend, or atleast someone you feel safe with to share how you feel and to talk about things with. Secondly, this sadness and depression will pass but you have to stay involved in life. Spend time doing things with others and also, spend time doing things you like to do. What activities do you enjoy? Dont stop doing them, even though you may not feel like doing them. You'll find that if you make yourself start doing something you enjoy, even if you dont feel like it, in a few minutes, you'll be enjoying it.Having a close relationship with someone is not the only ingredient to having a fulfilling life. we need to have and pursue goals. Do you have any? Accomplishing things makes us feel good. Dont get in the rut of focusing on this lost relationship. Its o.k to spend time talking about it and crying with someone and grieving, but dont let it take up your whole day. You have to tell yourself, "I have other things I must accomplish today". Stay involved in "life" and doing things for others. God has designed us to be happier when we are doing things for others instead of having others do things for us. (it is more blessed to give than to recieve).Dont let yourself withdraw. You will see that things will get better each day. Take some time each day to speak outloud the things that you are thankful for. Take some time each day to laugh out loud and smile alot. Dont worry about finding the "right guy" right now. There is no hurry. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

i know how you feel. i feel like that all the time. but the right person will come. you just have to give it time. time for you to heal but while you're healing try to get out with friends, find someone you can trust and talk to then go places and start being really social. your bound to meet a bunch of new people

Answer 7

Well i know what your going through call up a friend and go out you will feel so much better
friends are always there through rough times going out and having some fun will do u some good

Answer 8

Remember that God has a plan for you.
He will bring you the right one in His time.
Just have faith in Him.

Pray and tell Him how you feel. He is there for you.

Take this as an experience. Life is filled with them.
All we can do is take it in and learn from it.
We use the past to build the future.

Everything will be okay. : }
Put that smile back on your face and don't let some boy control your emotions. You're more than that.

Answer 9

I've been down that path myself,and can tell you that time heals all.One day you'll wake up with a whole new attitude and perspective.Nows a good time to improve yourself threw reading or upgrading your education. You Go Girl.

Answer 10

If this is a recent break-up then give yourself some time. I know that it is hard not to think of anything else, but have faith and in time you'll be OK. What your going through is normal.

Answer 11

We all go through this at some point , if you just want someone to talk to most of us on here asking and answering question have alot of time on our hands,some of us going through the same thing,look at the profiles and if you think it's someone you could talk with,email them!