Question: Depression?
Question Details: ive been so happy a yr with my boyfriend . i blew off my friends to be with him all the time . & now hes always with his friends like im second best . i am in depression and he knowa yet hes out with his friends and hes like ill be there when i get done hanging out with them . i dont know whats wrong with me .i love him and im so happy to have him yet i still feel Terrible Like i told him that i wasnt feeling my self i felt like i was loosing my mind and he says ill come by after i get done with friends , No one is happy all of the time, but i feel as if i can never find happiness. i feel as if my entire life is devoted to nothing but pain and hurt and loneliness.
2006-12-30 15:57:21 · 9 answers · asked by Xxxcore 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have put his happiness, and his needs before your own. In the beginning it was all new so he was loving it and enjoying the "benefits". Now, maybe his friends teased him or whatever the case this is the real him, he comes first not you. So now my dear you have to readjust your priorities. You should call your friends or if you've alienated them all make new ones and get out go to lunch a movie and when he calls DON'T drop everything and run to him like a desperate woman. Tell him "I'm out right now but we can meet up later or tomorrow." Men love the chase and when you meet him make it good. Good food, good love, and good conversation and NO whining about "you spend more time with your friends... whah." Good luck
2006-12-30 16:13:51 · answer #1 · answered by dragonslayer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yong lady, this is a story that we all have experience some time in our lives. Knowing that you love him is one thing, but allowing him to hurt is another. Go to your firends and tell them that you are sorry and that you would like to hang out with them. You need to either let this man go or have sit down and tell him how he is hurting you and how much you care, but their is a limited to your pain. The other thing you really need to do is fine happiness inside of you, you must love yourself before you can love any one else. Love is a work in process, you see you may love him and he may love you, the question you both need to asked is ARE WE IN LOVE WITH EACH OTHER, and then start from that point, you have a long life ahead of you, don't let one person or anybody tell you or hold you back, you a woman who can make it and be all that you can be, if he does not want to get on the train, you get to steppin, and God will send you someone better, best of luck.
2006-12-31 00:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by single2mingle22000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you answered your own question, really. depression? apparently so. however, you have to realize that this could be a purely chemical depression and have nothing to do with your bf or life events. that is just the nature of depression (take it from one who has been there).
it sounds like he is having a hard time coping with your depression, blowing you off to spend time with friends. sometimes it is hard to be around a depressed person when you know there is nothing you can do to help. and you also have to realize that he can't help you and that it's not fair to expect him to just make it all better.
he could be a bit more accomodating to your feelings, it seems, but you also have to stop relying on him to "fix" your depression. you need therapy and possibly anti-depressants.
2006-12-31 00:06:14 · answer #3 · answered by Ali D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You arent losing your mind!
What you need to do is begin making decisions for your own life.
Do you want to be wasting away in this situation a few years from now ?
What do you want from life get started and make it happen.
Don't give up one door closes another opens.
Set yourself some goals and begin making them happen.
Nothing ventured nothing gained.
John 3:16 is life changing.
He conquers who over comes himself.
Happy New Year.
Take care!
2006-12-31 00:15:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because you put all of your happiness on one person and became dependant. Hunt your friends up, apologise for blowing them off and learn to balance your time. You need love and friendship to be happy. Your boyfriend seems to have realised this.
2006-12-31 00:03:03 · answer #5 · answered by Rageling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt have left your friends out to dry then. friends should always come before boyfriends, even if it seems like a good idea to have opposite priorities. just try to build your relationship with your friends once more and then you might feel better.
2006-12-31 00:00:57 · answer #6 · answered by jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT JUST SOUND LIKE YOU GAVE UP YOUR LIFE FOR HIM
AND THAT NOT GOOD,YOU DONT GIVE UP EVERYTHING
FOR A MAN., TIME FOR YOU TO START GET BACK IN
THE GAME OF LIFE. START GOING OUT WITH YOUR FRIENDS, SEE FAMILY MEMBERS. DO THING THAT WILL
GET YOU OUT AND GOING. HE DOING WHAT HE WANT
TO DO, KNOW THAT YOU HAVE GIVEN UP EVERYTHING
FOR HIM. START GET YOUR LIFE BACK. YOU WILL FIND
THAT YOU CAN SMILE AGAIN THE SUN WILL SHINE AGAIN
HOPE YOU LUCK IN 2O07.
2006-12-31 00:03:06 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your old friends.
In the future, do not end your existing friendships to spend more time with your boyfriend!
2006-12-31 00:01:23 · answer #8 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU JUST NEED TO TELL HIM HOW YOU ARE FEELING INSIDE. IF HE DOESNT WANT TO TRY TO DO THINGS DIFFERENTLY THEN YOU DONT NEED HIM. TAKE CARE AND GOOD LUCK.
2006-12-31 00:00:58 · answer #9 · answered by sherryw_1978 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋