part of me wants to meet them and part of me doesn't. I guess I'm kind of angry at them, but then I'm kind of happy that they did what they did or gave me up. i have so many questions for them. like why they gave me up and not her. i guess i'm kind of angry about that. my sister wants to also get to know me. but all of this is so hard. i just don't know how to deal. my parents are okay with the idea, but maybe i should just avoid all of this. im just so confused.
2006-12-30 15:53:04 · 16 answers · asked by hope 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was adopted too. I have actually seen my birth mother, although she did not know who I was. My parents were not open to the idea of me meeting or locating my biological parents.
In this situation, you need to do what is best for you, (in your heart). If at this time you are not ready to make that big jump, then don't. No one can condemn you for not wanting to know especially since you mentioned that you have alot of anger towards them. However, on the other side, it may help you to resolve the anger if you are able to speak with them and find out from them, why they decided to give you up. If you are not up for meeting all of them at once, suggest just meeting your sister only (if age allows) and get to know her as a person, or possibly friend and go from there.
If I personally were in your position, I would meet them.
2006-12-30 16:01:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to go with your heart on this one. You have questions that only your biological parents can answer, but you will know if and when the time is right to make contact with them.
Anger is normal under such circumstances, but hopefully you grew up in a loving home with loving parents. Hold that close to you because those are your parents and nothing or no-one will every change that.
Do what you feel is best for you at this point. Anger eats us up inside and only seems to cause more pain. Come to peace with what ever your decision may be.
My best to you and your family.
2006-12-30 16:04:09 · answer #2 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, that's a lot to deal with!! but you should take your time and not get forced into doing anything you are uncomfortable with. You can call all the shots and take it at your own pace. Maybe if you don't want to be emotional in front of them you could suggest exchanging emails for awhile first, so you could get some uestions answered BEFORE you actually even commit to meeting them. You have all kinds of choices, take your time and think it out. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-12-30 15:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by mark d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?
I know that you have a lot of questions but I would suggest listening first to what they have to say and then asking the questions you may have. It is hard decision especially because some of the answers you may receive may end up hurting you.
Best of luck and I hope your meeting is a good one.
2006-12-30 16:03:43 · answer #4 · answered by S0LYMAR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't meet them and don't get the answers you are looking for, you may regret that the rest of your life. Since you have questions I would get them If I were you and then you may have a better understanding of them and maybe you can get to know them.
2006-12-30 15:58:52 · answer #5 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have 2 be confused because Evey one have to meet the person that made them I'm sure they had i good reason way they did the thing they did. they love you and you should get to know them and now your family history and your sister too. i now you will be scared when you meet them but you have 2 put your fear aside and do your thing girl.
- Christine
2006-12-30 16:03:16 · answer #6 · answered by sweetpea9105 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine you should verify with them on the phone about what you experience first, that's going to shrink the rigidity. yet i imagine you should definently meet them ultimately. undergo in concepts, they are those who got here upon you and decide to satisfy YOU. i'm particular that they had a superb rationalization for offering you with up and they were putting you in a more desirable concern then you truly would were in with them. Take a deep breath, and bypass to work out them. you'll remorseful about it in case you do not.
2016-10-16 22:34:12 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should meet them. You will always be curious about what they are like if you don't. Have your list of questions to ask them and try not to act mad at them or anything like that.
2006-12-30 15:56:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what feels right for you. You don't have to meet them now if you don't want you can wait till you are ready. Or if you feel more comfortable bring a friend w/ u.
2006-12-30 15:57:40 · answer #9 · answered by everything_shes_not2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom about this. She will lead you in the right direction. Make sure your mom and dad know you love them and these new parents to you will never take thier place.
2006-12-30 15:56:31 · answer #10 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋