Any tips to get my 20mo. Son to relax on the potty and pee?

Question

He is running to to the bathroom every tim ethe timer goes off, I help with his pants, and he'l sit a good long time. Often I can tell he's holding it, so what can I do to let him let it out?

The timer thing is for me, not him. If he's wet already, I wait 30 min. or so, give him lots of juice, and then staart rewarding the dry pants - like all that trianing in a day advice. Thanks for the water idea - that is a new one. All the others are good too - but that's what hasn't worked....yet....you'all are great!

Answer 1

That happened to my son, he didn't mean to hold it but that is what he would do instead of letting it out. I finally started to play games with him to get his mind off of what he was trying to do. I would ask him where is his nose etc. Anything. The first time I did it, his focus was on me, it worked and I never had to do it again.

Answer 2

You relax first and take the pressure off to be potty trained before 24 months. All kids are different, some develop mastery sooner, some later, however my experience saw most children having an easier time of it after 2 yrs. and the ones who had the least stress full time were 2 1/2 yrs.
I've seen children potty trained much earlier however the larger percentage of those children had less emotional resilience (i.e more crying, wetting, tantrums, frustration ) than the child who began potty training after 24 months. Hope this helps...
Gentle advice from a infant/toddler teacher

Answer 3

I have heard the boys are harder to potty train than girls... I really don't know... I had 2 girls... and they were very easy to pottytrain. I know from experience that you should not even start the training until they can go all night without pee-peeing. They have to have a dry diaper in the morning before you even begin to start. The way that I did it was with stickers and a piece of poster board. I just hung a blank piece of poster board (.25 cents) on the back of the bathroom door. I kept stickers that interestered them in a pocket folder that I taped to the wall. Stickers of horses, kittens, dogs, etc. When they pee-peed they got to put a sticker on the piece of cardboard and when they did number 2 they got 2 stickers... after about 2 weeks the board started filling up and that was about it. I kept doing this for a few months until I ran out of stickers. Also, I bought "fancy pants" for the girls and they did not want to pee-pee in them because they would have to take them off. Maybe you could buy a few pair of "super-man" pants or what ever character your little boy likes. Also, I got one of those chairs that fits on the seat of the comode and they have 2 steps to climb to get on the potty. My girls loved climbing and would go to the bathroom just to sit on the seat. Hope you will at least try this.. it really, really, works! Good luck.

Answer 4

I let my kids cue me when they were ready my oldest 2 boys were trained around 2 1/2 and my daughter at 21 months. they knew where the potty was and would follow me to the bathroom and copy me. My youngest son decided he was ready at 20 months and because I thought he was a little young, i didnt bother him. so off came the diaper and onto the potty he would go.. he knew. So my advise is let him be , relax, throw out the timer, and watch his body language. He'll let you know. Kids also train faster if allowed to run around butt naked with just a long T-shirt. then they can see what's going on (weather permitting) Good Luck

Answer 5

I have just successfully potty trained my 3 year old grandson that I am raising. He has been trained for about 4 months now. I will just tell you that I too started when he was about 20 months. I was having the same problem you are having. I asked his doctor about it. He said that while girls are typically ready to potty train by about 24 to 27 months, boy are not ready until they are about 30 months old. So I followed his advice and stopped trying until my grandson hit about 28 months. He started going #2 on the potty the second day. #1 took longer but now at 3 years old, he has not had an accident in 4 months and he has only wet his pull-up twice at night in that time. He only wears a pull-up at night. He wears "big boy " pants during the day.

Answer 6

Poor kid...you're trying to train him like a rat in a maze...geeze. He is holding it because he isn't ready to be potty trained. He has no clue as to what the hell is going on and you're freaking him out with that damn timer. Man talk about obsessive parenting...A timer for god's sake! So when he does good does he get the cheese?

Answer 7

Try this: every time he tries to pee, run water (bath or sink) maybe that will help. Every bath time, he pees before he gets in the tub (the sound of running water).

He may not be ready either so be patient.

When we were training, we threw a huge "PARTY" every time he went too. So if he makes it, make a huge deal about it.

Good luck, you'll get there!!! :)

Answer 8

You have bathroom breaks scheduled for a toddler?
If this is true it is why you are not getting results. Just like learning to walk, talk etc. each child will do things at their chosen time.
If you really can tell that he is holding back at times, get a small deep jar or bowl of warm water to have him put a hand in to retreive something he will enjoy be it a treat or a toy.
This will also get him to associate washing up with using the toilet.

Answer 9

every time what timer goes off? Do you have your kid's bladder on a schedule? I don't know that I fully understand the question but I'll try. Kids can be addressed successfully two ways. Either by allowing them to tell you when they are ready(not feasible for working parents sometimes) or by encouraging him to be a big boy. That can be done by letting him watch Daddy pee. Every little boy wants to be like daddy.

Answer 10

It is good that he is showing interest in the potty, but I think you may be expecting a lot from a 20 month old. I don't believe most children his age have a concept of "control".