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Question

I spend a lot of time secluded in my room (mostly pondering the existance of life and whatnot); sometimes even late into the night. I am not too social and do not have friends over often but I am also not ant-social, when in a social setting I have conversations/act normal. I am not creepy/goth/suicidal...I just am fascinated by the mysteries of this world and am constantly in deep thoght. I think it is unhealthy. How can I stop this?? I feel disconnected from the normal people and i think this is unhealthy. I've had lots of people ask me why I'm so pensive...I dont know what to say. I don't care for mundane matters...I mean sometimes I joke and have fun and forget about the serious stuff...but Im drawn into the world's phenomenas once again. Please help me be normal!! :-p

Answer 1

I do not think that is a bad thing , but rather good. Time spent with fools is not time well spent. Just try to find things that you would like to do, perhaps some sport or activity on the side and good friends.
Spending time alkone thinking is profitable in many ways. You should also meditate the utimate cause, this helps me a lot.
I love those topics as well and considering the mindset we live in , it takes much thought to be able to think straight and escape being an indoctrinated fool. If I didn't think like that,I think I would fall prey to the many deceptions out there, and I mean the number one now, which called science but is not, only philosophy smuggled in with scientific wrapping. That is the danger today not religion.Almost everyone questions religion because ther eis much competition amoing them, but no one questions the philosophicl foundations of science, and they should.If every genration must question its presumptions then that leads us to question what is the real foundation and authority of scientific opinion and how does that relate to other forms of knowledge outside of its physical scope .
Also , remember such dedication and passion were displayed by men of other generations, who wrote great volumes of books, it takes that kind of dedicated thought and natural love for it to drive one to think beyond the average , you might be preparing yourslef for something.
Just like a gymnist must spend hours working out and practicing whil ehis friends go out and party , you might be being prepared for something.
Don't be afraid, accept it, love it and rejoice.
I haven't ownde a television for over 10 years, so you can imagine I think alot and so did the greatest men in history. So you are in good company.Read Descartes meditations, or some work by Socrates, remember Moses, spearating himself from the mob in order to find God.

Answer 2

Balance is an important thing. Deep thinking is good, but one should not spend too much time alone. Do you work? If you have a lot of free time, take some classes about the topics that interest you and meet people there and form study groups. I like to ponder the mysteries too, but I also have a group that I meet with every week and we study different books. Also for me it is good to socialize with people from all different social groups. Some folks I just go to movies with, others I can sit and have long philosophical discussions with. You need all type of friends. Balance. Balance. Balance.

Answer 3

What is your definition of "normal"? Would you rather be just another face in the crowd? I don't think your preoccupation with introspection and reflective thought is unhealthy at all. I might venture to guess that you may be a person to whom your friends come for advice. Interest in a broad range of subjects and the thirst for knowledge are admirable qualities. Why would you want to lose them? I know this is going to raise some ire, but most of the people in this world are mediocre. They're content with the status quo. They don't ask why, they merely accept that it is. That's not going to win any Nobel Prizes. You feel disconnected because your mind works on a different (read, higher) wavelength. Get comfortable with who you are and embrace your individuality. To shackle yourself with the trappings or normality is dishonest, and even the simplest of minds can detect disingenuousness. So let's trot out the old cliche...just be yourself. Normal is for the birds. Well, the sheep.

Answer 4

Don't make any excuses explain to your mum that your friend done it without your permission, if you tell her then at least you won't get the blame for it and the cost of the song would probably be anything from £1.50 - £3.00 depends on what song or site your friend went too cos there are some very expensive songs out there. Because I have been caught a couple of times and my dad went off on me for buying them. Anyway if it makes you feel better then just tell your mum I don't think she would mind for one song but if you continue doing it and she got a big bill from vodafone am sure she will be really hacked off with you. Just go in and tell her and you will probably be surprised with what your mums reaction will be. Good Luck

Answer 5

You are extremely intelligent, and would benefit from exploring honestly the claims of the Bible and it's meaning in life.
A person with your IQ and a clear sense of purpose is a powerful force for good, for change.
Someone like you is a teacher's dream, don't undervalue these traits because society tells us to skate on our appearances or other easy-outs.
Get tested at your local junior College for your aptitudes, and use that to help you choose a career path where you not only get paid to do what you love, but you can be a difference maker too.
BTW, a down to earth, unassuming intelligence is very engaging and very hot!
Happy New Year!

Answer 6

I identify with you. I sit in my room on the computer thinking about why people are religious when all religions are obviously false. It's hard to function when you realize that most of the people in the world are much dumber than you and don't see the world the way a thinking person sees it. I'm guessing that you're an only child or, in my case, have siblings that moved out of the house when you were still a baby. When you're left alone a lot throughout your life to think about things, I think it can have this effect. I'm shipping out to the Navy on January 22nd (couldn't motivate myself to do college classes) to hopefully help me with my motivation problems. I don't know if you have the same kind of problems or not, but maybe the military is an option to think about.

Answer 7

This might be a good subject to discuss with a therapist. But in the meantime, there's no need for you to have a complex over your social situation on top of the actual social situation. Try to relax about it.

You may also want to think deeply about what good things you might get from having a more involved social life. If any of those things seem appealing to you, you may want to make a list of things you can do to make the transition from the unsociable you to the gregarious you.

Answer 8

Being connected with this sinful world is not everything it is cracked up to be either. Shift your concentration over to the studying of God's word in the bible.

I placed myself out there for many years befriending lots of people, but have come to the recent relalization that if you can actually count your real friends on one hand, you are doing better than you thought. Any more than what you can count on one hand becomes a burden and not a blessing.

But the one friend you can always count on that will never let you down or leave your side is Jesus when you invite Him into your heart and life as your Personal Savior.

God bless you.

Answer 9

To be totally honest, you sound normal to me. Although your description is short, I would describe your behavior as thinking philisophically about things that currently have no answer; ther eis nothing wrong with that. However, if you are really concerned with your behavior, go and see a licensed therapist. Talk to him/her about how you feel and get a professional's opinion.

Answer 10

Since you seem to enjoy socializing, do more of it. And, don't spend all your pensive time just scratching your head -- study something -- anything. Study philosophy, science, whatever interests you, and your horizons will expand. But don't suppose that your alone time is necessarily bad -- just use it effectively.