Ive been friends with this guy for 3 years now... ever since we met we've had a "thing" its been on and off for three years and both of us had a pretty serious relationship in between our thing. Everytime we hang out we always end up making out and doing stuff.. but after we hang out it seems like we dont talk at all for a couple weeks sometimes months but then as soon as we talk and hang out we still end up doing stuff. i feel like im not good enough for him but yet i dont understand why we hang out then i dont know i guess my question is if i should just stay away or talk to him and see if there really is anything there. i think it would be hard for us to be friends simply because of our past. I dont know what to do....
2006-12-30 15:36:56 · 15 answers · asked by brunettebeauty13 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can't imagine why you don't feel like you are good enough for him, it sounds like it's the other way around: HE'S not good enough for YOU.
If he goes that long in between calls and contact, but still seems to make time for the physical aspect, he may be using you. If he really liked you, there would be more to your "relationship" than occasional make out sessions. He wouldn't go weeks, or months, without any contact. He knows that he can get to have fun with you without the strings attached of a commitment, so maybe he's coming back for the fun when he's between other girls.
The next time he calls, confront him about his feelings. If he doesn't have the answers you want to hear, tell him to take a hike. He either needs to be with you, or leave you alone. This back and forth nonsense is only hurting you, confusing you, and keeping you from having a positive REAL relationship with a better guy.
If it was me, I would get on with my life with someone who will appreciate you for the wonderful, beautiful, person you are; someone who will want to be around you for more than just kissing and a little fun; someone who won't make you feel like you aren't worthy of him; and someone who won't ignore you when it suits him.
2006-12-30 15:46:56 · answer #1 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're only seeing him every 2 weeks to make out and stuff, kind of sound like a bootie call to me. How serious could it be if you only see each other 2 times a month.
If it's on and off, on and off....I bet it's going to keep going that way, other wise you 2 would've worked it out already.(3 years!)
I say if you think it's worth it, then save it. Do all you can and if it doesn't work, at least you can say "I did my best" and you can walk away the good person and feeling good about yourself. I hate to see people break up so Good Luck!
2006-12-30 23:48:22 · answer #2 · answered by Cloud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've done that with a guy before. On again off again for 4 years. If it were really meant to be it would have been. However, if you are even offering the idea of no longer talking to him then what is the point of trying to make something work. It doesn't seem like your feelings for him are that strong. Why bother holding on to something if it isn't something you feel you must have.
2006-12-30 23:42:11 · answer #3 · answered by Stacey S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys are just attracted to each other. Its a a chemical thing, but it seems like he he doesn't want to take it any further than that for whatever reason. Its too bad really since that kind of thing doesn't happen all the time.
2006-12-30 23:39:29 · answer #4 · answered by ♫ giD∑■η ♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you don't know what to do.
Why not try breaking this destructive pattern?
There is more to life develope some new interests .
Take control look at what direction you would like your life to go in and get to work on making these changes..
Where would you like your life to be in 5 years?
Have a wonderful New Year .
Take care!
2006-12-30 23:58:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like your using eachother or somethin wierd. I mean like your guys aren't in a relationship yet you still make out. I think if you not going out don't make out n' stuff. If you are make out n' stuff. By the way what is stuff?
2006-12-30 23:40:45 · answer #6 · answered by hottierecy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk 2 him 2 see how he feels
2006-12-30 23:40:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the next time u "hang out" talk to him about it
2006-12-30 23:40:03 · answer #8 · answered by fariya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you guys should continue hooking up and not worry about being friends.
2006-12-30 23:38:35 · answer #9 · answered by Dion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem except we dont end up makin out or doing stuff! lol! i think you should date!
2006-12-30 23:40:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋