I'm 18 yrs old, and I've never had a boyfriend, never been kissed, etc., mostly because of lack of interest and opportunity. The only crush I've ever had was at camp, and I never saw him again. I went to an all girls' high school (don't get me wrong, I wouldn't have done anything else for the world), and never really knew any boys, except through my brothers' and my parents' friends. Mostly boys just have the effect of making me extremely nervous, but now that I'm in college all of my friends are starting to meet boys and talk about that sort of thing, but they still just freak me out. Is there something wrong with me? Is it possible just to not be interested in dating etc? I don't have an older sister, and my best friend has a boyfriend already (for whom she has fallen head over heels, and he has done the same for her) so I don't have anybody to ask... Help?
2006-12-30 15:35:11 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nope, nothing wrong with you whatsoever. To tell you the truth, I was exactly the same. EXACTLY! And I was pretty and funny...the works. In fact, in college I was very popular, and my guy friends all had bets on whether I was gay or not. Silly boys. LOL. All the while I was just afraid of boys. I wasn't ready to do what everyone in college was doing. I didn't want to be rushed into anything and I thought that guys would try to get me into bed and all that nonsense....and yes, a few did, but I held my own. I sound like I was a major prude. LOL. I wasn't. Just with sex. Guys probably still freak you out because you don't have much experience with them. Don't worry about it. Just act natural around them. I thought I was never going to get a boyfriend. But here I am, married to a very good looking man and I have a georgous daughter.
2006-12-30 15:44:23 · answer #1 · answered by sammytoes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the way society is these days, better to be how you were brought up and raised compared to most other college students. I didn't go to like an all boy's high school or anything but my parents were very strict on dating and I was basically sheltered from a lot of high school dating. My first relationship didn't come until I was almost 18, so don't feel bad. You are probably highly selcetive to when it comes to finding the right person, and that is good. Better than just asking whatever person looks half decent like most college aged people do. So it may take some time to meet the right person, but when you find them it'll definitely have been worth the wait.
2006-12-30 15:51:02 · answer #2 · answered by big_j_gizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry. listen you fin that right man. and look at the bright side, if u never had a boyfriend you were never hurt..like you didnt have to go through breaking up with him and all that stuff. im sure you will find someone. dont think there is something wrong with you. your only 18, most ppl get married around 20 at youngest. i wish u the best of luck finding that special guy, i know you will.
2006-12-30 15:42:27 · answer #3 · answered by Avital 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the right guy is not yet there. you wait and mingle with your friends. do not be scared of guys. maybe the guys will think of you as a strange girl because of you fear of guys. guys do not bite. be scared of sharks than guys.
its ok to be not interested in dating. sometimes you can consider dating as talking to each other. or just bonding.
try to dress up nice not flirty. do not over dress. just look good when you go out. the type that even you will have crush on.
be yourself. if you get nervous, tell the guy. maybe he could help in someway. never hide it. because that will make you strange. and word might spread that youre strange and guys will not be close with you.
2006-12-30 15:41:29 · answer #4 · answered by Karl G. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely start finding some guy FRIENDS first:) If you eliminate the pressure of having a crush on them right away, it becomes a lot easier to talk to them. If you aren't interested in dating, yeah! It's normal:) If you want to be interested, give yourself some time. If not! Hey, don't feel weird! You are perfectly normal:)
Good luck, sweetheart!:)
2006-12-30 15:39:27 · answer #5 · answered by Bethany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you want boyfriend, and you really2 want it badly.
You must remember that "Attraction is not a choice", that what i heard and it's true.
Just relax, spend more time outside (you could go with your bestfriends). See other boys and make friend with them.
Boys make you nervous, but you must realise that girls also make boys nervous. So just be confident, you'll find someone later on.
2006-12-30 15:57:59 · answer #6 · answered by buzz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 19 and I never had a bf either...they just make me nervous. I know exactly how u feel because all my friends found bfs but me. I guess we'll find one when the time is right because there are trillions of men out there and one of them is bound to be our men. hah
2006-12-30 15:40:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sister is seventeen and hasn't had a boyfreiend. It just isn't that important to her right now. You're not a freak or anything. It's just you've gotten along fine with out a guy.
2006-12-30 15:38:05 · answer #8 · answered by Locogirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTLY NOTHING IS WRONG WITH YOU! its ok you will get when in good time follow your heart and maby get with a couple of friends and go on a guy hunt and head around to singles clubs and stuff
Good Luck
2006-12-30 15:39:01 · answer #9 · answered by Alexandra M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah guys make me nervous and im 20, been kissed plenty of times, but still make me nervous. Date casually, you'll like it maybe you just arnt ready for something serious yet. And no its not weird you havent been kissed. Its more common than you think.
2006-12-30 15:37:37 · answer #10 · answered by Tina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋