Started dating this guy a couple of months ago, since the 14th we havent gone more than two days without seeing each other, but we are not bf/gf, we do sleep together and talk, I am going out of town this week and he has been asking me if I am going to miss him and stuff like that, trying to be cute I guess. anyways he is thirty and recently divorced and I am in my twenties with a 5 year old (he has no kids) anyways it seems like he is being very careful about "getting into a relationship" we kind of talk about it and he says he likes to take his time when making decisions so he knows he is making the right one. (HE does this with EVERYTHING) so should I be offended that we are not "together" yet or does his recent divorce and the fact our relationship involves a kid and we have been friends awhile just complicate everything? He told me the other night that if he did not see this going anywhere he would not come around as much, but then why do we not have any type of commitment?
2006-12-30 15:30:13 · 7 answers · asked by dontknow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has the right attitude. There is nothing wrong with taking things slow. Also you have a daughter so there is a lot for him to consider. You two do not need to have a verbal commitment to be committed to each other. Your relationship is still very young.
Be patient and good luck.
2006-12-30 15:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by Patricia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that his recent divorce has a lot to do w/it. Bouncing back from that takes time. Emotions need to heal. Getting into a relationship right away isn't the best move. So if you are interested in him, just be patient. Don't rush him. Let him analyze. Don't be offended by any means. Your child complicates things, too. He may be concerned about getting too close to you and if you did introduce him and your child, the child might get attached.
It's probably not the best idea to even have him and your child meet until/unless the relationship does progress to a certain point. Especially if the child's dad isn't in the picture. Children get dependent on adults in their lives, and it would be tough if the relationship didn't work out and your child had gotten too attached or fond of this guy.
2006-12-30 15:35:36 · answer #2 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wasting your time. Deep down you want this to work but like most doormats you keep this hope of a relationship. From your words he doesn't seem interested, go find someone better. At your age you shouldn't have a problem finding a guy.
2006-12-30 15:37:44 · answer #3 · answered by pariet10 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's because he doesn't want to be hurt by divorce again, so he wants to make sure that you two will get along.
2006-12-30 15:35:36 · answer #4 · answered by Trainwreck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT SOUND LIKE BOTH OF YOU NEED TO JUST SIT DOWN
AND TALK ABOUT WHAT YOU REALLY WANT IN THIS REALTIONSHIP, BOTH OF YOU HAVE SOME ISSUES THAT
YOU NEED TO SORT OUT. AS YOU STATED IT BEEN ON
A COUPLE OF MONTHS, ALSO THERE IS A CHILD ALSO.
SO JUST TALK THIIS TIME FIQURE OUT WHAT YOU BOTH
WANT.
2006-12-30 15:36:28 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All guys do that crap... I have no idea why. When I ask my husband about it he claims it is because of his past so maybe it is due to his past relationship.... good luck
2006-12-30 15:35:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your booty call.
2006-12-30 15:33:06 · answer #7 · answered by Dane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋