im a 16 year old,i am not sexually active, i do have a boyfriend but it's a long distnace relationship. i love him. but i just found out that he has cancer. i will stand by his side but it's hurting me so much. he has started his treatment.he did radiation therapy .he removed one of his kidney. it's really hard for me because his family has to stay in the hospital for a really long time and by the time they get home im a sleep. i was suppose to hear from his sis today but i haven't and i am worried. i know it is normal. i wish i was there with him to give him my full support but im not. iand it's hurting me inside.
2006-12-30 15:27:44 · 6 answers · asked by kelly 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
sorry to hear about your boyfriend. Cancer is a hard thing to deal with, but is something that we have to deal with if we like it or not. I know my father died at the age of 39 from cancer, and i have known a lot of people since that has died from cancer. I am not going to tell you that he is going to died cause their is always hope, and you should never give up on hope, or pray. Medince has come a long way since my father died. So just keep on praying for him, and i have him put on pray lines. I really believe that works. It is good that you are not sexually active, too many young people are today. And i say you have a lot of courage cause you will stand by him, and i know that is comforting to him.
Hopeifully you will be hearing from his sister, or his family soon. Have you tried to call the hospital that he is in to talk with him. That can help both of you. It is a hard thing when a loved one get sick or has something like cancer. About all you can do it try to talk to someone about your feelings, so that they do not get stuff up inside of you. Right now that is the wosrse thing that could happen to you. Remember too, people now adays do recover from cancer, so i don't know what kind of cancer he has, but there is still a good chance of him recovering from it, cause scince has come a long way. Yes it is very normal for you to worry about him, and be hurting. It is times like this i wish there was a magic wand or pill that we could us to help make him well for you again insteadly, but there is not. This is something that you are going to have to ride through, just as he is doing now. It is too bad that no one has gotten back to you about what is going on, cause that would help a heck of a lot if you even knew that. I would try to get in touch with his family again, and try to find out what is going on , and what hospital he is in so maybe you can call him, and that will help you both to feel better, just to be able to talk with him. There is really nothing i feel that i can say or type here to make you feel better, and not hurt inside. Cause not matter what that is what you are going to feel right now at this time. I will pray for the both of you, i don't need a name, God knows who i am praying for and why. And i will see about getting him on some pray lines. So you hold fast, and remember it is ok to show your emotions and cry. I hope the best for both of you, and that he comes out of this ordeal ok. Best wishes to you and your boyfriend. I hope the New Year rings in good news for the both of you......
2006-12-30 15:57:51 · answer #1 · answered by Ladyofathousandfaces 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to hear of your boyfriend's cancer. It must be very difficult to be so far away and not be able to see him or talk with him.
Some hospitals offer email greetings at their website. These are delivered as flowers are delivered. It isn't the same as talking with him, but this may help you support him without having to rely on his family to do it for you.
A letter or card sent regularly is really nice also. Perhaps you could send him stationary and stamps so that he can reply when he feels up to it.
Best wishes for his recovery. Good luck to you!
2006-12-30 15:39:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Little One
He is in the hands of people who are dealing with this situation---where he needs to be---He would not want you in the middle of the craziness at this point anyway !! His family are doing what they need to do to get through this thing and see that everything is done the right way---and -- so--- your place in all this right now is to tap in occasionally with the family to let them know of your concern and to check on the updates etc----and --- to pray
You, will, naturally be upset and uptight about all this-- it is not a good thing to be dealing with--- but the limits are very distinct on what kind of input you can be at this point---and , so, settle down and know that you are doing what you can by being concerned-- staying informed-- lending verbal support to him through family members---and --- PRAYER
You'll do just fine ---- hang in there !!!!
2006-12-30 15:43:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep a journal of your thoughts, and your goals. Also write him daily, send cards, flowers, he'll know you care and it will keep you busy and take some weight off your shoulders.
2006-12-30 15:38:55 · answer #4 · answered by anjangel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry! you are both too young to have to go through such a problem. i really hope your bf gets better.
you sound like you need counseling. it is really helpful. talk to your parents about how you can get counseling. they'll understand and help you get it through their insurance.
2006-12-30 15:33:12 · answer #5 · answered by Loon-A-TiK 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my heart goes out to you, know this for yourself that you are doing everything in your power to help and that is care so how ever it turns out know that you did your part
2006-12-30 16:09:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋