2006-12-30 15:23:53 · 19 answers · asked by lyndsie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
not exactly phrased right. they are mean, and rude and have blatant disregard for authority. how do you get past the frustration and lack of patience.
2006-12-30 15:27:39 · update #1
Well, learn to like kids or at least tolerate them and be nice.
2006-12-30 15:25:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Like the way people are insisting you change your feelings? Maybe you could play pretend and run your blood pressure up. And the answer is, You can't!
If you and your husband truly have a good marriage you will work together on this. Since you don't "like" the kids your husband will need to make discipline decisions. Yours may get clouded with anger and frustration. He will also need to make sure they don't run over you. If your a stay at home Mom you have your work cut out for finding a happy medium.
Do your best not to let the kids "control" your feelings. The less reaction they get from you, the less fun it will be for them trying.
If your marriage is good, hang in there. Kids grow up and leave.
2006-12-30 15:43:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kids are a reflection of their parents. It sounds like you messed up big time marrying their dad; it's a package deal.
I'd suggest you get some professional help on how to deal with it or divorce the whole situation before you're too far involved.
Good Luck!
2006-12-30 15:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You better get along with the kids cause your husband will notice. And you can NEVER EVER be a good step mom if you don't like the kids. Start bonding with them more.
2006-12-30 15:25:44 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Choco Lover♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you don't like the whole package , its probablly not the right relationship for you , children are great, i could not imagine a child living in a house with an adult that dislikes them , sometimes you got to give a little effort , hope all works out for the best , God bless
2006-12-30 15:31:22 · answer #5 · answered by mom of 4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to remember that you are doing this for your husband. Try small steps...get to know them. You are not taking place of their mom, so try to be somewhere between a friend and a mom (maybe like an aunt) relationship. Good luck, I know it has to be hard.
2006-12-30 15:27:45 · answer #6 · answered by bugjrmom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
reallise that the kids are probably going through a hard time with a new stepmom. try to see things from their point of view, be patient and just be yourself and let them know you care about them but give them their space to grow into you. it is not easy to adjust to a new stepmom and i bet some of thier bad behaviour is just a test for you, they want to know if you really care. please do not let them down. i hope everything works out for you.
2006-12-30 15:55:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the kids are over, let Dad handle it, go shopping, get your nails done, etc.
Why didn't you think about this BEFORE you got married? This is what's wrong with society today, grown adults putting their sex lives before the welfare of their children. Please, if you can't learn to be nice, leave.
2006-12-30 15:41:57 · answer #8 · answered by 1 Supermom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can.My stepfather hated kids, and did his best to separate my mom from us. It all resulted in hell for years. If you can't deal with is children, move on to a guy who has none.
2006-12-30 15:52:22 · answer #9 · answered by trishopesisters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are gonna have to learn to like them. They will probably grow on you eventually. It just takes time. Just be nice, and show them that u r not going to give up on them and they will get better.
2006-12-30 15:27:56 · answer #10 · answered by hotbutsweet2003 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋