I was seeing a girl who has a boyfriend and a kid and I fell in love with her.She told me that she was gonna leave him eventually she did not love him or have a physical relationship so for 8 months I trusted her.Now shes saying that hes changing and is now confused about her feelings but no matter what happens she wants to be friends cause Im special.I told her I couldnt be friends if she started having a physical relationship again with him,it would hurt to much.I thought she needed time to figure out how to get out of the relationship but now is thinking if she still loves this guy who treated her bad.If she stays with him then all this was for nothing and Im not gonna hurt for her to be happy with him.I feel she should confess to him or I might just feel guilty now that I might have to tell him myself.I dont know him but could easily make contact with him through certain people.I feel she cant do this to me and its either me,another guy or be single but not that jerk.
2006-12-30 15:09:27 · 14 answers · asked by Sincere923 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I understand you are hurt but you have no control over her actions. She has to make her own decisions whether you feel they are the correct ones or not.
You will find some one else- some one who deserves you and appreciates you.
2006-12-30 15:11:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why are you involved with someone that can't commit to you 100% in the first place??? You deserve better. Now you have to deal with this heartache. My advice: break it off. She's obvisously going to keep this up with you for as long as you let her. If someone loves you, they wouldn't play games with you. Look for someone who is honest and upfront. Don't get dragged along. Plus, they have a kid. Don't ruin this family even if it's messed up. It's their problem. Leave while you can and mend your heart and go find someone else who is single. Life's about having a true love and apparently she's not true. Most likely, she'll cheat on you too. Good luck!
2006-12-30 23:19:43 · answer #2 · answered by meghanw1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you really have a problem. If he mistreated her and you tell him about you and her no telling what he might do to her. She is the only one that can make up her mind. Your best bet is to let go and move on. She might wind up hurting you more than what you want. It is hard I know. But you have to think of yourself. Don't worry you will find someone. To be honest with you I wouldn't tell him, and if she doesn't want to tell him it could be that she if afraid. Just leave it alone and move on. Good Luck my friend.
2006-12-30 23:16:06 · answer #3 · answered by Andie F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think more than a boyfriend, she needed you as a support to sort things out, maybe the wrong way though. Now that she is settled in her life, she doesn't need you; and I doubt anyone needs an affair in a healthy family.
If you really loved her, let her go. If she comes back, she's yours. If she doesn't, she never would be yours.
2006-12-30 23:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by Ani the Blue Phoenix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The other guy may feel the same way you do and may also know of you too. So let the lady make up hr mind with a set date and she cannot comply leave it alone and move on with you life.
2006-12-30 23:16:50 · answer #5 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe she's afraid to leave him because she doesn't want to know how he'll react bc he could be dangerous and she might stay with him out of fear. But if I were you I wouldn't go and tell him you might make things worse for her and her child. Talk to her and tell her your opinion on the situation and see if that gets you guys anywhere. Good Luck!!
2006-12-30 23:14:06 · answer #6 · answered by Wolf_28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT TELL THE BOYFRIEND!! cuz all this time you havent told him....show her that you have moved on....MOVE ON!! dont let this one girl ruin things for you, i know you think that shes the one, and that no one else could ever fill her shoes if you were to let her go, but reality is, if you move on now, in a few months she will slowly slip your mind and give you room to MOVE ON, time is the number one healer, and i know it might be painful, but this is HER decision....and you need to make yours....
2006-12-30 23:13:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just keep the memories of the time you spent together and lose her. Don't jump in the middle of their relationship - she will hate you, he will hate you, and you will hate yourself in the end because you will look weak. Just show your strength by saying, "It's over" and walking away. She will probably want you back, but don't do it.
2006-12-30 23:14:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK THAT YOU NEED TO LEAVE HER ALONG SHE HAS
A BOYFRIEND AND A CHILD. SO JUST MOVE ON, YOU RIGHT
TO SAY WHAT YOU DID, SHE HAS TO MAKE THE DECISION
TO STAY WITH HIM OR NOT. SO YOUR BEST SUGGESTION
IS TO FIND SOMEONE THAT WILL LOVE YOU AND ONLY
YOU. SHE HAS SOME ISSUES THAT SHE NEED TO WORK'
OUT.
2006-12-30 23:13:09 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is never good to date a taken woman.
2006-12-30 23:12:11 · answer #10 · answered by rikki105 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋