I am a single mother...I dont want to sound concieted or anything but prior to having my baby I had no trouble getting dates. Now that I have my daughter, I feel like every guy I meet and start talking to gets scared away whenever I even mention her. Am I now doomed to be without a man because I have a baby?
2006-12-30 15:08:54 · 18 answers · asked by D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As long as you keep yourself up and don't be a hochie guys will come around just be careful of the ones that are looking for a quick hit and run.You may even find someone that will be there for you in the long run.To many woman today want to be free and run the streets like a stray dog in heat.That's why so many guys are hard to catch.To much exposure to this kind of woman.
Keep your self respect and high morals you will do fine.
2006-12-30 15:17:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I know how you feel. Until my daughter got around 4, I could not find any decent guys. Her dad and I broke up when she was two. Most guys who are single or divorced and are non-custodial parents do not want to get involved with a woman who has a child because they do not want to play daddy. Not like they really have to, but the idea of it is just out there lingering in their minds every time they see the kid. Its tough because any guy I date seriously has to be genuinely good with children and treat my daughter well. I want to have another child so its important that I can feel like we can be a family. This is not prerequisite for dating, only if it stars to get serious. I am glad you asked that question because I ask myself the same thing.
2006-12-30 15:20:17 · answer #2 · answered by Elle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't doomed...figure out what you want in your life first. If you are separated/divorced and share custody then time without your wee one is your time and just do things you can't do when you have her. I don't think you need to say hey my name is and I have a child....but after a date or two most definitely you will have a feel if the person you are with should know about her. Keep her out of things until you meet quality people!
2006-12-30 15:12:44 · answer #3 · answered by Kazzz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it does not. When I was contemplating marriage, I had a choice between a single, attractive professional woman and a working girl with two kids. I freely chose the latter, and we raised those two kids together. Turned out pretty good - her son is an Army M.P. (one tour in Iraq so far) and her daughter's a biologist with National Institutes of Health. See, some of us guys love kids, too - I raised four with my first wife...
2006-12-30 15:14:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her rights remain the same as the current agreement - she can ask for the court to alter this but until then she is bound by the signed agreement By the way - it would be far less costly to allow any reasonable request rather then pay attorney fees. You are the custodial parent - you are the one allowed to make care choices in this case your second wife
2016-05-22 22:42:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not doomed, i have three older kids and it took a while but i found the man i want to be with. this is the time that you weed out the boys from the men. good luck and always put your daughter first.
2006-12-30 15:12:47 · answer #6 · answered by thepainter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. I got divorced after ten years of marraige and have three small children. That has never stopped me. I go on tons of dates and I'm finnally living the way I want to live. If they act weird because you have a child you didnt need them anyway.
2006-12-30 15:13:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom is a single mother and she has no problem with guys around me. Normally she goes clubbin meets a guy then they become friends then bf/gf then she might introduce them to me and my grandparents. I think my mom is proud of being a single mother and she has met guys who are ready to take care of me but some of them just turn out funny and make her mad and if they make my mom mad they make me mad. Only one had a ball kicker.
2006-12-30 15:13:32 · answer #8 · answered by hottierecy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if that were true more than half of america would be single... get to know them but tell them up front that you have a child or try meeting someone that has a child that would understand.
2006-12-30 15:15:17 · answer #9 · answered by punkins_wife121705 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you aren't doomed, they just aren't the right ones. Be a proud Momma. What this will do is get you the RIGHT guy.
2006-12-30 15:12:11 · answer #10 · answered by julesl68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋