I have been dating a really great guy for 2 months. At first he was calling a lot & we seemed to be really clicking~even had a brief talk about the future. But lately he has seemed very overwelmed with all that is going on in his life; kids, ex-wife, moving & work. I thought maybe it is just too much pressure to try to maintain a relationship right now. I thought maybe if I have him the option, let him know there was no pressure, it might help. Plus then I could be out dating, instead of being sad he is not giving me attention. What do you think??
2006-12-30 14:52:26 · 5 answers · asked by cflmn71 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah - it could be a good way to find out whats going on. Sometimes you have to let go a bit and then you will know if he is really interested he will let you know.
Otherwise - i just had a really good idea. Show him how much you like him by doing nice things for him or helping him with something. If he is overwhelmed by things he would really appreciate it. Thats what relationships are supposed to be about but it is so easy for us to forget - Its about what you can put into the relationship not what you can get out of it. And by offering to help or whatever, you will feel great for doing the right thing.
Good luck
(and remember that guys arent very good at communicating. sometimes we think it is one thing but it is actually something else. eg. my husband sometimes worries about finances - something that i dont even consider)
2006-12-30 15:04:13 · answer #1 · answered by Nic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the exact situation. Things were great at first and we talked about marriage and going on holiday. Since his daughter has found out about us she's made things very difficult and i havent seen him in a month(apart from at work). I'm hurt as i really like him and think about him all the time but i feel he's messing me about by not keeping in touch etc. I think we should move on and if they really care they will come back.
2006-12-30 14:57:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are saying that you need more attention and that your relationship is adding to his current stress. Talk with him about that!
Consider whether you care for him and want to be a supportive partner in your relationship... what you are suggesting would potentially push him away. Is that your intention?
Open and honest communication in a factual, observant and none judgemental way with him will help you form the right answer to your question.
2006-12-30 15:02:55 · answer #3 · answered by Just2BMe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him manage his own life, but be upfront with him and let him know how you are feeling and move on.
2006-12-30 14:58:12 · answer #4 · answered by Blue-rose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds good to me- why don't you discuss this with your boyfriend?
2006-12-30 14:57:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋