guy#1 was a compulsive gambler that would spend 5-10k a weekend at a casino.our 1st weekend away consisted of me sitting in a hotel room alone.the only time i saw him was when he ran out of money and wanted my c.c.guy#2 was a 40yr old alcoholic drug user that spent his whole pay check partying with his friends.my weekends with him was spent with his loser friends watching him get drunk.now guy #3 was the worst yet.he was a divorced dad in debt 30k with a controlling exwife who lived to make my life hell.to top it off he was a chronic lier/cheater who was always sneaking around on the internet and contacting old gfs. after i told him i would not pay off his debt things got sower fast.he told me i could not handle him being a divorced dad.what i could not handle was him after my money and him allowing his ex to treat me poorly and not even care.i feel now "i missed the boat" in my wanting to wait to get married(i'm 35 yrs),now all the good ones are married and will stay married.
2006-12-30 14:51:06 · 14 answers · asked by heatheranne7668 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I feel for you.
2006-12-30 14:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st, you are not the only one in search of "The Great One". I am 37 years old, had a great guy who later confided in me that he had sexual relations with a man before he met me. Honestly, I still think he was the sweetest, handsome, loviest man I could have ever met. I now understand the poem...A Reason, A Season and A Lifetime (read it sometime). 2nd, Put your checkbook away and keep it put away. You are not a bank for these loosers. Stop rushing to get in a relationship and rush to start a friendship. After that friendship happens everything else will fall into place. You will then know if this is meant to be a relationship. Everybody has problems and some more serrious than the other, but guy one needs help with gambler's annonymous and he has to realize that, prefferably sooner than later. Guy 2 needs serious help and seems as though he wanted a companion in that area, glad you were smart and left fast hopefully you gave him the number to a good source. Guy 3 needs to realize he has kids and he is their number one role model. So as for you, you can only fix and better yourself. Slow down and let it happen naturally. Also, change your surroundings of where you are meeting these people. Breathe and fresh air will come to you!
2006-12-30 23:00:30 · answer #2 · answered by notnew2U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever get married bec of your age and find any man you THINK may be good. If they're only after your money, when your money is all gone, you think they would stay with you? BEFORE starting a relationship at all with a man, observe him FIRST carefully. If he's just another dog, then leave him right away. I mean, just be friend with him. Nothing more. You deserve a much better man and yes.. they exist and not all of them are married already. Again, don't settle with a man only bec you're getting older and HAVE TO get married. It's not abt age, but abt being with the right person for the rest of your life.
2006-12-31 06:26:42 · answer #3 · answered by bogey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gave up finding a good man 17 years ago. I've been divorced for 17 years and haven't dated. I just do genealogy, write family stories and collect old family recipies. I can do what I want when I want, where I want, and how I want. I can spend what I want. I don't have to answer to anyone. I prefer being by myself, I rarely get lonely. I think I missed the boat too, but many of us do. I've not had it very easy either, I come from an abusive alcoholic home, but that's life. I've had very good times, and I've had very bad times. Right now it's pretty good, I have everything I need and want. With a dog you have to clean up after them and they smell (just like a man) get a virtual pet.
2006-12-30 23:13:45 · answer #4 · answered by JBWPLGCSE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The good ones are not all gone. You need to examine why you keep picking out people with these sort of problems. If you are so needy that you will settle for less than what you want while dating, your best recourse is to work on yourself so that you won't choose just anybody rather than enduring time alone.
Learn to make yourself happy first and meet your own needs first.
Then you will find that you are able to sort situations and people out before becoming involved with them.
2006-12-30 22:54:28 · answer #5 · answered by yeller 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell, get the dog. And maybe one day when you're out walking the dog, you'll meet Mr. Right. Or Mr. Right Now. Whatever floats your boat. In the meantime, you'll have a good friend who'll look forward to you coming home and won't care how you look and will always be up for sleeping in late.
2006-12-30 22:54:04 · answer #6 · answered by bettiegrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, get a dog. Better yet, a FEMALE dog. haha!
You might want to try doing some volunteer work in the community. There's some really good/decent men who give of their time to help others, and maybe you'll meet Mr. Right. It might not be soon, but someday . . . . .
2006-12-30 23:52:51 · answer #7 · answered by TPhi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where you are looking for guys, but don't shop there anymore. Just relax and be yourself you'll find someone. It's not true that all the good ones are taken, guys get than line too, aferall, YOU are still out there, and there is someone out ther just for you.
2006-12-31 17:18:51 · answer #8 · answered by al b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have started at the bottom and kept finding losers, I would keep trying the next one has to be better, or the odds are with you......
2006-12-30 22:53:48 · answer #9 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister is 45, happy, has never been married....she has a dog.
2006-12-30 22:54:08 · answer #10 · answered by Chrys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if a guy is good looking is hard to trust, if he's trustworthy then he's ugly, but if he's good looking and trustworthy then he's poor, if he isn't poor then he's married
2007-01-01 22:26:09 · answer #11 · answered by Evermore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋