I have had a few partners and some long term ones but I always just end up being used and then hurt. I just long to meet someone I can spend the rest of my life with and be happy with without being taken for a mug and used. Surely there must be someone nice out there who wouldn't abuse me???
2006-12-30 14:42:34 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its not easy trying to find Mr or Mrs Right!!
What you need to do is just sit and wait, not literally lol. My friends always tell me that true love is not something you can look for, it will find you when its your time.
Just enjoy your life and live for the moment, there is plenty of time for 'true love'. Some of us find it early in our lifetime, some of us find it late, and some of us never find it at all.
We all want the ideal relationship and I dont think any of us want to spend the rest of our lives on our own either, but you can be happy on your own :)
2006-12-31 03:16:19 · answer #1 · answered by sel2k00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with above. Look at what is attracting you to a person. Look at how much you are giving to a relationship early on. Do you give too much? Are you attracted to selfish people? Do you like the unattainable. I know I am attracted to guys similar to my father, cold emotionally. I have been told by a counsellor that's because they are the type I feel comfortable with. I now 'get out' of relationships early if the guy is not treating me right. That hurts but before I would have let things go on and on and then been dumped.
I would suggest some counselling or reading self help books (that really helped me). Improve your self confidence. Spend a few months now working on yourself. Work out what you want and don't want and are willing to put up with in the future.
Every time you meet someone you care for, you are taking a risk. But when it is the right person for you, it is worth it. Maybe hold back next time and take your time getting to know a person and don't give so much of yourself unless they are really right for you.
You will meet someone who really appreciates you for the person you are.
2006-12-30 16:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Examine the people your with, if they all fit in the same category, you have the answer. The only thing that might work is to look at each person you were with individually and see what attracted you to them in the first place. Then choose the opposite. This has worked for me a couple times.
2006-12-30 14:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by Steph C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course there are men who do not live to abuse women...and the other way round I hope!
But why do you think that love does not hurt?
Love is not about being mindlessly happy all the time, love is about living your life to the deepest and most meaningful extent that it can be lived.
Forget happiness...true love is sooooo much more than that!
It is living to the greatest extent possible...and then some!!!!!
2006-12-30 15:25:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask us how you can find your true love; that is an irony. You should ask yourself that question. Because the answer does not come from us, it lies deep inside your heart. Just follow your heart in everything you do; and of course your logic.
True love comes when you least expect it. Just be patient and you will soon find someone who cares for you and loves you.
I wish you all the best and Happy New Year
Asker K
2006-12-30 14:51:32 · answer #5 · answered by Mr Asker Knowmore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to sound like an advertisment but eharmony worked for me. I'm completely happy with the man I'm with and he's compatible in sooo many more ways than even what eharmony knew.
2006-12-30 14:47:54 · answer #6 · answered by tx_earthangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you find it when - like me- you've given up & least expect it.I've been friends with this girl for over a year & it hit me straight out of nowhere .I've fallen totally in love & now this adorable gorgeous sweet American girl is my gf.Don't go looking for it is all i can say.Let it come to you!
2006-12-30 14:55:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry a Filipina,,problem solved
2006-12-30 19:09:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to change your attitude from one of a "pansy" to, instead, a confident fun-loving person, even if relationships go sour. That's life - it's supposed to happen. You can only depend on yourself, not the other person.
2006-12-30 14:48:34 · answer #9 · answered by Larry H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to find true love; relax and let it find you.
The 'not be hurt anymore' thing is a fact of life; when you love people, you will get hurt sometimes...fact of life.
So...deal with it and move on.
In dealing with it, remember this; LOVE PEOPLE FOR AS LONG AS THEY LOVE YOU, AND NOT ONE DAMN MINUTE MORE!
2006-12-30 14:46:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋