My older sister can be VERY embarrassing because of this, in public (movie theatres, especially!) and even with a small group of friends. Otherwise, she's a good person but I know she puts people off with this. What can I do to let her know without hurting her feelings or making her too self-conscious to enjoy herself?
2006-12-30 14:36:05 · 13 answers · asked by canuk_kait 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My mother has asked me to speak to my sister because it has gotten so bad that others are talking to my mom about it. I don't want to 'crush her spirit', just find a polite way to let her know she is too loud in some situations....
2006-12-30 14:41:52 · update #1
The only way is to tell her straight up front as a friend. Start by telling her, "Look, I'm not trying to hurt your feelings but your laughter is just too loud sometimes. I'm sorry I don't want to hurt your feelings but I felt I just had to tell you because I see the looks you get sometimes when you are laughing. It sometimes puts people off. Please don't be angry with me I'm just trying to help you." There is no easy way to fix this. If it is so bad that someone has to step in and say something then the best way is to be upfront about it and don't beat around the bush.
2006-12-30 14:42:16 · answer #1 · answered by maniaajo 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just be thanking God that your sister finds a lot to amuse her in life instead of being depressed and sad all the time. She sounds like she'd be the life of the party! I'm afraid there's no easy way to tell her without possibly hurting her feelings, and really, is it THAT important? Her laughter is genuine and part of who she is.
However, if you think she'd want to know if her laughter embarrassed people like your mom, then why don't you try to catch her on video tape or run a short video from your digital camera or cell phone? Maybe if she heard it on tape, she'd think "Wow, I didn't realize I was so loud!" You could jokingly say "Yeah, there's sis! You can tell by her big laughter!"
2006-12-30 16:15:42 · answer #2 · answered by TPhi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Better you tell her than a stranger. Your mother should have had this talk with her a while ago,she was the best source. Talk to your sister at home, preferably with your mom. She honestly may not know that it is out of hand. She may need to seek help, you may also choose to video tape or record her to let her have a first hand look. This is a sad matter not a very laughable one at all. There are alot of "sufferes" from this disease, because that is what it is. You may also choose to check with a Psychologist, Doctor or counselor to pinpoint the exact name of this and possible treatment for this. Best of Luck to you and your sister.
2006-12-30 15:05:59 · answer #3 · answered by notnew2U 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You really can't. The most polite way is to not say anything. Her laugh, no matter how embarrassing to you is part of who she is. Let her be. Live and let live.
2006-12-30 14:40:02 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. US of A, Baby! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her laugh. It is contagious and there is far too little laughter in the world. If it really bothers you, try going to places where it doesn't matter - like comedy clubs.
2006-12-30 14:39:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no polite way to tell a good person that likes to laugh at funny movies that you don't like it so she needs to stop.
2006-12-30 14:40:28 · answer #6 · answered by newyorktilson 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What is the equation for crushing someone's spirit for your own convenience?
2006-12-30 14:39:00 · answer #7 · answered by bdenton2k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-28 18:54:06 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this:
"Sis, in social situations, funny stuff should be appreciated, but in a ladylike way. I think you're putting your all into your laugh - tell you what, let's try a more ladylike giggle, okay? Okay."
2006-12-30 14:39:20 · answer #9 · answered by Stuart 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just say "hey use your inside voice" in a joking way
2006-12-30 14:38:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋