In her home she only has pictures of her blood relatives. When pictures are being taken she excludes everyone but her children and her grandchildren. What do you think. This has been going on for as long as her first child was married about 35 years ago. Her house is filled with pictures of blood relatives but none of her inlaws what do you think? I know what I think.
2006-12-30 14:35:41 · 12 answers · asked by tinker bell 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
take pix of only the inlaws and distribute them yourself
2006-12-30 14:39:12 · answer #1 · answered by hiding1959 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I can't really blame her. With the divorce rate the way it is these days, I'm sure she's thinking that if a divorce occurs, then she'd feel like she'd have to take down that picture because "Mary" is no longer in the family. I'm sure she doesn't dislike her daughters-in-law or sons-in-law, it's just that if professional photos are taken, I know they are expensive. Her children & grandchildren will always be her children & grandchildren. However, anything might happen with an in-law . . . . . . not just a divorce, but what if there's a death and her son/daughter remarries? Then there would be "Mary" in the family photo that the new wife would have to look at on the wall every time she was over. (Remember, death or divorce happens at EVERY age, even to older couples.)
My husband's family only had their photo taken once before his mom died, and it was only parents and children. No in-laws. But I wasn't offended because his family is very close and I know they really cherish that professional photo. However, maybe you could suggest that the next time the entire family is together that maybe a friend could step in with a digital camera and take photos of ALL the family together, plus maybe one of just the in-laws. Buy a couple of nice frames for the photos and present it to your mother-in-law for her birthday or some other occasion.
2006-12-30 16:07:02 · answer #2 · answered by TPhi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would ask why your husband allows this mistreatment to continuously occur. He should make a point to try and force your inclusion. My mother hates the man in my life, and while she may try to exclude him, I don't let her. If I go, he's coming too. He's in all the photos, because he's part of my life, and my family. Take a family portrait with just the three of you, and make sure that it's displayed in your home. Unless your husband is willing to start standing up from his mother, you may need to grow some balls and do it yourself.
2016-03-29 01:29:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a B-T-H!!!!. I would make sure that I had pictures of everyone in my house but her. Then let her say something.
I read what the others wrote and I still say shes a B-T-H. She's jealous that her kids have found others to make their life complete and she's not the only one. She wants to be the center of her kids. This is her way to hurt her sons/daughters marriage and she knows if they feel hurt or uncomfortably around her and if they say anything her sons/daughter will defend her and she thinks this gives her control. Tell her to kiss your A DOUBLE S, and tell your spouse if he/she doesn't want to deal with it then they need to understand that your not going to put up with this, that your a part of this family and you expect them to get that straight with her or else she will not be aloud to see the grand-kids or them again, unless she changes her ways. Your spouse should step up and set her straight. And if they don't want to fix the problem then sooner or later there will be problems with your marriage. They have to let her know she does not control their lives.
2006-12-30 18:17:13 · answer #4 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my mother in law was like this too, in fact its not uncommon, it's just the mother in laws selfish way to make a point that that is her family and that it will always be like that no matter what, there's no point in doing anything to stop it though, in fact its very common for them to even do this at the weddings, they will make it all about them and even throw the bride herself out of the picture, just do the same to her to make your point that your wife/husband has a family with you and put it in her face back its only fair :) keep it clean though, no pullin hair
2007-01-01 08:59:51 · answer #5 · answered by Summer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has decided that only her blood relatives are important to her. Is she controlling and manipulative in other ways? Does she make her kids feel guilty if they don't do what she wants? I would guess she is just a nasty miserable woman who doesn't care about anyone but herself.
2006-12-30 14:41:02 · answer #6 · answered by Kathy M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she doesnt like them and just wants everything to be about her real family and doesnt consider the inlaws family which is kinda messed up
2006-12-30 14:39:13 · answer #7 · answered by k_st0ddard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she doesnt know that it bothers you.You should just give her some pictures and the next time you go over there ask her where it is,maybe she will get the hint.
2006-12-30 14:39:58 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be a offended! I would take a family picture every three months and give her one.
2006-12-30 14:42:34 · answer #9 · answered by NICOLE D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that she expects a nasty divorce and does not want to have any holes in her nice pictures (from someone getting scissor happy....)
2006-12-30 14:40:32 · answer #10 · answered by ssc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋