2006-12-30 14:26:32 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
he is also home schooled so has heard nothing about girls he doesnt go on the computer either, he just climbs trees and plays sports.
2006-12-30 14:34:57 · update #1
Thank you for introducing another socially stunted adolecent to the world. As so often happens with home schooled kids, they become socially ackward and begin to have normal couriousities at later years. He should have been playing doctor when he was much younger to answer those questions.
2006-12-30 16:22:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have 5 kids ranging in ages between 16 to 23 and I still need to have talks with them at times. Three of them being boys. You should have really been talking to him by now about sex, hormones, and girls. We have also given our sons the book, What's happening to my body, a book for boys". What he hasn't learn from you he will learn from someone else ,if he hasn't already, which may not be a good thing. Believe me home-schooled or not kids know a whole lot more than you could ever imagine today. Talk to them not once, but often even if they think they know it all, it is the parents responsibility. Also, sometimes when the hormones kick in the kids lose their brains. Expect it. If you have a spouse you both need to work together with him. My husband is in Iraq and has been gone since Sept. 2005. Dealing with my 3rd son alone, who is now 17 has been quite a challenge. Also, our 2 older boys are in college and are miles away from him. Good luck!
2007-01-01 17:54:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him its best he knows now then instead of in high school isn't it an i have a 13 year old daughter and she started to wounder what the male body looked like so i told her and now it makes things alot easier and when ever she asks me something else it makes it alot easier to tell her!! so just tell him because it is time when they need to start knowing about the female body and maybe even some more about the male if He doesn't know everything about himself. Even go google it
2006-12-31 13:59:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time to give him a biology lesson and answer any question he has. Tell him what you think is best to know at this time. At his age he should know about sex and safe sex, and if you are people who feel that it is not appropiate until marriage you should tell him that as well. This is the age that he will be changing drastically and he will see his girl peers blossom and he needs to understand what is going on and why he is attracted to the girls. God made us all to ponder the opposite sex.
2007-01-01 10:12:43 · answer #4 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah homeschoolers!!! I'm one of you!
Visit Mike Pearl's website (see below) which gives great ideas about such topics as dealing with curiosity about the opposite sex. It can't be ignored. His desires and curiosity are normal. Be glad he's curious! You need to be up front and honest with him, without being embarrassed. Pray for opportunities. Answer his questions matter-of-factly and always explain to him that the female body is designed by God to do what it was supposed to do. Some things, like reproduction, are to be within the context of marriage. He is also going through changes, so you'll want to talk to him about that. Make it more of an awe-inspiring talk. "Isn't it amazing the way we were designed to continue the human race? God has given us the gift of sex to be enjoyed within the context of marriage. He has someone just for you, and if you treat her right and are patient with her and wait until you are married, you will be blessed in your marriage and will have no regrets." What a great opportunity you have to teach some great truths to your son!
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By the way, I hope you are introducing your son to social situations where there is a mixed group. Certainly don't hide him away. That will only heighten his curiosity and make him sneak around in order to discover things on his own. Not talking about it is very dangerous. I like to call exposure like this "controlled exposure." You are in control of what, how and when he is exposed to things. For example, I have no trouble teaching my kids about gun safety. At the appropriate age, my husband will even teach them how to load a gun, shoot at a target, and safely own one. BUT, I would never leave a loaded gun on my kitchen table and just say, "Oh well, they're gonna learn about it sooner or later. Might as well let them discover it on their own." Sheltering is not a bad word when applied to this, and it's not a bad word when applying it to curiosity about the opposite sex. You are protecting them while informing them. You're a good parent and I know you'll do what's best for your child if you follow your instincts!
2006-12-30 22:53:40 · answer #5 · answered by Kim A 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
better have the birds and the bees talk with him. Should have done that a few years ago anyways, but since he's starting to get interested in girls now is a great time.
2007-01-03 18:11:01 · answer #6 · answered by Bill S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth don't hide nothing from him! heck I knew all about sex and the guys body when I was 8 years old! I asked my mom she told me! lol be honest with him cause if you don't be he'll go looking for the answers in the wrong places
2007-01-01 03:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have already socialized him a long time ago and by 13, he should already know about alot of these things. You need to sit that child down and explain the birds and the bees once and for all.
2006-12-31 08:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by KathyS 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first of all does he have friends i heard that people that goes to public school learn more about not just sex ed but social skills that he needs in life if he have friends in the nabourhood then thats ok but my suggestion to you is get some sex ed movies that will teach him about sex,puberty and other health related topic and also one more thing i think public school is more fun anyways why dont you put him in one i had fun at school i think he can too.
2007-01-01 13:34:44 · answer #9 · answered by hockey fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You SHOULD have been talking to him long before hormones kicked in and he started asking questions.
2006-12-31 00:41:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋