my 21 month year old son fights me on going to bed, and the only way i can get him to sleep is if i put him in his bed and shut the door, he'll run to the door cry for a little while and go back to his bed and fall asleep, i hate doing this, but thats the only way to get him to sleep, other wise he would be up all night long, my boyfriend works 3rd shift and i work second shift so if i let him stay awake til hes just to tired to stand i wouldnt get any sleep and i wouldnt be able to do anything the next day, once hes fallen asleep i do open the door, but do you think that im being a horrible mother for doing that?
2006-12-30 14:10:06 · 12 answers · asked by <3 mykiddos,mylife <3 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I did the same thing when my son was 2. He finally got the picture andlearned to go to bed when it was "lights out". If doing it makes mw a bad mother, then thats thier opinion. Not mine.
2006-12-30 14:59:27 · answer #1 · answered by Lucky 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No your not a bad mother. Your doctor would suggest doing the same thing. He needs to learn how to settle himself and got to bed when he is told. If he doesnt he is going have issues when school begins for him. At his age he should be in bed by 8pm but you know your child best and that might be too early or late but 10 pm is pushing it. He may be over tired, he may also be going through separation anxiety since it rears its ugly head at different ages. But no your a good mom. He will get the hint that its bedtime. If he responds to reason tell him you will keep his door open if he stays in bed and goes to sleep, if he doesnt close the door. After a week or so you may have no problem at all.
2006-12-31 04:44:10 · answer #2 · answered by Kujo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i don't think you are a bad mom, how long does he cry? if it is more then 30 minutes i do not agree but still i don't think you are a bad mom, I am so careful about bedtime with my kids because when i was a child (youngest of 5) i had to go to bed 1st and i was scared not that i was being bad just scared to be alone i covered myself with stuffed animals and cryed myself to sleep , i am 38 yrs old and remember the fear, maybe you could lay with your child and read a story then shut door i dont know but you are not a bad mother ,
2006-12-30 16:10:06 · answer #3 · answered by melissa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not being a bad mum.
Have you tried reading him a little story? it might help both of you.
I do not like the idea of parents having to lay down just because its the child's bed time, you then create a new problem for yourself
Good luck you will get there
2006-12-30 15:38:31 · answer #4 · answered by deb m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not a bad mother. My neighbor had a solution that I thought was pretty neat. They cut off about the top 2 feet of door to her son's room that way when she shut her child in the room she could still hear him and she felt the she was not shutting him in fully.
2006-12-30 16:29:40 · answer #5 · answered by w2kaad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't bad, but there are other things you can do so your kid won't percieve it as bad. First, no food or sugar a few hours before bed. Second, go into their room and read to them for a hour or until they fall asleep!
2006-12-31 11:19:37 · answer #6 · answered by Emily O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No shuting the door on your son's room is not a bad thing as long as you DO not lock him in it don't be soo hard on your self your not hurting him in anyway your makeing it a faster way for him to sleep don't worrie i don't think it's wrong
2006-12-30 14:54:15 · answer #7 · answered by Havana 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no you arent a bad mother, your just having a hard time getting your child to go to sleep. have a long discussion with your child tell him the importance of sleep. tell him everyone needs their sleep if people dont get their sleep they could get grumpy. and make him feel safe in his new bed get him a stuffed animal or an action figure he likes or one of favorite toys or get him a nice nightlight.
2006-12-30 15:10:20 · answer #8 · answered by mamas_grandmasboy06 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't let him cry for longer than maybe 15 minutes at that age. It's the same as someone putting their baby in a crib and letting him/her cry it out. It doesn't make you a bad mother, don't worry.
2006-12-30 15:20:08 · answer #9 · answered by dolly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
at 21mths it is a tough battle to get him to do anything. Another option maybe to lie in his room with him with the lights off. So he knows it is bedtime but also has his mom with him. That way he may fall asleep more quickly and you get to spend some additional time with him.
2006-12-30 15:24:58 · answer #10 · answered by jcan single mom 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋