i am severely depressed and feel suicidal. can someone please help. can you give me a purpose for living?

Question

hi, i dont see a purpose for life. i dont know why im here and what and why i am doing things for. if there is a god, then should i not worship him? and will i get punished for not doing so and sent to hell. i am really scared, i need help.

brenda- thank you for such kind advice.

tina- that is exactly my point. i see too much suffering in the world and i am helpless to stop it. i want to help people eg in iraq or wherever... but i cant. i cant make other 'evil' people stop from hurting others. so i feel low and sad.

thanks guys for all the support. i really appreciate it.

kinderegg- lol, yes i would marry you too :)

Answer 1

hi im sam and i thini i know what your going through i don't know how you feel, but kinda gotta a hint, i was raped when younger and now have severe depression also, and it is SO hard sometimes but you just have to think of your family and friends, that should stop you, because if you committed suicide right now, wouldn't it be hard on your family and friends? if you ever want to talk to someone please email me at [e-mail] or [e-mail] whatever will work! good luck buddy!

Answer 2

yep, I understand you...I'm in the same situation...
But i guess bcos i have it for more than 3 years...i had some time to think about it...
First, how long you've been depressed for ? Please just ask for help before doing anything bad...and don't leave it like this thinking "oh nevermind, nobody can help me anyway..." bcos this will make it even worse. I thought like that some years ago....and how am I now ??? .....with some serious mental breakdowns...something I never thought I'll have...but here I am....
And then you'd be a very selfish person by killing yourself, you'll hurt so many people....and you know it !!! but you just let that pain to take over you, your thoughts...and you just can't do this !
You have control over your own feeling, thought....I know it sounds so hard....but you can do this, you just don't try it enough bcos you think it's useless anyway...
And aren't there some things that you'd miss if you'd go away ??
Your best friend(s), who can always make you feel better, your family, chocolate, music !!!!!!!! You won't get this things on the other side....
Do you have any hobbies ? any heroes related to something you love to do ???
To be honest...my hero changed a bit my opinion about suicide.
I LOVE MUSIC, i play guitar and my hero is Jason Becker....he would've been the world's BEST guitarist ever if life wouldn't be so ironic with him.... He played guitar till he was 20 years old and then he was diagnosed with ALS, which is a diseas that paralyses your entire body... Since then he stopped playing guitar....bcos he just wasn't albe to do it...and now he is completely paralyzed, he can't even talk bcos you need muscles for that too....but all this time he composed a lot of music and he still has a lot of music in his head.
Now...I was thinking, this man had been through so much in his life....and he still has a very hard life, but he didn't give up 1 minute !!! Doctors even said that he'll die.....obviously he doesn't want to leave soon.
and us, me, you......we are phisicaly able to do everything, if we need psychological help we can get it, we just have sooo much....and then yet we just wanna destroy everything...
why?? I don't know why or how we get there...
There are people who are worse then us, who actually are helpless, hopeless......but WHY THE HELL CAN'T WE JUST ENJOY LIFE ????

Are you looking for happiness and can't find the magical formula?? and you never will....it doesn't exist...
Thinking too much about useless stuff....but you just can't stop your thoughts ??

And I wonder...Am I lost in a circle that can't be broken ?? I don't know...but DAMMIT will I ever find out ???

Oh probably everything I wrote here is a bit confusing...sorry, but It's 5 am and it's my second week of sleepless nights...I guess I'm a bit tired....

Do you see my point ?? Life is HARD, but you can't be the weak one...you just can't give up without fighting...

Take care kid !
see ya later...

Answer 3

life is worth living because u want too live if u dont then yes you will feel sudical and in need of help...

me ive been in a wheel chair for many years now due too a gentic illness i had since i was born and many times i do feel like life isnt worth living but then i wake up the next day and start again thats all u can doo.whatever problems worries or fears u have in ur life there is one thing u have too realize the decision comes back down too you do u want too live or die it is that simple.

I dont know if there is or isnt a god or what my purpose is here on earth but what i do know is that all life includeing urs is precious even if u dont beleive that at the moment..

what u have too think about before u do this is will my family miss me ,'will my friends miss me.what will u yourself miss if ur not around too see it...

I'm not saying life will get any easyier for you because it might not that is the beauty of living you never truly know in ur heart what will happen next you have too take the good and the bad stuff together thats just how life works..god or no god..

For some people regilion gets them through the bad times and moments in their lifes and for others it doesnt..what i can tell you is this that the choices u make over the next few hours days months or years these need too be choices from ur own mind your own heart even with a illness you can carryon in life you just not got too give up because if you do then in the end you only let yourself down don't you.

Life might not be great at the moment but surely there was some point in ur life when u was truly happy remember it treasure it and hold on too that hope when ur down cos in the end thats all u've got friends come and go,'family memebers will eventually pass away but just cos some people are no-longer around it doesn't mean they would want you too cut ur life short does it.I hope u reconsider ur thoughts for the moment because it would be such a waste too end ur life now when there is so much out in the world for u too see good and bad but stuff none the same.stay well whoever u r and dont let the world around you get too you...happy xmas and a happy new year

Answer 4

Hi there
I've been reading lots of the previous comments and most answers just seem that you can snap out of it! There is a purpose in life, you just need to find yours. You sound a very caring person, seeing what some people have to live through and what difficulties they face, I think it should make us realise how good we've got it. However, when you feel helpless at the situation - it isn't going to do any good if you kill yourself.
My advice, if you're serious about attempting suicide is to call for help, either a doctor or a member of your family. Treatment is available, and when you start to feel better, think of ways you can help other people. Perhaps you could start helping out at a charity job - go into nursing - joining the samaritans. It won't be an overnight cure, but you can decide, new year and a more positive start................ good luck

Answer 5

You ask what reason you have for living I can tell you this,you gave a girl (kinderegguk) a chance to think about a god she didn't believe in and actually for her to understand that god is patient and caring, You gave I can not even tell you how many people a chance to forget about there troubles and be there for you. these and many more reasons are why you are needed here. I know that we live in a messed up world that is confusing but if we all worked together like right here and know we can make a difference, So don't ignore your pain but together lets do something about it. The others have said for you to call 911 and talk to a counselor that is good I have a great one that I talk to also. Even one voice can be heard and start a chain reaction so lets start it.The person named wolemi_pine_writer said all great things. Most importantly you are here cause the world needs you here.
Now to answer the thing on suicide, I can not be more sincere in this when a person commits suicide he or she is commiting thee most selfish act of there entire life, because there is always someone that will blame themselves for it. SO LETS BAND TOGETHER - and become stronger.you can also e-mail me [e-mail] or same name @gmail.com

Answer 6

i have the same feelings you have especially the confusion about god heaven and hell and my empty life. what makes me feel better about the whole thing is that i've realized that we are living in hell. this earth is hell. i know that it doesn't sound good, but the real kicker is that everybody is blind to it, except people like us. I think that the reason that we feel the way we do is beacuse we can see the misery that exists in this world and we can feel the pain of others. We don't just blow it off and move on we connect with reality on a deeper level.
So your purpose in life should be to educate others about your feelings and more importantly why you have those feelings. I highly suggest you buy a notebook and write down your ideas and feelings. Also listen to Tupac and realize the hopelessness of his words. You are not alone, there are many more like us.

Answer 7

You do need to get help beyond what an online bulletin board can give. Have someone take you to the hospital, call 911 or call a mental health hotline-if you're in the US, try 1-800-suicide.

Treatment of severe depression needs a balance of medication, therapy (counselling) and lifestyle changes; it can't just be thought away or prayed away.

You do have a purpose in living-you were put on earth for a reason. It sometimes takes time to figure out what that purpose is, though. If you were to hurt yourself, your family would be devastated and your friends would be at a total loss.

That may be hard to believe now, but I've seen family members and friends grieving the loss of a loved one's suicide-they almost all say they would have done anything had the person just let them know how bad they were hurting.

Until you can get to the doctor (please go to your emergency room or call 911??), check out some websites below. Many of them have phone numbers of help lines you can call, while others are just there to help you stay in one piece until you can get help from a doctor or mental health team.

Answer 8

I'm a Buddhist and I believe all life is very precious from bacteria to people. Your life is precious because you are a Buddha. You have in you all the knowledge of the universe, you just can't access it. That's what enlightenment is.

If you are feeling this way I will guess you are living in the lowest world, the state of hell. It feeds itself and is very difficult to break, sadly death will not break it either, you could feel this way in the next life if you don't change it now. So please, help yourself now so that you can be happy for many lifetimes.

The scary thing about hell is that when you are there you can't see the way out, but you've done the first thing, you've asked for help. Life is the biggest mystery in the universe, what is life? No one can tell you. No one who is not enlightened. But I can tell you it is precious. Your life is more valuable then the wealth of the world combined. I don't know you and I cherish you more then all the contents of my house.

So please, ask someone close to you that you trust to stay with you tonight until you can seek out more permanent help. If you haven't gone to a doctor, go asap. You would if your leg was broken wouldn't you? Well your spirit is feeling broken and its of more importance then your leg.

Trust in others of clear mind when you can not trust your own thoughts.

It is difficult to stop the cycle of hell, but it is not impossible. The Buddha tells us "a poisoned mind sees a poisoned world". Your mind if full of poison so I know it is difficult for you to see the good things around you and in you, but as soon as you heal that poison, you'll see a beautiful world and you'll see it in yourself.

Answer 9

I suffer from depression as well...so I know what you're going through. It does lift eventually.
You could call a hotline or a close friend or family member.
Your purpose for living is that you're here, alive. Pease do not act on your suicidal feelings in any way. If you can try and put them out of your mind. Try to remember a happier time and get some sleep. Sleeping always helps when I'm depressed.
Good luck and keep writing and asking for help...eventually you will feel better. I promise.

Answer 10

Dear Shane, feeling depressed is sooo awful i often get depressed but fortunately i have two wonderful animals that cheers me up, My dogs can sense when i am down and specially the Alsatian will come up to me and start nibbling my knee or toe and just play silly fools, it cheers me up within seconds.
Please get a dog, they love you all the time and just need you to love them back.
The whole world is full of problems there is nothing you can do about it. I also worry about others specially when i hear people crying and screaming while their hubby's taken out their drunken anger out on them, that stresses me to no end.
But if you want to do something to help and make you feel better offer your services for a couple of hours a week to an old age home or dog kennels, it will make you feel like you have done something useful. Even just helping out at a youth club or something.
Please don't kill yourself there is always someone out therewho feels the same as you do and please phone Samaritan's they will help you get over it everytime you feel like that.
I will be thinking of you and please take care of yourself.:)) Have a Happy New Year, try , ok.:))

Answer 11

Google search: suicide help line

http://www.nami.org/Content/ContentGroups/Helpline1/Suicide_-_Learn_more,_learn_to_help.htm

NAMI: National Alliance on Mental Illness. This page lists signs of suicide risk and further resources including phone numbers which say "this is not a crisis line."

Google search: suicide crisis line

http://suicidehotlines.com/ "For Suicide Prevention & Emotional Crisis. When You Feel You Can't Go On. . ."

1-800-SUICIDE

1-800-273-TALK

1-800-779-4TTY (4889) TTY device for the deaf.

This page also lists "Hotlines in Your State" (presumably there's at least one in every state, but I'm not going to sit here and make sure all 50 states have entries). :-(

There used to be a website called www.solos.org, and a corresponding support group called SOLOS (Survivors of Loved Ones' Suicides). It's not coming up tonight, which may mean anything and nothing.

There also used to be a site called 1000deaths.org ("a suicide dies once; those left behind die a thousand deaths trying to figure out why"). This was started by a member of the SOLOS support group.

A Google search for "suicide survivors" also brings up quite a few sites. I first encountered the term "suicide survivor" in 1990 when I was trying to make some emotional sense of a chance acquaintance's revelation that he once attempted suicide and had been "clinically dead for several minutes." Emergency personnel don't exactly bust their butts to save someone who has tried to kill him/herself (this may have changed with mental-health parity laws, but certainly in 1989 this was true), and so that statement made an impresison on me. Richard was still a suicide attempter and not a suicide survivor, however.