I'm due with my 2nd child in July and I'm wondering what are people's take on this issue. I see no problem in having a small gathering (no big party with the usual big gifts that usually come with the first one), but just a nice one to celebrate the birth of a new life. A lot of people around me say that I should expect nothing since I've already have had a child. What do you think?
2006-12-30 13:48:11 · 28 answers · asked by JH 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I think that is a HUGE yes to that question. Especially if it has been awhile seince you had the last child (or a different sex). My oldest was 4 1/2 when we had aour second and we had NONE of our original stuff. I was very hurt by the fact no one seemed to care about our new baby enough to have us a shower. Every baby is special, even if it is only to his parents and they all deserve to be noticed.
2006-12-30 14:22:05 · answer #1 · answered by Lucky 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I used to work at a big baby retailer that encouraged people to have numerous showers because they always need things for baby and registering was the best bet. I also worked with the baby registry, and found that people who get invites to 2nd, 3rd, 4th...showers get ticked off and feel that it is rude. If it has been 5 years or less since your first child, then you probably should not have a shower. If it has been over 5 years, its a great way to get the new, big sister/brother involved in baby planning. If you already have the big items, which, it sounds like you do, there is really not need to have a shower.
Celebrating the birth of a new life is a great idea. Why not wait until after the baby is born and have a "Homecoming" or "Welcoming" party to introduce family and friends to the new addition. If you truly want to celebrate the new life, and you are not looking for material handouts, then, by all means celebrate it once you have the baby (give it a month or so after the birth). People want to see the baby, hold him/her, why not give them the opportunity to do so? It could make things easier than having all sorts of people wanting to "just drop in for a second". Send out a birth announcement/welcoming invite shortly after the baby's birth to announce to those you love what your intent is.
2006-12-30 21:57:25 · answer #2 · answered by Lilly Jones-Fair 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My mother and I differ on this, so maybe it is a new thing, but I definitely think each baby deserves his/her own party!
What is wrong with a bunch of friends coming together to support a new life coming into this world? I can think of nothing better.
Since my goddaughter just had two baby girls in a row, I can see where clothes and the bigger items may not be needed, but things like diapers, baby wash and other things will.
It is the proverbial "thought that counts" and if someone has a problem with it, they do not have to come, right?
Go ahead-let someone else plan it, though.
Good luck with the baby!
2006-12-30 21:54:32 · answer #3 · answered by njspanteach 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I really think a 2nd shower might be considered tacky, but it also depends on the age of your first child. I am pg with my 2nd child now and I have a 2yr old- so I do not expect nor do I want a shower. I had one with my daughter and I really do not expect peple to be obligated into buying me gifts. If someone wants to give me something for the baby, that is up to them. I also do not expect my mom to pay for another shower. I had a big shower in a restuarant, and to tell you the truth I have everything- some things are still in the boxes. Good luck to you.....
2006-12-30 22:30:37 · answer #4 · answered by michelle s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say it's worthy of having a celebration. I understand what you are saying, some people do think you should have another baby shower and others do not. It depends on how they grew up/how they were raised. Especially if it is a different sex, I would say yes. Let those who want to attend, attend. Afterall, why wouldn't anyone want to bring a gift for a newborn baby? Go for it!
2006-12-30 21:54:31 · answer #5 · answered by Venus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you want to have a party for yourself to celebrate, that's great! However, I think any time you have a party for yourself and you expect any kind of gift, that is rude. On your invitation, make it clear that no gifts are expected.
However, if you have family and friends that want to throw a shower for you (which is how it's supposed to work) and they WANT to give you gifts, I don't see anything wrong with that whether it's your 2nd child or you 20th...
2006-12-30 21:57:39 · answer #6 · answered by Tiff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not unless it has been a number of years between births. If you would like a small party to celebrate the upcoming birth of a new life than I say do it. On your invitations you can always say "no gifts please". Of course some people will still bring small gifts. Congratulations on your upcoming arrival!
2006-12-30 21:54:43 · answer #7 · answered by GPHS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's up to the person having the baby. If she wants another one, then she should be able to...nothing wrong with having a baby shower for every baby you have...I think it's nice to want to celebrate the birth of your baby.
2006-12-30 21:52:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have a baby shower to celebrate the coming of a new baby and it doesn't matter if it's the first one or last one.
2006-12-30 22:02:11 · answer #9 · answered by judy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OF COURSE!!!!!! a new baby is a great reason to celebrate. depending on the space between this one and the last one, you may want to give a heads up to key people to spread the word or to share that you don't need another this but could really use a lot of that....congrats!!!
2006-12-30 21:54:31 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋