I feel like we are soulmates.
2006-12-30 13:43:37 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel like we are soulmates. I haven't done anything yet, but he has expressed interest in me. I feel like it is unfair that his wife has had such a wonderful life with him and my life has been awful up to now.
2006-12-30 13:47:39 · update #1
Well, look at Robin William's wife. She was the nanny when he was married to someone else. He divorced his first wife to marry her and they have been married for many years. The nanny probably thought why should Robin William's first wife have such a great life? Why can't she have a great life with Robin Williams? It does not look like she has suffered from it.
2006-12-30 14:05:31 · update #2
If this gent thinks so little of a vow that he would break it with you. Your future soulmate will one day view you too as the mundane, every day old ball and chain too. You take from someone else for your benefit, but eventually karma has a way of making these things right. Leave the married man alone and go find an original for yourself, better for you and better for that guy's wife who does not deserve for someone like you to justify to themselves the destruction of her marriage.
2006-12-30 15:19:48 · answer #1 · answered by Last of four brothers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's morally wrong, in my view, for someone who is married & has committed to their spouse to violate that commitment by having an affair. It's also morally wrong for someone who knows about their commitment, to engage in an affair with one of them. You know what situation they are in, and would be helping one of them break their vows.
On a separate note, married or not, I don't think it's a good idea to get involved with a man who's already in a relationship. It won't end up well for either of you. If his current relationship isn't working, he should end it first before moving on. Getting in the middle of a couple in a rocky relationship is just more trouble than it's worth and will likely ruin your chances for a future with that man.
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It is not his wife's fault that your life has been "awful" so I don't see how you can justify it this way. You aren't automatically owed the same happiness that she had & I'm sorry that you are so jealous of her.
That doesn't mean you can't be happy. Despite your belief that you and this man are "soulmates", the truth is there are many more men out there that could make you happy. Maybe you haven't found the right one yet, but don't sell yourself short and think that this married guy is your only chance. If his moral character is this weak, I'm afraid you wouldn't be happy for that long.
But if I'm wrong and this is your one "true" love he should be willing to wait for you until he is free. As I said before, if you get involved with him while his relationship is deteriorating, it will be much worse. His wife could have a lot more leverage & make him a lot more miserable during a divorce, if she knew he was cheating on her.
2006-12-30 13:49:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong to have an affair with a married man. Soulmate or not he will never leave his wife for you. He will have you believing it, but it will never happen. He has the best of both worlds, why would he change? You are wasting your time. The urge is strong I know, but find a way to end it before it gets blown out of proportion. You maybe causing more pain than you could possibly know and it may even get deadly. If I found out my husband was cheating...Lord help the bit_ _ he was with.
2006-12-30 13:51:45 · answer #3 · answered by maniaajo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I could probably use my imagination and come up with a set of circumstances where you could rationalize that it was not wrong. However, the odds of that being the case is worse than winning the lottery.
My nephew cheated on his wife and his son found out about it. The nephew lied to his son and then later left his wife and family for the home breaker. Now, his son will not even speak to him. You would not want to be a home breaker would you? This gal not only broke up the nephew's marriage, but helped ruin the relationship between the man and his son.
She is not completely to blame, I believe he would have done the same thing with any woman that had come along. But in that case, would you want to be the "just any woman" that came along? It is a lose/lose situation, sister.
2006-12-30 13:52:25 · answer #4 · answered by plezurgui 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask this question, then you already know it is wrong. Whose approval are you seeking; others that do and have done what you are doing. Get real, if you were soul mates, wouldn't you be the one married to him instead of his wife. To have an affair with another person's mate amounts to stealing because you are taking something that doesn't belong to you. People usually can sympathize when someone steals to feed their hungry family, but an adulterer is always disliked and looked down upon. Find your true soul mate with someone who is not already taken. Get rid of your insecurity and step out on self-confidence and self-respect. Deal with the reality of this situation and leave the fantasy world behind. You are only fooling yourself. What does your parents think of this new "soul mate" or have you told them. Stop the madness before it gets any uglier. Save your dignity.
2006-12-30 14:15:59 · answer #5 · answered by swanred52 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALWAYS. You know that empty gut feeling you get when you think about him being with his wife? She feels alot worse than you do. It is wrong because if you were HIS soulmate he would be with you and not married. Most men who have affairs never plan on leaving their wives. Most men who do leave their wives only do so because she was smart enough to throw his lying butt to the curb and he goes to the other woman because there is no where else to go.
2006-12-30 13:50:02 · answer #6 · answered by tarahump 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think it is wrong. I think people who have an affair with married people don't respect the sanctity of marriage. I know you said that you feel like you 're soul mates but does he feel that way? If he did he would be a man and tell his wife that he wants a divorce and he'd be with you. My advice is to just leave him alone!
2006-12-30 13:55:43 · answer #7 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all our lives we will see things and want things that we do not need.Apparently there is some doubt or you would not be asking that question.It is wrong to fool with any person who is already taken. There's the thng about wanting what everyone else has-get your own life and leave well enough alone.It is mostly the desire for the forbidden..doing the thing -if it feels good do it.Being seperated from your desire heats up the cat and mouse-thrill of the chase.
Be bigger than that..care about the other hearts involved.
Be humane and upright.
2006-12-30 13:57:41 · answer #8 · answered by listener 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having an affair with a married man is a dead end street. There is no future in it and you are the one who gets hurt in the end. Stop it before it starts. What if you were the wife? How would you feel?
2006-12-30 13:46:53 · answer #9 · answered by righteousrose 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's NEVER right ! If he decides to leave his current soulmate, you might eventually end up with him. Being with him now is really, allowing him to USE you - may even be for the benefit of his wife since she may no longer be the one providing him with anymore intimacy but he still remains with her. He seems to be enjoying the BEST OF BOTH WORLDS
2006-12-30 13:58:13 · answer #10 · answered by PikC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋