Sounds like you have two boyfriends to me .. but you just can't admit it to yourself. I feel more sorry for your first boyfriend than I do for you. Cut one of them loose, stop the deception. Good Luck! :)
2006-12-30 13:47:39
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answered by tysavage2001 6
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First of all, your relationship with your boyfriend cannot continue with lies. Eventually your boyfriend will find out and if he finds out some other way than you telling him then he will be really pissed. He may leave you but that's a risk you should take. It will continue to eat at you until you let it all out. I also think that you should talk to the guy you did it with and see how he feels and how you truly feel about both guys. Someone once told me that the reason someone cheats is because there is something wrong with the relationship. I don't know your relationship but something must be missing that you would go that far with your friend. And no your boyfriend will not trust you or this guy alone together. It will take a while for your boyfriend to trust you again if he even wants to be with you. Good Luck!
2006-12-30 21:55:27
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answered by ferwerda2004 1
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I was in this situation. Believe me if you don't tell him it will come out. Better it comes from you. Especcially since you say he is understanding. My boyfriend is too. I wish I would have just been honest. I actually cheated on him. I regreted it, but I wasn't going to tell him. He found out.........he was hurt and I thought I had lost the man I loved. That made me realize what exactly I wanted. My "friend" was just there. Anyway, my bf told me that I need to cut off all ties with my "friend" I did. And I don't think it was a control issue. He just didn't want to share. IF the shoe was on the other foot, I would drop him like a hot potato. And, I told him that. You know what he said, "I'm glad the shoe isn't on the other foot". I cut ALL ties with my friend. It's better that way. It's going to hurt cause obviously you have very strong feelings for him, as I did for my friend......but I realized who was more important. .....and I made my decision..........and I'm happy.....and MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!!
Good luck, to ya!
2006-12-30 21:51:11
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answered by Ms. Hodges 2
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How stupid are you - really?
"Do you think my b/f will mind my friend and I being alone together after he finds out?" D'uh!!!
OK, let's cut to the chase here: your "friend" is neither your friend nor your boyfriend's friend. You and him together have stabbed your boyfriend in the back. You are a cheater and a liar. Simply cutting off all contact with your cheating partner will not be enough, as your misled boyfriend also considers this snake in the grass a friend of his. There is nothing you can do but be honest and confess to your boyfriend, ask his forgiveness, and suggest that the both of you cut off all contact with your bit of fluff on the side. Then volunteer to go to counselling so explore why you have no morals.
2006-12-30 21:45:44
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answered by Liz 7
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Al I can say is that you made an obvious mistake and you are in eed to fix it. Tell your boyfriend.You may end up paying for your mistake by him not being your boyfriend anymore.You may not.Further Advice.... Next time think before you do that or if you like this man better try to break up with the old guy first. Peace be with you and i wish you luck on this.
2006-12-30 21:46:58
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answered by butterflylova2 2
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If you did this, even if it was a mistake, you are obviously not just "friends". The honest thing to do would be to tell your boyfriend. Of course you dont have to. If you tell him, and he still wants to be with you... NO, I do not think you should see the "friend" anymore. I am sorry to say that, but... you made a mistake you can't take back.
2006-12-30 21:43:39
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answered by KSmom24 3
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first I would tell him that a friend of yours is in this position to see what he says about it and if he seems mad and takes it to hard than I would not tell him and hope he never finds out most men no matter how understanding still don't like being cheated on I would say bury this subject and never bring it up that is it and never do it again!!!
2006-12-30 21:49:24
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answered by goldenchild 2
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Tell him the other guy was once your boy friend and let it go at that, if he trusts you he will understand. You can still be friends with the other guy but not as far as being alone with him.
2006-12-30 21:50:36
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answered by Anonymous
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your friends intentions are apparently not to "just be friends" with you, since he made his moves on you. For that reason i think you shouldn't stay friends with him if you wanna keep you boyfriend, and if you absolutely sure your boyfriend wont find out dont tell him about this, or if your love is strong, tell him, but tell him gently and tell him that you will no longer meet this friend of yours.
2006-12-30 21:46:25
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answered by Instant Problemsolver 3
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if you think that your boyfriend is an understanding person then tell him, its better than him finding out himself but let him know that you know it was a big mistake..as for the guy friend just let him know that you can only be friends, if he cant go for that, hes no friend..best of luck
2006-12-30 21:43:05
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answered by liz 3
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You've managed to put herself between a rock and a hard place. You're going to have to figure this one out for yourself sweetie. Go with what you think is the right thing to do. You know your man better than any of us do. What would you want him to do if he was in your situation.
Good luck!
2006-12-30 21:42:52
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answered by Anonymous
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