This could be kind of long, but my girl friend back in april cheated on me and I took her back, becuase I do truly love her. Back in april I had the intuition that something was going on. She wasn't talking to me hardly at all and I just felt it. I couldn't eat and all I wanted to do was sleep. I latley have been starting to feel this way again. She is working alot and feels tired all of the time, When we talk its like she is falling asleep and when we go out its like she is also asleep. I'm not saying that she is cheating on me but I guess its just me and I don't know how to get rid of feeling. I've tried to talk to her about it but she just says she tired and doesn't feel like doing anything. Is there anything I can do to change this in me or her. I love her to death and I feel she does too. How much time is she going to need and how much can I take of it?
2006-12-30 13:27:25 · 13 answers · asked by black_shadow084 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ur like this now bc she cheated in the past.u want to love her but it a part of u that think she doing it again.wait it out if ur love is true then it wont take much longer if ur love is true the feeling will go and u 2 will be happy agaim amd do think together like u want to
2006-12-30 13:36:24 · answer #1 · answered by Kefka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love this girl very much why not try doing something spontaneous..girls love that. Suprise her with any cute thing go out to the movies suprise her at work by sending her flowers. Plan a romantic date or tell her how you've been feeling and how she still feels about you. She could be tired from working so much all the time and all she may need is a little relief by you doing something out of the ordinary. I felt like you for some time. My boyfriend was always busy and the only time we managed to talk was at night but he would fall asleep within 10 minutes from doing so much during the day. I felt terrible and cried because I thought I was losing him. But you know a date or cooking your girl a dinner anything to show her how much you love her and how supportive you are to her comes a long way. But above all communication will forever be key to any relationship. Find out if she still really loves you and if she does plan something together. I truly wish you the best!!!
2006-12-30 13:54:44 · answer #2 · answered by Ivanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont accuse her of anything first of all. you will know when she is cheating, like you said the first time you had an intuition. there may be other things on her mind or she could have a medical reason for the fatigue. talk to her and ask her why she is tired, talk about your relationship and ask her how she feels about it. be open to the signs of cheating but do you really think she would do that to you again?
2006-12-30 13:50:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like what you are feeling is abandonment. I'll bet that when she cheated, you also had this similar feeling.
The sad truth is, it may never go away. As long as she's not around or giving her all, you will feel that she does not want to be with you. My suggestion is that if you two want this relationship to work, you may need to attend some kind of couple's therapy. Yes, I said you two. These feelings you have are as much her fault as they are yours. And the only way to resolve them is to work together.
2006-12-30 13:40:40 · answer #4 · answered by M.A.X. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DID YOU ASK HER WHATS GOING ON? you might want too.you should keep trying to find out whats wrong. dont badger her but let her know you need to know if she still persists in not telling you all i can say is it might be time to start really thinking about moving on if she wont talk to you now on a deep personal level shell never do it when your hichted and every one knows a happy marraige consists of the 2 partys openly talking to each other.if the feeling you have comes from your gut it probaly is a tru feeling mine almost always is just give it time but you might consider really thinking if this is how you want things to always be i wish you the best of luck !
2006-12-30 13:38:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U guys might need a little time apart... she could be cheating on u... or she could really just be tired all the time but she... well... It might just be good to get away and think about everything... If she doesn't take u seriously and just brushes it off when u try to talk to her u need to make her listen she needs to know it's serious...
2006-12-30 13:33:41 · answer #6 · answered by ksm_623 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to learn to forgive her since you want to stay with her. That means that ou have to put it out of your mind bringing up that period in your relationship all the time reliving it seems to sucking the life out of your relationship. Forgive her, move on. Try to remember what things wer like before then. What things do you do together for fun? Do you laugh a lot? Is the relationship nuturing or are you really loving each other to death?
2006-12-30 13:36:06 · answer #7 · answered by newyorktilson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe u 2 need some time aprt from each other to really see how u feel about eachother. and then go from there. but here is no way to take the feeling of her cheating again away thats always gonna be there but u just have to find away to trust this relationship if u want it to work...........good luck
2006-12-30 13:35:28 · answer #8 · answered by Darlene M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder if your girlfriend isn't suffering from depression of some kind. It's not all that normal to be so tired all the time.
On the other hand, maybe she IS just exhausted from work. If you really think that's the case, you should just support her through this period, and try not to worry about it.
2006-12-30 13:33:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try having some 'you' time, with friends and family. Ask her if she wants to part for awhile, see what she says...and go from there. Facing the truth always hurt.
2006-12-30 13:33:08 · answer #10 · answered by Khandi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋