i have an 11 yr old that wants to watch scary movies with her friends but i dont want her to get to scared what should i do?
2006-12-30 13:03:18 · 15 answers · asked by Kelz(: 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
let her!
I love scary movies! Getting scared, and scaring yourself afterwards, is the best part! Ha ha
I'm 24, and I recently watched a movie called Santiara(sp?). Anyway, the whole time I'm thinking this is really stupid. Then I had to go down to the basement of my apartment building to get clothes out of the dryer and I was totally scaring the crap out of myself! Ha ha ha! When I was a kid, younger than 11, my sister (15 months younger than I am) talked my mother into renting "ALIVE" for us!
Let her have fun, and leave the lights on!
If it's any consolation, I have a three year old that watches Jurassic Park and loves it! And I caught both my 7 and 3 year old peeking around the corners while I watched See No Evil. They weren't scared. They got mad that I sent them to bed!
2006-12-30 13:10:43 · answer #1 · answered by Patty O' Green 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your daughter is scared easily, I would recommend watching a scary movie with her before just letting her do it with her friends, just to see how she reacts to it. Some kids spazz out in these situations, and you want to make sure you are there to be supportive. Do not, under any circumstances allow her to watch scary movies in any capacity if she will be home alone soon. Make sure that you approve of the movie and have viewed it yourself before allowing your daughter to watch anything like this. Scary movies nowadays are much more graphic than the classics like Poltergeist and Halloween, etc. More recent ones have more of a psychological haunt, and it's waaaaaaay too scary for an 11-year-old. (Think: The Ring, Hide and Seek, Saw)
2006-12-30 13:07:36 · answer #2 · answered by Lilly Jones-Fair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I were just discussing this. My son who turns 10 in March has been asking to watch scary movies for sometime now. I'm not sure he's old enough or mature enough but of course his friends have been. I don't really care what other parents are letting their children do I tell him, he's our child and we will do what we feel is best for him.
However, I think we've decided to let him watch some simple scary movies, none with blood and guts. Maybe something like the ring? I'm still not sure and he knows it won't be until this summer or later before we even let him. Still at at a crossroads on our decision too. Good luck in what you decide.
2006-12-30 14:40:03 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how scary are the movies? is she a mature 11 year old? i think this is a tough one. you know your daughter better than anyone else so i think it is your call. the fact that you are having such a difficult time with it may mean that you SHOULDN'T allow her to watch the movie.
If you really want to let her watch them, then I would suggest you have them watch the movies at your house WHILE you are there. i would watch the movie with them.
i don't think you should allow her to watch anything that has violence against women or children. but at age eleven, i think suspenseful movies are okay not gorey.
for example, the first "scary" movie i watched was "when a stranger calls". not the remake but the original. i was eleven and my mom watched it with my friend and me. these days i think some of the movies might be a bit much for young girls to handle. you should definitely watch any movie you may want to allow your child to see BEFORE they watch it. obviously. you are a parent and need to make informed, responsible decisions that will protect your child.
good luck!
2006-12-30 13:13:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
let her, shes 11 years old and if she gets scared then that will teach her, but shes almost a teen now and scary movies are going to be the least of your worries, my parents let me watch scary movies since i was a little girl, that couldnt even talk and my fave kind of movies are scary ones, and as long as shes with friends im sure she will be ok cause then they will be scared together, if i were you i would suggest watching the movie in the dark with the lights off thats the best time to watch them
2006-12-30 13:51:37 · answer #5 · answered by <3 mykiddos,mylife <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes I watch it myself first to determine MY rating. often and R could have been a PG due to a few curse words or scary MOMENTS. And Have seen a few PG's that have sacred the crap out of me. Especially for an 11 year old. I would stick to your guns if you are not comfortable wit them @ all...by this age there will be some sneaking around or some parent that will forget or not know your rules...I guess I am saying control what you can it is YOUR child.
2006-12-30 13:45:04 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see why, they are graphic and often have foul language & nudity. However, when I was her age, I loved scary movies and still do, so I have mixed feelings on this matter. I would let her try it one night, and see how she does. If she's OK, then great, if she gets scared use that as why she can't watch the movies until she is older. If you don't let her try, she may watch them anyway - she's getting to that age. I would let her know that it is OK if she gets scared, and to leave if it gets to be too much.
2006-12-30 13:11:00 · answer #7 · answered by jetaunbraese 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ratings are put on movies specifically for the purpose of helping parents determine what is OK for their kids to watch. They give us a big help in determining which movies are and are not appropriate for our kids. I follow the guidelines. Only rated G for my 3 & 5 yr. old. My 11 yr. old can watch PG and only me & dad get to watch PG-13 or R.
2006-12-30 13:08:55 · answer #8 · answered by I Give Up 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm uncomfortable letting my 11 year-old son watch anything involving murder, but I have allowed him to watch monster-type movies like Underworld and Poltergeist. He was fine and hasn't woken me up wiht his nightmares or anything. Let her watch a scary movie with you and see how she reacts before you allow her to watch one with her friends. She'll probably be fine. Girls that age like to get scared. I always did. :)
2006-12-30 14:26:27 · answer #9 · answered by Shelley L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes 11 get a reality check u dont want her to be shealterd 2 much. She wont grow mentaally and she will go behind your back anywayz cuz she no u aint letting her do stuff that normal i mean normal ppl her age do. She prob. gets teased. My suggestion is go to pareneeting classes cuz 1 day u might regreat telling her no. that were ds or deppressed syndrom comes from. teens kil their selfs b cuz of that.
2007-01-03 04:47:53 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋