It's not like they go on dates or even call each other, I'm just not sure what they do at school though.
2006-12-30 12:53:29 · 44 answers · asked by mom2ghl 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
First, be glad that he's telling you - My 8 year old also recently confessed to 'having a girl'... Some Moms/Dads have absolutely no clue about their kids and that's where there's the most danger!!
Luckily enough, I am able to take it lightheartedly because my son & I are extremely close and he likes to give me all the details (I just can't tell 'Daddy'). My son is a football player and for homecoming they set up the best players with cheerleaders.... Silly tradition I don't see the point in but anyway, that's where this started...
To be honest with you, if you are cautious to what your kids are exposed to, and are comfortable with the relationship you have with your son, you can find comfort in knowing that a crush is just that and laugh it off. I am extremely traditional and don't let my son be exposed to 1/2 of what is out there - I keep his interest up in school and sports so his attention is really stuck on his grades and football (thankfully!) - I personally stay aware of what he does in his spare time, and I take seriously his confidence in confiding in me. Ask them what they do in school, if they have much free time... I think schools should be structured in a way that 10 yr olds aren't getting into something they shouldn't (in an ideal world).... If you think school might be trouble, mention it to the teacher and see how much time the kids are left to themselves... Breathe easy - you're doing your son the biggest favor in being aware and being concerned. That's a good Mom!!
2006-12-30 13:21:37 · answer #1 · answered by Dorrie J 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
At that age, having a girlfriend is just being able to say you have one. maybe they sit together at lunch.
When my sister was about 12 or 13, she told my parents that she had a boyfriend. My mom was worried until one day my sister got off the school bus, went straight to the phone and called her boyfriend.
The conversation began with her saying " You told me to call you when I got home. So what do you want?" in an irritated tone of voice.
The best thing to do is not make a big deal of it. He will probably "break up " with this girl soon and have many more girlfriends before he is old enough to be really serious about a girl.
2006-12-31 04:17:39 · answer #2 · answered by Marilyn E 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son has a "girlfriend" too. Hes ten also. It just means that they acknowledge that they like each other. Don't ignore it...Stay involved, ask questions. whats she like? is she pretty? whats her name? do you hold hands? He has had about 4 different "girlfriends" this school year. No kissing no calling. Its just a form of socializing with the opposite sex. Its age appropriate and a good way to be involved in your sons daily activities while away from school.
At school...they don't do anything that remotely resembles adolescent or adult relationships. Hes just growing up the way hes supposed to. Be excited that your son is progressing normally.
2006-12-31 05:56:47 · answer #3 · answered by Steph 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uhm. Why don't you ask him what it means to him?? When my son was 10, he had a "girlfriend"... I asked him what it meant... Guess what? They didn't even speak to each other... it was the other kids just saying they were boyfriend and girlfriend... No playing together at recess, no after school phone calls or hand-holding...
Just ask him.. What better way to lay foundation of being able to talk about "real" dating when he gets there, than to talk bout this "fake" dating he's doing now.
2006-12-31 06:48:02 · answer #4 · answered by Amy S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would gently try to find out what he means by that...what makes her his "girlfriend" as opposed to a friend who is a girl?
Do you know her or her parents? How much time do they spend together?
I would be a little nervous, but that's because I just had a conversation with my aunt about "how old is the right age for sex ed" and she blew my mind. She's a teacher in a rural area and she said there were 2 SEVENTH graders in her school who were pregnant this year.
You know your kid, so tread lightly and ask gentle questions so he'll keep being open with you as he gets older....but also keep an eye on who he hangs out with, where and when.
2006-12-30 14:32:56 · answer #5 · answered by bookmom 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My son is 9 and he says he has a girlfriend. I always inquire about her. Ask what her name is, if she is in his class, etc. I want to be sure he knows I am interested in all things in his life, even personal, although I know him having a girlfriend means he says hi to her and they probably play together on the playground. I want him to feel comfortable in telling me about her so that maybe he won't be so uncomfortable when is older and dating for real.
P.S. I have a daugther who is 7 and she claims to have 10 boyfriends (oh boy I say, lol) but I just ask her about them all and tell her that really you should just have one really good friend who is a boy.
2006-12-30 14:59:40 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa K 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
At least he is telling you! Be happy about that, and if you are worried drop in to the school for yourself and meet this girl! She could be a 13 year old!!!!
If she is just another 10 year old girl, then it isn't a bad thing. Just don't tease him or next time he won't tell you!
2007-01-01 04:40:59 · answer #7 · answered by PinkPrincessNerd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 10 it means its just a title. They are "going out" but they really just talk at school. They might talk online some but thats it. If you make a big deal of it when he gets a real girlfriend in high school he won't tell you about it. If he is responsible enough to tell you now then just be proud of him. Hes probably very proud! :D
2006-12-31 05:41:07 · answer #8 · answered by hello. it's me. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just go along with it. There isn't really much they will or would do. Since he's only 10, he probably doesn't even want to hug the girl. It'll be fine, he's just growing up a bit. You should definitely worry when he turns 13.
2006-12-30 16:02:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Relax its nothing serious. They probably pl;ay at breaktime. Thats what ny daughter and her friends did. They played with boys.which is great. Now the hormones are kicking in the girls prefer the company of girls to boys and vice versa. It just seems to be more common these daysbecause of early puberty. Make sure you do talk to him though.
2006-12-30 21:36:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋