If you are thinking about joining the military and your parents don't know how would you bring it up???Help!!!

Question

In other words, when is the right time to tell your parents.
I want to join the military, but my parents have no idea.
HELP!!!

Answer 1

It would help to know how old you are. My son at 17 came to me when he needed me to sign a paper stating him emancipation. We talked for hours and I took a couple of days to think about it. I told him how much I loved him and how proud I was that he wanted to join but I being a mom did not want him to. Needless to say I signed. I swear I cryed for a month. Its been a year now and he's thinking that maybe that wasn't the right choice for him. College is the way to go as he wants to be a lawyer. If he went in the military (infantry) what would he fall back on in 8 yrs. Not much unless he wants to be a riot cop. Please think long and hard when your in high school these recruits glorify everything and its really not all its promised to be. We are not sure if he can get out of going now. So saying that if your sure that's what YOU want then start the conversation after breakfast and coffee because they will have alot of questions and answers for you. The sooner the better and be gentle and to the point. Good Luck and God Bless You. Expect tears, its only because they love you.

Answer 2

U know them best N their moods so just B prepared inform U'r self first because their going 2 want 2 know everything N maybe try 2 persuade U away from it with "What if ..." questions if U'r serious about it go 4 it with all U got sign up 4 at least the minimum 2 try it out then work from their. My husband is in the military "Air Force" after 6 years He just got orders to Italy ( I'm so excited I always wanted 2 go to Venice) anyway find everything U can about all the branches where they can travel to N totally look N see to what profession U would like to practice while in the military (medical, law, engineering) see what U R interested in N if they provide it so if u decide to leave the military U didn't waste U'r time N U have something to do when u get out. Best of luck. ;D

Answer 3

My son joined the U.S.Navy when he was 18.He joined under the delayed entry program and it has worked out very well for him.He worked on Doppler radar systems and is currently going to school to work on nuclear systems.I would tell you to take the asvab test and speak with recruiters from different branches of the military.Get everything in writing from them regarding what type of job you qualify for,the education and training you'll receive and what other benefits they offer.Then sit down and honestly discuss these things with your parents.Have them speak with your recruiters,also.After the initial shock and worries subside,they should realize that the military does offer some of the best training anywhere and if you get a good job in the military,it is likely that it will transfer over into the civilian world.Good Luck and Thanks for thinking of your country.

Answer 4

There is never a good time. I was going to join and get an officers commission in the USNR at the age of 30. My mother still went ballistic.

If you are young (HS age...even maybe if you are under 25), let your parents know in advance and ask one of them to go to the recruiter's office with you.

I never had a recruiter lie to me, but they are excellent at telling you what you want to hear and leaving facts out that may deter you from joining. A person with years of life experience may be able to help you pick up on these things.

Do your research before you go. Figure out what jobs interest you. Don't be afraid to ask any question you may have...this is you life you are signing away. If the recruiter can't get you at least one of the jobs/MOS you are interested in, leave and talk to another branch.

Make sure you talk to every branch. Have a vision as to what you want out of the military and find out what each branch can do to achieve your goals (can be a simple as wanting specific training like in wireless communications or a specific job function like operating small boats or gunsmithing). Each branch of service has programs that are not common knowledge. For instance, my goal was to be an officer in the reserves. I taked to the Army Reserves and they could do it after basics (8 weeks?), OCS (6 weeks?), plus MOS training. The Navy had a program that would make me an Engineering officer in 2 weeks with no basic training, as long as I could pass the physical fitness tests.

Make sure you ask to see if you can be promoted immediately. A handful of college credit hours can get you all the way to E-3 from the start. Even being an eagle scout will get you E-2, If I recall, even referring a friend will get you E-2.

Check out the website http://usmilitary.about.com The format of the site leaves something to be desired, but there is a ton of good info.

Finally, have a backup plan. Chances are, for one reason or another, the military won't take you. Don't let it blindside you if you don't make it.

Good Luck to you!!!

Answer 5

Just tell them that you have been thinking about it. Make sure they know why you want to join, that you have looked at all the services, and that you will take a gauranteed position (instead of going open contract). Basically don't wait till you sign to tell them, they are your parents, and deserve to know that you are making a major life decision..

Good luck to you!

Answer 6

5 minutes after you leave to sign up call them and let them know.
Just kidding.
How old are you? Just sit down with them and tell them you want to do this. Its your life. Do you have anyone in your family or any close family friends who has been in or is still in the military? Maybe they can help you talk to your parents about it.

Answer 7

I'm a parent of a 20 year-old and an 18 year-old. I wouldn't want either of them to join the military until the war in Iraq is over. Please reconsider. Otherwise, handing them your life insurance policy should do the trick, because they will probably need it.

Answer 8

" Oi mum wheres dad? i have summet to say to yaz! "
" what love? "
" Well im joining the army and.............oh is that the time ive got to meet Mrs X so cya "

lol

No just say its your decision so what can they do except express there concerns if they have any.

Answer 9

Just tell them. You are a woman. The chances of you being put in harms way in Iraq is slim.

Answer 10

have you taken any entrance exams for any of the academy's? go for it, your parents will support you.