I have a boyfriend but i like another guy. So i dump my boyfriend and go for the other guy. (but thats not the only reason for me dumping him... he's way 2 clingy) would u say that i'm dumping him for another guy, or because he's 2 clingy. i'm a girl who who has problems with commitment, i luv 2 flirt but i don't usually like 2 be in a relationship... getting there is half the fun! (after that i get bored.)
2006-12-30 12:41:35 · 29 answers · asked by hannah t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you can admit that your not good at commitment then you don't need to be in a relationship at all.... just be single and have fun instead of being with somebody and hurting them... duh... but i don't like clingy guys either but it does seem that your breaking up with him more for the reason of liking another guy than for him being to clingy.. cause if he was and it bothered you all you had to do was ask him to back off an im sure he would have....
2006-12-30 12:45:32 · answer #1 · answered by URKA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok is the question what would you do if someone broke up with you under these circumstances? If so, I think your first boyfriend would be very depressed right now. You said he is clingy, meaning he really had an attachment to you. He might of though this was a strong relationship or just happy to be around you.
Whatever the case, you moving on like that means your still young and don't know what your looking for in a relationship. Not to sound old, but I know I will, you're still sewing your wild oats.
I say live for you right now, but be weary. You can hurt people in the process of your flirtatious fun.
2006-12-30 20:53:48 · answer #2 · answered by littledragoon80 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are what I call a hunter. It is the thrill of the chase and catching your prey, in this case 'men'. This can lead you to earn a reputation as a 'man eater', not good.
What I have found is that flirts do manage to get the clingy guys. 1/ flirts are out there and well liked, clingy guys are not. What they like about flirts they hate in the relationship. So off the flirt goes to find another conquest.
You should never ever start another relationship before the present one is not finished and you need to check that you are not carrying baggage into the next one that will stop that relationship to develop. Hence commitment issues.
And if you are in your teens early 20's you are meant to flit around like a butterfly so you know exactly what you do and don't want in a partner.
2006-12-30 20:56:24 · answer #3 · answered by sag_kat2chat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By your own admission you don't like to be in relationships, instead you like to flirt so don't you think you have answered your own question about why you dumped your boyfriend. You obviously don't want any kind of a committment from anyone. If this is the way you are does it really matter to you why you break up with a guy? You would anyway because before long you would find yourself in a relationship, now wouldn't you? You are the kind of girl who will end up as an old maid. I know because my aunt was the same way in her day and she died all alone and she played around all her life.
2006-12-30 20:47:43 · answer #4 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you shouldnt be dating if you are only after one thing you arent being fair to the guys that like you and that want to date you so until you can date a guy for the relationship then you shouldnt id say that you are dumping him for another guy and then using his clinginess as a cover up so you dont turn out the bad person maybe you should think of how you would feel if the guy was only using you for a little while and the dumping you
2006-12-30 20:55:21 · answer #5 · answered by advise_gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a typical chick (no offense haha). I had the same problem too, but if you want another guy, there's really nothing to do about it. When you find the right guy though, you'll know it and you'll be glad to be in a relationship with him. Until then, play the field a bit and have fun!
2006-12-30 20:45:28 · answer #6 · answered by masse_master1987 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dumped him 4 another guy and him being clingy didnt help. dont get into a relationship if u may cheat!
2006-12-30 20:57:19 · answer #7 · answered by Haley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'd depend on how quickly the girl got together with the new guy, and whether she threw herself at him or he took the opportunity to jump in while she was free...but my gut instinct says I'd think she was breaking up to be with him, not because I was too clingy.
Of course, I'd still feel like crap (was I not good enough? was I clingy?) but I'd also start doubting her honesty (how long was she planning this? Did she go out with me to get him?).
2006-12-30 20:50:32 · answer #8 · answered by Dilettante 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it's okay to have different relationships and go out with different people and stuff, it sounds like ur ditching your old boyfriend just so you could have another one. It's pretty harsh. Just think about how it would feel if someone broke up with you just because they liked someone else more. It would feel pretty bad... but if there really were MAJOR problems, it would be okay I suppose...
2006-12-30 20:49:03 · answer #9 · answered by belibong99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have more than one reason for breaking up with him, you know.
You said all three: you like another guy, he's too clingy, and you get bored with relationships after a while.
2006-12-30 20:45:25 · answer #10 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋