My pat response is, "It's ok"; but most times it isn't. What do you say when the apology seems sincere, but you still don't condone/or are hurt by what someone did?
2006-12-30 12:25:41 · 37 answers · asked by fairydust 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If I am still hurt over the matter, I usually say something to the effect of:
"I am sorry too but, I know you are sorry for the actions and I do forgive you, but it will take me a little time for the healing process"
This basically lets them know what they did was wrong and I am still hurting over the matter. It also makes them think.
2006-12-30 12:30:18 · answer #1 · answered by Issym 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the circumstances. If someone is apologizing for stepping on your toe or bumping into you-"that's ok or no problem" is acceptable. If the person hurt your feelings "that's ok" is not acceptable. If someone is apologizing sincerely for a wrong they have committed that caused you harm you can say a)" thank you, I accept your apology, I forgive you but please don't do that again" or b) " I cannot accept your apology, all is not forgiven".
An acceptance or rejection of the apology is what is expected.
2006-12-30 12:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by tallmochagirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually "I accept your apology" is good. It means you don't condone what they did but that you know they're sorry, that is of course if they're being sincere.
If they're apologizing and don't mean it then I would say something like "It really hurt my feelings" or something to that affect, may make them feel a little more guilty and then they may mean it?
2006-12-30 13:44:26 · answer #3 · answered by whispersinwater 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone says their sorry ,they 're putting them self's out there for you ,then its up to you to except their apology .If you say its all rite and its not ,that's you ,not the person with the apology.Take the apology as an opportunity to discuss what and how the person made you feel, you might find by saying your sorry is just a way to open up a better discussion.
2006-12-30 12:42:19 · answer #4 · answered by colliedogcody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm as stubborn as they come and not really into the whole forgiveness thing - although i feel i should be!!! If somebody has cause to apologize to me then I find it real hard to accept. But for the good of day to day relations, and the appreciation that that person has recognised that they need to apologize then surely it is right to accept it - even if it's not always easy!!!
2006-12-30 12:32:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might say "Thank you", if you believe them.
You might say "I forgive you".
You might also say "I hope that you understand how much you hurt .... (whoever ), and I accept your apology and hope that you will remember and learn from what you've done".
Or things such as that. "I'm sorry" shouldn't be a means to get let off the hook as it were.
For example... I might forgive someone a particular act, but forgiveness doesn't imply approval, nor does it mean that I shall trust a person in the future.
Simply be honest.
2006-12-30 12:33:10 · answer #6 · answered by Deirdre H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm British, and we all get extremely embarrassed when anyone apologises to us.
My usual response is to go further than say "it's nothing" and say something like "no, really, I'm sorry to mention it, really". All of this use of the word really, and throwing a sorry back at them means you're apologising for putting them in a situation where they've had to apologise. This is very bad for subsequent gloating at them, but great for making you both best friends again.
2006-12-30 12:36:24 · answer #7 · answered by Joe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I usually accept the apology or ignore it. It depends on the wrongdoing and the person. But when they apologize with this forced baby-ish look on their faces, I put holes in their head.
2006-12-30 12:28:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"That's quite alright." Or, tell them they are NOT forgiven, and why. If they are sincere, and all this depends on the reason for the apology, (bumped into you? doesn't take a 2 hour speech), tell them they are forgiven.
2006-12-30 12:31:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I accept that apologized but I am still hurt by...
2006-12-30 12:34:29 · answer #10 · answered by goldenbrowngod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋