Ok..basically the other woman is a complete cow, I hate her I(I've already made this fact completely clear to her). Anyway, i've told him I know, he knows his gf knows and he knows I know where this other woman lives, I could even get hold of her mobile number if I wanted to. I've already tried asking him to end it with her and actually caught him with her numerous times yet he still continues seeing her and denies it too - even when I see his car outside her place (it's not his car - what?). I've tried everything I know and being direct never works, he's beat me twice during arguments about her...and still sees her, even after that.
He's a compulsive liar and goes with anything, he cheated on my mom too, he's always done it...but I think he needs to stop thinking about where he can get his next lay and focus on leading one life rather than struggling to lead two.
When I say i've tried everything I mean everything lol. He doesn't seem to see how wrong what he is doing is.
2006-12-30 12:24:43 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I've tried to keep out of it and tried to ignore it but when he's lying he brings other members of the family into it and makes out it's everyone else's fault but his.If she wasn't interfering in my life by calling my house all of the time while i'm home and coming into my workplace shouting off crap about my family when she knows nothing about them then it'd be fine. She thinks she's something special when she's just one in a long line of women and he only uses her for one thing. If she would stop interfering in my life then I could ignore it but she makes it impossible. She thinks what he says is gospel and has somehow figured that she knows my mom when she's never met her and my mom is a better person than she'll ever be, she has no right to interfere when it comes to my family, I never have with hers.
My dad's gf does have a problem with it but he doesn't listen.
2006-12-30 12:38:03 · update #1
Wow maybe u should just tell him u don't like her and he needs to ditch her for ur sake. But he is a guy so i doubt that will work. But u can atleast try
2006-12-30 12:27:04 · answer #1 · answered by Sabrina N 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude it's going to take you a while to get over it. I had a gf who was engaged and he cheated on her with her own COUSIN who she was close to. Today that ex of hers and her cousin are married with children!!! I was the guy she got with after that happened and it took her about 2 years to trust someone else and I was a good bf to her but in the end we just didn't make it but that's relationships I suppose. The point is, today she is friends with her cousin again and has forgiven her. She is engaged to her bf of nearly 3 years. You won't get over it over night but one day something will just click and you will know that you're going to be ok. When you do meet someone new and you both hit it off you're going to have an amazing time and for that I'm almost envious. So on one hand it sucks that you're in this situation but on the other hand you will get to meet that right girl, the angel that comes and pulls you of the black hole you're in and you will feel so alive. You must trust me on this!
2016-05-22 22:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it boils down to the fact that you are bitter toward your dad because he is not unfair your mum. True?
In the meantime, you must understand that not every marriage will end up happily and satisfactorily ever after. He might be a liar or womanizer! However, nothing will change the fact that he is still your dad whatever happens. Your job now is to stop feeling bitter and let him carry on. Your mum needs to act as well. Talk to your mum. Moreover, you cant stop men because men will do it more and more if someone provoking them.
If I were you, I would put my attention to get good grades, do well in studies and bond with your mum more. Good energy to good person and your mum deserves better attention, care and love from you than your dad at this point!
2006-12-30 12:40:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you are more grown up than your dad is. It is not your job to make him stop. He is behaving in a very bad way and I am sorry he is setting such a poor example for you. I hope you live with your mom as it doesn't sound like your dad is a safe person for you to be with.
I am not sure what you consider a "beating". A slap or spanking is one thing. But a beating is unacceptable. I think you should stop trying to confront him and let him make his own mistakes, as he seems to be good at it. It is not safe for you to keep getting into his business. You are in a tough spot and it is nice to see you have learned right from wrong even with the poor influences in your life.
2006-12-30 12:31:32 · answer #4 · answered by mar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may be hard to hear, but it is not a question of his stopping his cheating on his girlfriend. It is a question of how you get out of this type of home environment and to a safer place both physically and emotionally. You know his behavior is morally wrong on many levels, but deep down you know his physical abuse of you is equally wrong. Your father will not change for himself or for you. If you have other relatives you can appeal to or go live with, please do so. If not, contact a counselor through your school or seek help through a local church or shelter. You are a good person, honey, and you deserve a much better life.
2006-12-30 12:39:48 · answer #5 · answered by shasser2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if the tables were turned would you want your dad butting into your business? would you want your dad to constantly be bugging yout get rid of this girlfriend of yours? no, because it is none of his bussiness, right? heres what i say you do. ignore her and dont give her the time of day. any attention is good attention for her, whether it be good or bad, she loves it. your are in her life if yoou talk to her or shout at her or whatever. and she likes it. i say you ignore her. dont look at her. if she comes by your job, call the cops. if she talks about your family let her, she doesnt know them. your dad is not going to stop cheating on his girlfriends for you or anyone. he is a guy that lacks something thats why he feels he needs lots of women. it is his life and there is nothing you can do about it.he is grown and you aretoo. you should but out of his affairs and let him live his life.worry about you and only you from now on. good luck.
2006-12-30 13:00:53 · answer #6 · answered by Christina 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As sleazy as he's being, it isn't your job to make him stop. If his girlfriend knows about the cheating, she should make the decision to leave him and quit enabling his behavior. As his daughter, it would probably be best to stay out of it because nothing you can do will change his actions (they haven't yet, have they?). Instead, focus on your personal relationship with him and what could improve there and how.
2006-12-30 12:36:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You haven't told us how old you are and that makes a big difference what you do. You might as well give up on trying to change him, you now need to concentrate on keeping your sanity and keeping out of the mess.
My nephew caught his dad cheating and his dad lied about it. The nephew now refuses to speak to his dad at all. They even got school counselors involved, but the boy refuses to even speak to his dad. I feel sorry for the nephew, his dad is a dirt bag.
2006-12-30 13:02:14 · answer #8 · answered by plezurgui 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey you don't try to make him end anything.Your dad is grown and knows what he is doing.Odviously he dosen't care about your feelings or else he wouldn't even let you know what he is doing.It is a shame that parents disrespect there children.And they say they don't understand why kids are angry with them.The best thing for you to do is STAY OUT OF HIS BUISSNESS..It is going to catch up with him soon or a later beleive me.Sooner than he even thinks.Don't let it stress you live your life and live from his examples DON'T CHEATin/ on your relationship.
2006-12-30 12:32:51 · answer #9 · answered by gblue52 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi Hun well believe me i know i how this feels only i had it worse i had to see my dad with his hoe like i like to call her 2 b4 my mom made him leave the house well ill tell you what as long as he cares about you and will treat you well dont worry i dont mean just let it go i mean just try talking to him with out getting getting your dad upset ou dont want him to hut you again but if you want things to be fair tell your dads girl friend about it and explain to her that she needs to talk to him or that she needs to end it. well from my dad i can tell you that some people are not meant to have long relationships just get layed and thats it and they cant see that also they cant change it its just how they are. well hope i helped oh and by the way my dad dosent live with me and i see him about 2 times a week so good luck and hope things get better
2006-12-30 12:38:05 · answer #10 · answered by love100 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋