You can't to let go, you can't forget them, they tell you they love you and fall right back in your arms, why is it so hard to just let go? How do you move on? i want to know
2006-12-30 12:14:15 · 14 answers · asked by Dia 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My ex treated me like a queen when we were together, then all of a sudden, he dumps me without any sort of explanation, but of course, stills wants that intimate part of our relationship. It's been almost 4 years now and I still love him. Some people just get embedded into our hearts and it doesn't matter what they do to us, we can't help but love them. The best way to move on is to keep your distance from them and enjoy the single life. By keeping as far away as possible, you're giving your heart some time to heal. If you're constantly in his presence, you'll just keep reliving the pain of your heart pining for his attention. Eventually you'll be able to move on and pursue other relationships. Just don't move too fast, because the relationship would probably not work out. You'll still be thinking about the one that got away and not concentrating your full attention on the one you're with, which also wouldn't be fair to this person.
2006-12-30 12:34:55 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married to that "someone" for ten years. Each time he hit me, he apologized the next day and I took him back. He treated me like trash and I kept going back for more. It was hard to end the marriage. No one likes being treated like trash, but it is hard to walk away from what we are familiar with...
Sometimes it is necessary. Sometimes you must forget your feelings and move on. It hurts for a while, but after a few months you forget about the good times and remember with more accuracy how bad the bad times were.
2006-12-30 20:19:10 · answer #2 · answered by mar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person i have loved treated me like trash. It has taken me two years to realize that he was a waste of my time. From time to time I go back and look at pictures of him because i really miss him. But i realized with the help of some friends that i am so much better than that. It is very hard but you will get over him. You just need to realize that he isnt worth it and you will start to get over him little by little.
2006-12-30 20:19:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Acknowledge the difference between "love" and "need." It's a habitual cycle you both are participating in and it isn't likely to end. Understand that you can't change the other person, you can only change yourself, meaning you can change your priorities and what you will and wont allow in your own life, even if it means saying goodbye. It hurts, blows the esteem, but it hurts for less time and the hurt fades with time when you cut it off instead of heading for another round. Respect yourself enough to do what's best for you. You should be your own best friend. If you don't respect yourself, others wont respect you either.
2006-12-30 20:20:37 · answer #4 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just realize that why are you getting abused for? You ahve done nothing bad to him why is he like that to you. No one should be treated the way you are. You should just leave and let him get all crying like a girl. Because he knows all he has to do is get emotional and you will not leave. But it's up to you and you deserve better.
2006-12-30 20:44:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea this happened to me alot. its hard because you put in so much effort and it all fell apart. how do you let go? think of people that have had really long term relationships and it still fell apart. the bottom line is that you aren't alone...relationships are difficult beit, friends, loved ones and significant other. its hard. personally i just let go if the other person is not willing to put in the effort...usually that's why its hard...because you want it to work out but the other person finds it too difficult to deal with and decides to bolt...just look for other people...and start over..
2006-12-30 20:20:43 · answer #6 · answered by kowalley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We tend to like people that treat us badly, because, we can't understand what we are doing/have done wrong to make them treat us that way. After a while, you realize that they are the ones with the problem, not you.. and you move on.
2006-12-30 20:17:31 · answer #7 · answered by NAN G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to love a complete jerk. If your life sounds like a soap-opera, change the chanel.
Isn't your partner supposed to honor and uplift you? Make you happy? If you're spending more time crying than happy, it's obsession, not love. Big difference.
You deserve better!
2006-12-30 20:18:39 · answer #8 · answered by M C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you gotta get your head outta your a##! If this guy Is treating you like trash then you are trash to him and as long as you let him treat you like trash you will feel and be trash. There's plenty of guys that are actually out there lookin for girls to treat good and most of the girls are sittin around cryin about why their boyfriends are treatin them like trash!!
2006-12-30 20:25:33 · answer #9 · answered by passion 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you move on by forgetting him as if you and him never meet befor , and he is just a face in the crowd and just walk by him without sayin anything even if he says he loves you turn the other the way cuz its bull
2006-12-30 20:21:52 · answer #10 · answered by CHERRY.A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋