My ex and I dated for two and a half years. She ended up breaking it off out of the blue because she claimed she didn't have time for the relationship and thought it wasn't fair to me. She said that when she was ready for relationship, I'd be the first to know. Five months later now, she doesn't even make an effort to talk to me since the start of it all. I text her, call her, just to try to keep in touch but she never seems to be interested but claims to be. I'm starting to wonder if I should stop holding on to hope that we'll get back together or if I should keep fighting for her. Should I end this tie now and try to move on or should I stay around and see where it goes?
2006-12-30 12:10:45 · 9 answers · asked by Milo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah, hey, not to be a jerk here, but she's trying to break it off. If you keep trying to contact her, she's going to consider you a pest. Not trying to be mean, just honest. Move on.
2006-12-30 12:15:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are a few angles here. Generally, from a female perspective, she does not want a future relationship with you and is not ready yet to be friends, either. She could be feeling guilty each time you contact her as she does not want to cause you further hurt. Seems like "hope" is the only thing left binding you to her and as difficult as this is to let go of - you must do so for your own happiness and sanity. Create new friendships and enjoy your life - in time, things will become easier and you will think of her less often in a romantic way. She is giving every sign that she, herself, wants to move on - and sorry, but you really should too !!. All the very best to you !!
2006-12-30 12:22:20 · answer #2 · answered by square_dotzz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i could tell you that she is not much interested with you anymore..or rather not more serious with your relationships...it also happened to me once...but i tried to be kind with him..but you know.when i am not really interested anymore, i could not just forced myself to go on with him even if we've been together for a long time...real feelings simply talk out..perhaps you better consider her as a friend, not more than that as she may have been considering you now as such...that's it..!! If ever a time comes when the first move comes from her...then she might have been missing you only for that time..then, if you are still free, then, go and see her, and listen to her...that's all..and then you can make another move. Ladies are sometimes hard to understand..i know it since i am also a lady and i have met lots of men who say the same...let's call it "mood" and it s changeable all the time specially in these days. In the meantime, keep going on..move on..
2006-12-30 12:37:04 · answer #3 · answered by Nami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when she broke it off and was apparently being upfront with you she should have told you that she just wanted to be your friend. She does still care about you in the way that it seems hard for her to hurt your feelings even now, 5 months later. Don't "stay around" she has been telling you for 5 months now (in her way) that friends are the final answer. Be her friend but, move on.
chin up.
2006-12-30 12:19:49 · answer #4 · answered by Northernlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Five months is a long time to keep you on hold. You're the only one who can make this decision, but don't allow yourself to be blind to the fact that she's not considering your feelings in all of this. You have to ask yourelf: If the relationship resumes, will she treat you with respect then?
2006-12-30 12:14:38 · answer #5 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like she is interested at all. I think you should move on. Doesn't sound like there is anything to end-5 months and nothing out of her? Sounds like it's over already-at least for her.
2006-12-30 12:17:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would move on...If she was at interested in you she would have at least called or texted you back...so stop spinning your wheels and move on.
2006-12-30 12:16:49 · answer #7 · answered by Mechelle C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End the fantasy. She's already gone.
2006-12-30 12:15:35 · answer #8 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude sprout a sack and walk away
2006-12-30 12:19:13 · answer #9 · answered by rico1445 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋