actually i have a few questions. anyway ive known this girl for about 2 months, we met on a group outing. since then we have only met once one on one, where we traded numbers, bt i think even that was just so we could organise more group get-togethers. We trade texts most days, tho im usually the one who sends the first text and we get on well, as friends, when we meet up in our group. and now i think i really like her. do i know her enough to ask her out? I cnt really tell what she thinks of me. whats worse is i think things will become awkward if she declines, as she is quite shy. everybody from our group would then be annoyed that i messed things up. and if i do ask her out, how should i because we never talk on the phone and i never see her alone. once i get this sorted i be able to help as much as i can, promise.
2006-12-30 12:07:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would ask her if she would like to go to dinner. It could be a casual thing or it could be a date. That way you could talk to her and get to know her better. You can read if she likes you better in person thean though text message if you think she may like you then ask her on a second date.
2006-12-30 12:11:34 · answer #1 · answered by emily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a little dubious as to why you must always be the first to text her - even though you say she's shy- I consider myself shy around guys but if I had the number of the guy I like- I would be texting him like crazy - the thing about texts is that you don't have to see the person face to face and so you can be much braver than you are 'normally'. Altho she may be the type that doesn't like texting. Why not text her and ask her if she fancies going for coffee or a drink?Don't give the game away tho -u don't want to scare her away - so just keep it lighthearted as possible ;)
2006-12-30 21:27:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK lets start from your first question.
You don't have to know anyone at all to ask them out because that is the whole point of asking them out in the first place, so that you can get to know them better but without other people being there.
You like this girl, right!! If she says no then at least you had the guts to ask and if afterwards she starts to ignore you then she is acting like child and is not the girl you first thought she was.
You never talk on the phone because you never call her so why don't you. Just give her a call and ask her out for a drink or something. Even during one of your days out pull her to one side and ask if she wants to go for a coffee afterwards. No one else can do it for you babe.
You have to just go for it babe, bite the bullet and stop living your life asking "what if" cause life is too short.
Good luck xxx
2006-12-30 20:17:02 · answer #3 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is very shy you are best to bide your time. Just try and get to know her more within the group. Try and talk to her and see how she reacts to your making conversation with her etc. You'll be able to tell if there is a small hint of flirting perhaps or some sort of chemistry. Jumping in with both feet is a big no no though. Play it cool and take it one step at a time. If it's going to work then it will but Rome wasn't built in a day.
Stick at it though and don't give up. Just don't try and run before you can walk.
Good luck and Happy 2007.
2006-12-30 21:16:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok a few things. try this test to see if she likes you. Stop texting her for two days and see if she texts you back. If she doesn't, then she doesn't like you more than a friend. If she does it once, just to see what happened to you, just ignore it and see if she does it again. If she does, she likes you. Once you have this down, then you proceed to ask her out with confidence. Don't do it over the phone. If you must do it over the phone, first ask her to hang out somewhere casual, and then really ask her out. If you did the above test, you know that she likes you and can be confident that she says yes. I'm not a gorgeous looking guy, but I've never been turned down yet, and I've always known if a girl likes me. They have many tells and all you have to do is read them.
2006-12-30 20:13:55 · answer #5 · answered by Benson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off... it sounds like she might like you. But not too sure... She prolly waits for you to msg her first, because she is shy... most girls feel the guy should make the first move... most girls.. some can go for it.. some cant... Wait a little bit longer and call and talk to her by herself. not in a group outing... once youve talked to her enough alone. and if she talks to you back.. not makes up excuses to get off the phone, then ask her.. Im sure she likes you or she wouldnt text back or have even giving her number to you in the first place...
2006-12-30 20:12:13 · answer #6 · answered by Pattycakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that she gave you her number tells you that she is interested in you. also, she keeps on texting you. just asks her out for coffee and then go from there. send a text asking her if she wants to meet for coffee. if she does not answer, you know the answer.
2006-12-30 20:32:51 · answer #7 · answered by b1uecee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have her number, you like each other, you have the same friends, what's keeping you? If she blows you off, be a man. Stand up, brush yourself off and carry on. Part of building up the courage to ask a girl out is being brave enough to get shot down. If things get strange after wards, be the adult and don't let it bother you. It took me two tries to get my girlfriend to go out with me. I didn't give up and things didn't get strange between tries.
2006-12-30 20:13:14 · answer #8 · answered by no name brand canned beans 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask her out, whats the worst that can happen if she says no. If u really like her go for it. Maybe she likes u but is to nervous. Ask one of her friends (no one tooo close to her bc theyll tell her)but ask a friend if to ask the girl what she thinks of u. good luck
2006-12-30 20:10:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anna M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time, if she is shy, give her time to get to know you, when you meet up in the groups, just spend some time talking to her. To employ a fishing analogy, don't try haul her in, or your line may snap.
2006-12-30 20:22:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋