i have been talking to him for almost 2 months now and we kno everything about each other..i want to aks him out but..i need to kno a couple things..so please help!!
1.what do i say?
2.wen do i say it? like wut should we be talking about wen i ask him?
2006-12-30 11:59:15 · 17 answers · asked by babygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You've been able to talk to him thus far, just keep going.
You'll know when it feels right for you, you will.
You could ask him out & just take your time.
It's hard to know things ahead of time,
human nature is tricky that way.
He might bring up some of your concerns himself.
He could be just as nervous as you are. :)
2006-12-30 12:08:52 · answer #1 · answered by Fraulein 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you this, but if you've been talking for months and know everything about each other and he hasn't asked you out yet, there's a good chance that he isn't interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with you. If you want to be sure, wait until the next time you're together and just before you split, ask him if he wants to get together on Friday or Saturday and do something. Leave it open so that he can choose the day and the activity. He'll either go along with the idea or not. Either way, you'll find out how he feels about you. Good luck!
2006-12-30 12:07:20 · answer #2 · answered by vinny_the_hack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy I've always been able to pick up the hidden signals a girl likes me. They are usually flirty, touchy feely and have that puppy god innocent look. Then eventually the girl would get up and tell me she is going for a walk, stops and looks at me with a very sexy look. So I'd get up and from there I'd be making all the moves.
Your situation is different though because you are friends and have been talking for sometime now. If he is single I am sure he really likes you too but is scared to death because he thinks you just like him as a friend.
My advice is go to the park with just u and him. Talk to him like you always do. Be a little more flirty and touchy feely. Doing this is basically telling him indirectly you are attracted to him. Compliment him also, tell him that you think he looks freaking hot today. Hopefully this guy picks up the signal and makes a the move, not you.
You can always be bold, out of nowhere just kiss him on the lips and tell him you really like him and what you want. The kiss is the perfect ice breaker for you, if you can find enough strength to kiss him then you'll be able to tell him anything.
You can also just call him, tell him hey I have something to tell you that I've been thinking about for awhile now. Tell him something like these past couple of months talking to you have have meant a lot to you. Tell him you are really attracted to him and tell him that you've never quite met a guy as sweet and whatever like him. Then kinda freak out and say like damn this is harder than I thought but but ummm I don't know I just hope you are feeling like I am. Then say I would like to see if we can make something out of this.
Thats just some food for thought butmaybe you can use some of that or not - What it really comes down to is being confident and going for it - It will be tough but look at it this way, what if you don't and he was the one. Sometimes you just have to take a chance. I'm sure the guy is interested in you if he has been talking to you for so long, he likes you but I can tell you he is scared and doesn't want to be rejected or lose your friendship. That's why I suggested you try to act a little flirty around him and drop hints you really like him so he would make the move. Good luck I'm sure it will work out for you
2006-12-30 12:42:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, this should help :)
Be in the right place. It's best to ask someone out in person, so you've got to make sure to be where the guy you have a crush on is. This could be at the mall, the movies, or maybe at the baseball field if he's an athlete. You don't want to look like a stalker, but you do want to be able to talk to him.
Take the intiative. Unfortunately, many guys are too afraid to walk up to a girl and ask her out. Take matters into your own hands. Walk up to him slowly and introduce yourself. Try not to do this if he's extremely busy, but at the same time, don't let the opportunity to talk to him pass you by just because you're nervous. If he seems receptive when you introduce yourself, keep on talking to him.
Make small talk with him. Break the ice by commenting on something he's wearing or saying something about the place or event you're at. Just try to get him to feel comfortable around you.
Make eye contact with him. While the two of you are talking, make eye contact and try to hold it for just a little longer than you normally would--just two or three seconds. If he makes eye contact back, he's probably interested in you. Make sure he's not looking at you because you're doing something extremely weird or because he is the cashier.
Commence flirting. This can mean touching him lightly on the arm, for example, or laughing at his jokes. Just be playful and communicate that you're interested. Sometimes you can flirt from afar and entice him to come over to you.
Ask him non-intrusive questions about himself, such as what kinds of things he likes to do, what his favorite kind of food is, or if he likes to play sports. By asking harmless little questions you can find out more about him to determine if you really want to ask him out, and you might find out if he has a girlfriend. You can also set the conversation up to ask him out.
Ask him out. Once you find something you both have in common, ask if he'd like to do it together sometime. If you don't succeed in finding something you have in common, you might not really find him that interesting, but if you want to take a chance, just let him know that you'd like to hang out with him again.
If he says no, or if he seems like he needs more time, don't get too upset; always say you can just be friends if that's what he wants. Chances are, he'll change his mind. Guys do this a lot. Whatever you do, don't trash him to others; it makes you look bad.
If he says yes, then plan where and when you will go out, and don't forget to have fun. Since you asked, you should pay for the date, unless he insists.
2006-12-30 12:03:58 · answer #4 · answered by Boss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy is a good friend you would not be afraid to ask him out. Are you old enough to date? Your spelling shows you to be quite young. You should save dating until you are at least 16. By this age you will have much more maturity, wisdom and self confidence. You might also know how to spell!
2006-12-30 12:02:07 · answer #5 · answered by mar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really have to just put it out there- I would suggest that you two be some what alone- then there are no distractions. Say something along the lines of "I really like you- I was wondering if you feel the same way..." If it was ment to be then it will happen- Good luck!!!
2006-12-30 12:04:55 · answer #6 · answered by pink kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, let me say BRAVO for asking him out. It's always refreshing to see that there are girls out there who have the guts to take the first step.
Simply the fact that you're asking him out will blow him out of the water. No catchy lines or tactics are required here. Just go for it. He'll say yes.
2006-12-30 12:08:00 · answer #7 · answered by no name brand canned beans 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to ask a guy out, and you dont need to say anything. Let him ask you out and let him do the talking. You just smile and nod and be pretty. Let him do the work trying to interest you.
2006-12-30 12:01:46 · answer #8 · answered by Montecar3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait for a lull in the conversation then just say hey would you like to go out sometime? If he says ok then you can discuss where and when.
2006-12-30 12:02:16 · answer #9 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say that u are in love with him and it depends if in the moment u fell like to say it. Everybody is different and i think it has to be when u want.
Good Luck with that.
Happy New Year!
2006-12-30 12:05:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋