My ex and I have been apart for about two years now, however, during this time we have stayed in contact and been best friends and we still tell each other we love each other. Our connection was so strong, I really feel we are meant to be together. He is now dating someone, but only for three weeks and he himself admitted he's only dating her because he is lonley. (we live in diff. states). I sent him a semi-love letter the other day expressing my feelings. Was that bad to do since he has a girlfriend, even though they have only been dating for such a short period of time? After all, he still says if he had the chance to redo it, he would do it over in a second.
2006-12-30 11:56:02 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It doesn't sound as if the two of you have crossed a line of impropriety, yet. He needs to decide what his intentions are towards you and the other woman and decide what it is he really wants out of life.
What are the two of you willing to give up in order to be together again? Who is going to move? Are neither of you willing to change? You need to both explore these questions and many more, then decide if getting back together or forgetting about each other, forever, is what will happen.
2006-12-30 11:59:50 · answer #1 · answered by mar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it was wrong to send him the letter. It's perfect timing and a good test. His response will give you the answer you need. If he really wants to be with you, he will find a way to make it happen now that he knows how you feel, and he wont use other girls merely because he is lonely. I have been in a long distance relationship for over a year now. We take time to get together regularly and it's going great. No doubts, no other girls, no other men on my part either and we do both get lonely but our hearts are with each other.
2006-12-30 12:03:00 · answer #2 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you aren't over him yet. But he has moved on by dating someone else. Although he may not realize it, that seems like what is happening.
If you two really want to get back together and stay together maybe you should bring it up provided you would be willing to move to the State where he is.
You may get hurt if the casual dating he's doing now becomes serious.
Good luck.
2006-12-30 12:04:26 · answer #3 · answered by kindness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've had feelings about him this whole time, its good to tell him and get it off your chest. You can't move on if you keep it a secret. Wait and see how he responds. You said you're best friends, he might want to keep it that way and not be in a serious relationship with you again. If thats the case, its time for you to move on. He's trying to move on with a new girlfriend.
But.. he might feel the same way you do. You'd never know if you didn't tell him in your letter. It was a good thing to do.
2006-12-30 12:01:44 · answer #4 · answered by Leselina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think It is kind of cruel for the girl, I mean, she doesn´t know that she has to bit you guys relationship, but It looks like he don´t want to give her the opportunity because he is not 100% in that relation, he is till with you inside.... I think the best for you both or three.. hehe, could be to take a break without communication if you really want him to be happy, and you must be strong and get a guy like he did (girl) to begin again and if the destiny say you guys mst be together, then It will happen.
good luck and happy new year
2006-12-30 12:04:37 · answer #5 · answered by dolcha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were dating a guy, how would you feel if you found out his ex wrote him a love letter, that he kept in touch with her, and still expressed feelings for her?
if you wouldn't like it done to you...don't do it to someone else. He's using her and that's a low thing to do. I'll be she's got no idea he's only with her because he's "lonely".
Bad karma.
2006-12-30 12:00:31 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not bad to do that. You're lucky, in fact, because the two o you are still friends. That means no resentments, no hatred, no blaming. Not many former couples are that lucky. I think the real questions are/should be: Is that really why he's dating her? and Why are you two living in two different states apart?. One or the other should move to where the other one is, and pronto!
2006-12-30 12:11:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can't see why you and the ex are not together. it seems strange for two people supposedly in love, like you have explained that you and your ex are. why can't you get together. maybe one of you could relocate to the same state. its a shame to be apart when you both are miserable without the other. just rearrange one life and be together, life is to short. as for the gf 3 wks, there can't be any commitments.
2006-12-30 12:13:45 · answer #8 · answered by bettys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it s not bad because i do the same thing to my ex and i mean we still have a ton of fellings for each other and i mean i send him love letters and he has a girl friend so no its not bad
2006-12-30 12:01:30 · answer #9 · answered by ballin221 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no it's not bad to do it, especially if you are in love and stuff. It's just a shame you had to wait until he had a girl to realize your feelings. (Jealousy can be good at times).
2006-12-30 12:00:34 · answer #10 · answered by charity16sand 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋