My son is 1 1/2 how do I get him to understand NO!! Is spanking and yelling the wrong thing to do????

Question

I'm a single dad and my son is hitting the dogs but do I yell or spank or what????? Need advice please. When we go to other peoples houses its embarrasing when he is getting in to stuff , I tell him NO and he wont stop.....

Answer 1

At 1-1/2 he may not fully understand "no" yet. When he does something wrong, find a corner or a stair and sit him down. Don't let him get up. A few minutes at a timeis usually all that is required at that age. He will associate the word "no" with being punished. No matter where you are store, mall, movies, etc. there is always a quiet spot to put him for a time out.

I reserved spanking/hitting for things that could harm my child - like running into the street, turning on the stove, and putting things in the electric outlets. My theory on that was if it can hurt you, I get to hit you. Worked all the way to the teen years.

Answer 2

at 18 months time outs are the best thing. I know it's hard, I have 18 month old twins! I know they're in to everything, all the time.

You need to tell him firmly, no. You don't have to yell at him, yet ha ha. Tell him no, remove him from the situation. It's not going to hurt him to sit for a minute or two. He's not going to like it, so I suggest sitting with him, to make sure he stays put, until he gets the hang of things. Other than that, just try to understand where he's coming from. He just started walking, not too long ago, he's exploring the world around him. Get him something he CAN get into, he'll think it's great fun. He's too little to spank, but a pop on the hand, when he's getting into something bad, won't hurt him either. I've had to pop my little boy for biting his twin sister! Not hard, just to get him to pay attention to me, and let go of her. My twins know what no means, they don't like it either. If you tell my daughter, "That's enough," even if she's not doing anything, she'll lay down and cry. I discovered this when I was telling her older brother, that was enough whining.

Good luck, he's a toddler. I promise that stage doesn't last forever. Someday he'll be a teenager, oh joy!

Answer 3

No yelling, or spanking,
It's time for time out.
Don't pick him up.Sit his little but* in a little chair.
Tell him why he's sitting there. Put a egg timer on,
where he can't reach. 1,2, 3, 4, 5 minuet's at first.
If he gets up, put him back. Don't have long
conversations with him.
When he can get up tell him,
" No hitting the dog", or whatever, and give him a hug.
When he gets older make the time longer.
Ask him why he was sitting in time out to see if he understands why. Then give him a hug, pat on the back, whatever guys do. LOL

Answer 4

Yelling doesn't always to the trick, and spanking can make him think that it's ok to hit. Try putting him in a timeout when he does things he's not supposed to. Tell him no, then remove him from that room. It's best to be consistent. Don't be embarassed to show a little disapline. Even at someone elses house, it's ok to tell him no. You just have to be firm. But you should never spank him.

Answer 5

a 1 and a half year old does not benefit from spanking. Actually no one does. He's hitting the dogs and YOU are hitting him???
When he does something wrong turn him to look you in the eye and tap his hand sharply while saying "NO". Then pick him up and remove him from that area and situation. After a minute or 2 you can go back. Spanking just lets out your anger on your child.

Answer 6

I think your son is definitely old enough to understand the concept of no. Don't yell at him, that won't do any real good. If my child was doing this, I would immediately correct him by sternly saying "No" or "Don't do that, we don't hit dogs. If you do it again, you're getting a spanking". If he does it again, spank him. He'll get the message. Talking just doesn't cut it, sometimes.

Answer 7

Spanking and yelling only prove that you have no parenting skills. At his age he doesn't understand what "no" means. he's a toddler not an adult, he doesn't think like an adult he thinks like an 18 month old baby which is what he is. Stop expecting him to behave as an adult. If you have a problem with disciplining him then I suggest you don't take thim to anyone's homes until you get some parenting skills. Also don't ALLOW your child to wander around someone's home unattended. Take things to entertain him when you are at someone else's home. And SUPERVISE your child, don't give him a chance to get into stuff.

Answer 8

Does he give you eye contact and can he keep eye contact with you? When you see him do something you dis-approve of, pull him away from the situation No Yelling, No spanking. He is only 1 and 1/2.

Answer 9

no yelling talking is the key.no spanking just shames and hurts.you can try a time out but he is young.a time out for him would be 1min.best thing you could do is keep removing him from the situation and say no ,sit him on your lap and talk to him so your at eye level,try to help him understand like [ daddy doesn't want you to get hurt so we don't touch these things [what ever it may be ] you will do this alot so don't get discouraged we all go through it. don't be embarrassed he is a child this is how they learn.there is no quick fix just patience. good luck.

Answer 10

I would tell him "No" very firmly, then remove him from the situation. At a later time I would take him to the dogs and have him pet them gently, put your hand on his and guide him. Tell him what a good boy he's being and this is how we pet the dpgs nicely, and give him lots of praise. He'll crave the positive attention from you and will want to engage in activities that gain him that attention. My 18 month old has never been spanked, but she definitely knows what "No" means and listens to it most of the time. She now seeks out the things that we've taught her to do and we always respond with telling her how good she's being. A good example is that when she first met my friends baby she wanted to pull his hair. We told her "No" and took her away from the baby. We later taight her how to stroke his head gently. Now when she sees him she strokes his head softly and looks at us and we give her lots of praise.