My gf and I and another couple of our friends went to France, While in paris we had planned on going to Monets house which is about a 45 min train ride outside of Paris and we'd been talking bout this for awhile now. These friends of ours Deanna (wears the pants and makes the decisions) and Chris decide 5mins before we were going to leave that she didnt want to go and went up to my gf and I and said do you mind if i dont come. So she doenst come and doesnt even say I'm sorry or give any reason or anything. Just so she and her bf could go roaming around and do nothing all day. This was the last day of the trip and we had 11 days of this trip already and we were all planning on going to Monet's house. Whats your take on the way she went about this, was it rude?
2006-12-30 11:35:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
She was a little rude but you and your girl were still able to see Monet's house right? You say this was the last day of a 11 day trip. ..That's a lot of time to spend with another couple. Maybe she just wanted to spend that last day with Chris by herself. Yes , she should have mentioned it sooner but if out of 11 days with another couple on a trip and this is your BIGGEST complaint .... you should consider yourself lucky.
2006-12-30 13:29:03 · answer #1 · answered by yeah , yeah whatever 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why you think it was rude. You had already spent 10 days in France together, and she probably just wanted to have a "romantic" time in Paris with her boyfriend! True, she could have told you the day before, but maybe she just decided that on the spur of the moment. But even if she didn't, you and your girlfriend still went there, didn't you? So I don't really what's rude about it. I mean, you're still going to see them at home, right? If her boyfriend was not happy about the situation, I don't think it is any of your business. You kind of remind me of my friend's sister-in-law!!!
2006-12-30 20:58:45 · answer #2 · answered by Offkey 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not sure that I understand what the problem is. She didn't stop you and your gf going did she? Why shouldn't they go off and do their own thing. I realise that she changed her mind late but I would rather her do that than come along and not really want to be there. I don't think that she was being rude....and she did say 'do you mind if I don't come'. I think that you are being a little too sensitive.
2006-12-30 19:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she did anything wrong either. I would have been glad from the break from being around these people for 11 days. It didn't spoil your plans did it? Did you still go? I hope so. She did cancel a little late, but what's the problem? I hope it didn't spoil your trip.
2006-12-30 19:45:55 · answer #4 · answered by bon b 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel it was rude. Maybe her and her man got in a fight that you are unaware of or maybe she simply just did not want to go. Chances are if she gave you a reason it would not have been the truth anyways. Would you rather have been lied to? Plans change all the time.
2006-12-30 19:44:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it was rude to break plans after committing to them without giving proper notice. If they did not want to go they should have said that before planning on going. I would not hold a grudge though..but mabye explain to them that you were offended in order to salvage the friendship. I would not hold a grudge personally but yes it was rude because you all did make plans.
2006-12-30 20:45:41 · answer #6 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Maybe her reason was a personal one (not feeling well, women's troubles, etc). She didn't interfere with your going, and she had the courtesty to ask if your gf minded. She wasn't rude at all IMHO.
2006-12-30 19:44:02 · answer #7 · answered by glitterkittyy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
very rude they shouldn't have done something like that without even an explanation. That is so terrible I hope you work things out or talk to ur friends
2006-12-30 19:46:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
it doesn't sound like she is rude she might of just wanted abit of alone time with her boyfriend im sure you wanted time alone with your gf trust me she just wanted to have nooky nooky in france with her bf without you and your gf hearing them lol
2006-12-30 19:45:20 · answer #9 · answered by Sammy T 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
So go by yourself. She didn't want to go,be glad,there is nothing worse than be with someone that doesn't want to be where you want to go.
2006-12-30 20:14:32 · answer #10 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋