Parent's against spanking?

Question

First off I would like to say that this is only a question and not an acusation. I feel that every one has the rite to chose how they will raise their children. That being said I was wondering How you as a non spanking parent would explain the rise in violent crime commited by children 12-18. I have heard it said that spanking a child leads to violent behavior later in life. And most of the children today will have grown up in the age of "time outs" And positive parenting so why is it then violent crime in this age group climing?

I must add that it is true that 50% of the children commiting these crimes have most likely been spanked It is also true that 50% have not been. What I want to know is how you explain the ones who haven't been spanked commiting these crimes.If it is in fact true that spanking leads to violent behaior later in life.

No melissa I am not saying you should spank your child If you had read the question you would have read that I wanted your opinon as a non spanking parent why violent crime being commited by children has been on the rise.See if you were to read the answers from those who believe in spanking some say it is because children are not spanked enough.

Answer 1

Everyone has to blame some one else for their children not listening to what they say, and doing things as you have stated. spanking or not spanking a child means nothing, what works is set a example for your child, teach them verbally what is wrong and right. Violent behavior later in life is sometimes peer pressure or that is what they have saw a home. Parents of children in that age group also have might leave children on their own to much, not know who their friends are, let TV or computer entertain their children, not be involved in their child's life enough to know what is going on in their life. Parents need to nip it in the butt before it gets out of hand. Some parent's have no idea of what a child can do and get into on a computer, monitoring that could help, also time limits. I do feel like children protective services has to much power, children learn young now days that if a parent does not do what they say, they just call children's protective services and have the parent arrested on false charges, then that child is in control from that day on. It does happen and children learn this very easily from other children, Internet and TV. Some , not all of the myspace kids in that age bracket really are scary, their parents would probably have a heart attack if they knew what them kids were into and who their friends are. It is real scary.

Answer 2

actually, despite what the media would have you believe, 90% of children are spanked (statistic received from my college Parenting class taken 2 years ago). A greater than 10% of parents believe spanking is wrong, but I can't remember the exact number on that one.

That being said, along with the fact that I don't believe in spanking, I don't believe it contributes much to the crime rate. Abuse, yes. Spanking, no. My reasons for not spanking are for other reasons.

For one thing, it has been proven ineffective. It is a good short term solution, but teaches kids to lie about what they did wrong more than anything. Chances are that the kids you see acting up in public are actually spanked (again, se 90% stat). Chances are that the kids that make people say "The world is crazy!" are spanked. So that alone should tell you something. It makes kids fear their parents, and does not teach natural consequences for behavior, only that certain behaviors will get you in trouble if you are caught. Also, it has been associated with lower IQ, more depression, and other behavioral problems. Among other reasons, but the list is too long! The only time I advocate spanking is when attention is immediately needed (ie, the 4 year old is about to pull the pot of boiling water on his head afte you've told him not to go near the stove).

Answer 3

I'm only a kid, but I think that spanking is necessary for YOUNGER children, considering that they would not understand the concept of "time-out", they feel no remorse. Older children can be grounded, or have privileges taken away etc., and most likely will not benefit from spankings. Our society is WAY too sensitive today, and children need to learn at an early age to take things as they are. P.S. Spankings should not be given in anger, they shouldn't hurt TOO much. :)

Answer 4

Ok! For the record I just want to make it clear that I believe spanking should be implemented when necessary. Now I didn't say beating your child. Alot of people have gotten things mixed up over many years. Spanking is not beating! spanking is a form of discipline. And should only be used to discipline!!

See those kids out there causing violence isnt necessarily form being spanked that cant be proven. But however poor upbringing, being ignored by parents being ruleless are major leading causes to this.

These kids out causing all these violent crimes... ask yourself this.... Where are their parents? and Do their parents give a dam about them to have taught them right from wrong?

Answer 5

In my opinion the crime rate is up as a result of less discipline at home. I did not beat my children but they got 1 to 5 swats (hand only) depending on what the crime was, no pun intended. Time out was a favorite of mine but I got the best results with a good talking to, I can talk them to death. My children often asked to be spanked instead of lectured to, lol. I don't think a little spanking is bad, but no discipline will lead to children thinking they can walk all over everyone/everything and no one can touch them. Not true in the REAL world.

Answer 6

Even spanking doesn't seem to get my children's attention. They just don't care. I have only popped them on the leg or the butt but I have threatened them with a belt. I would never spank them with the belt because that is how I was disciplined back in the day when belts were 3" thick with huge belt buckles. I hate that I have to discipline them like that but it's the only thing that seems to get their attention. I'm just waiting for the day they call my bluff about the belt. They are already monstrous in their behavior. I don't know what else to do. I'm one of those people who watches Nanny 911 and say "those kids aren't that bad." How pathetic is that? Kids are just defiant and disrespectful these days. I don't know how to fix it. Wish I did. It sure would make my life more enjoyable or at least bearable.

Answer 7

Just because it is the "age of time outs and positive parenting" doesn't MEAN they have been implemented by EVERY parent raising a child. Children learn what they see, if they see violent television shows and play violent video games they learn violence (I'm not an advocate of censorship though) It is up to the PARENT to guide their children into non violent constructive pass times. In other words don't purchase the games, and turn the television OFF. And stop hitting kids. Another factor is that there are Billions more people on this planet than they were years ago as well.

Answer 8

not all of us is against spanking. some human beings decide directly to apply it with their young little ones and others do not, yet it somewhat is high-quality and it somewhat is their selection- or perhaps lots of folk who do not spank their own young little ones nevertheless won't tell human beings a thank you to enhance their young little ones. even inspite of the shown fact that, any sane individual is against beating little ones, it somewhat is what you're advocating. there's a difference between spanking and beating. Spanking is a speedy smack or 2 on the butt including your hand. once you start up utilising weapons on your little ones you're easily beginning off to bypass the line...and extremely almost each and every tale I examine some toddler who died on the palms of their abusive mum and dad mentions that their mum and dad have been beating them with belts or another variety of merchandise. Beating young little ones with footwear, belts, switches and so on. is senseless and unsafe.

Answer 9

I believe discipline is very important in raising children. Fortunately for me my oldest (10 yrs) daughter has never really needed to be spanked, she is a sweet child. On the other hand her sis (2 yrs) may be the one that will need spankings she's a little ball of dynamite.

Answer 10

Personally, I think it is because children don't grow up having the same morals and values as their parents...they spend so little time with their parents and so much time in daycare. I've worked in daycare. We were trained to NOT push OUR values and morals off on the kids. It was essentially a value-free setting. When a child is in that kind of setting for 8-10 hours a day, and they only get a couple of hours with their parents who are tired after a day of work, what can we expect?

Also, particularly if a child enters daycare as an infant, they don't have the opportunity to bond with anyone 8-10 hours a day. Why would they hold human life to be sacred if they missed that opportunity?

Like you, I'm not accusing anyone of bad parenting. I realize that a LOT of kids MUST go to daycare so that their parent/parents can simply make ends meet. But I did a huge study on this when I was in college, and it was really scary.