I have a small family. there is only me,mum,brother,mum's boyfriend,nan,grandad,uncle. The rest of the family we aren't really close to. Everytime we go to each others house i always feel akward. My Grandad always makes comments about something i'm wearing/hairstyle etc. Just a little dig everytime,, and this makes me feel awkward around my family. My Nan is ok,, but can be very naggy and i tend to be quiet around her because i don't want her to be moaning at me. My uncle make comments like earlier today he said i sshould take my coat back to the shop? Is it me or is that just mean?
Am i being over-sensitive, or do you think i should stick up for myself?
They only ever seem to do this to me. I am 15 years old. and would like to know if you have the same thing going on with your family? Any help on what i should do?
It may sound like a stupid question, but i really would apprciate some help. Thank you/
2006-12-30 10:59:50 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is probably meant as light hearted teasing and not meant to hurt you at all. Because you are 15 you are sensitive and take the teasing seriously. Just understand that they don't mean to make you feel bad. You could try making a joke about it everytime they say something. Or just laugh and say something like "yeah you're right, I do like to wear some unique things!"
2006-12-30 11:08:16 · answer #1 · answered by Kathy M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i always had the same prob as a teen i would either say thanks and smile just to be sarcastic or tell them to bite me. So long as you like how you look ignore them darling. If it gets to where it is totally unbearable stand up for yourself. I am almost 30 and some ppl in my family still make snide remarks to me I don't let it bother me I realize they are close minded retards and will never out grow it unfortunatly i come from a family full of them lol good luck and god bless
2006-12-30 12:37:50 · answer #2 · answered by shedevilang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just something that older people do when they have lost their sense of fashion. Don't take it to heart, they are just teasing! I remember when I was your age, my older generation just didn't get it either, but looking back some of the fads were a bit ridiculous and I am embarrassed of pictures with me wearing some of this stuff. Here's what you can do.....ask to see pictures of the harrassing party when they were your age and be sure to comment on the clothing and hairstyles. They will see that they fed into some odd fashions too. Remind them that they were young once and experimented with trends too. Don't take it to heart!
2006-12-31 02:37:27 · answer #3 · answered by stacey h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Old people are mean. Share how you feel with them if for no other reason than to get it off your mind. Be careful - if they are truly mean then knowing how you feel might push them to make more comments more often. If this happens, give back what you are getting. 'Dig' on each of them when you get the chance.
Some people are only happy with those around them are upset.
2006-12-30 11:05:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would stick up for myself or it could continue on forever. When they comment on your clothes or hairstyle, just politely tell them they you like how you look or the clothes that you are wearing. Maybe you could even give them a dose of their own medicine and make a comment about their appearance.
2006-12-31 01:54:12 · answer #5 · answered by Deborah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disowned my family for stuff like that when I was 15...
But if that's not an option for you like it was for me, simply tell them that you are you, this is America and you have the right to walk around with pancakes stacked on top of your head and syrup oozing out of every pore if that's your wish....without being ridiculed for it. They ridicule your style, they ridicule you, and no real family member would do that to another. End of story.
2006-12-30 11:05:45 · answer #6 · answered by Detroit Diva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know its not easy but try your best to ignore the comments-as long as your comfortable with what your wearing and its not trashy then dont worry about it-you shouldnt have to change the way you dress for anyone as long as all your body parts are covered up-maybe try and talk to your mom about it if you think there is a chance she will understand or you can always reply with the good old saying-werent you ever taught that if you didnt have anything nice to say then dont say anything at all.........
2006-12-30 11:07:57 · answer #7 · answered by coldasice617 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has never happened to me but if I were you I would tell a closer family member such as a parent, and they may give you more good advice,but make sure they don't make a big speech or something bad might happen!!! Good luck!!!
2006-12-30 11:07:14 · answer #8 · answered by Tasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinoin a family should always be supportive, i cannot know if this something serious or just something playful, people from older generations will always be set in their ways, i myself cannot relate to my parents, if it's getting to you alot you should say something just to test the ground and see how they react, you don't have to be unhappy.
2006-12-31 08:01:20 · answer #9 · answered by catalyist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋