2006-12-30 10:39:33 · 41 answers · asked by Melissa H 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
the other problem is she was crying for me when I left to go to work !! now I cant get a hold of my husband and I worried about her she I just go home ?
2006-12-30 11:31:01 · update #1
the other problem is she was crying for me when I left to go to work !! now I cant get a hold of my husband and I worried about her she I just go home ?
2006-12-30 11:31:02 · update #2
why no hunny if shes with her daddy i had 3 daycares for 5 yrs and seen people dump there kids off to me pumped with Tylenol without no remorse at all>>>then they have exposed everyone elses kids i find out after there med wheres off>>>you are doing the correct thing besides it takes to incomes to make the world go around sad but true~~~~~~~~~~~~relax your fine mom
2006-12-30 10:51:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is the most wonderful Father and has stayed home with a sick child or 2 while I worked or slept (I work nights). Do I feel guilty sometimes?? Absolutely... NOT because I don't feel comfortable leaving then with him just because I am the MOM.... we have a natural instinct to take care of our family and these times are no different.
So my opinion is this... SHOULD you feel guilty? No way.... I think we have no other choice BUT to feel guilty... it is in our nature as Mom's... This makes you normal.
Good Luck!!
2006-12-30 10:49:23 · answer #2 · answered by RaLoh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feeling guilty is natural, but not because you are doing anything wrong. As long as your husband has the time or it's his turn to do it, mothers need to get away from their kids once in a while. I encourage my wife to do it. Frankly, this is a good thing, because it bonds your daughter to her father and your daughter needs a strong bond with both her parents. Moreover, it gives more experience and confidence to your husband, so he can take over more of the child rearing.
As a father, one of the things that bugs me about child raising is that the mother becomes the chief child raiser and the father, who is totally present, is a distant second. The mother just takes over. Of course, that's what evolution and society has brought us to. Someone has to be in command, of course, or no one is, but giving the father some responsibility is good for the kid and good for the parents. Obviously, if you work and take care of the kid, you have major stress. As such, you, as a mother, need to get out some by yourself. Otherwise, you will hurt yourself and your child.
A good mother will feel guilty, but a good mother also knows when it's a good idea to step back and recharge herself and let someone else be in charge.
Additionally, someone has to bring home the bacon. Take care.
2006-12-30 10:55:02 · answer #3 · answered by Erik B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When this question came up with my first child and the worry and guilt,my father laughed and said to me" Son ,my father and his father passed this down to me and now you,you are paying for your own raising up by worrying and feeling guilty while your child is sick,out too late or not calling home when you were older" And then he laughed. So ,no don't feel too guilty cause Dad will call someone when he doesn't know what to do
2006-12-30 10:51:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to work. I'm sure if that was not the case you would not have left her. Just call home often if you need to assure yourself that things are fine. Moms do tend to worry a lot; that's why we are the naturing type! But heads up, besideyou did not leave her with a stranger. Your husband has equal responsibility for your daughter.
2006-12-30 10:43:38 · answer #5 · answered by Lilly J 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is the guilt about? If you do not think your husband is going to care for her properly, then you shouldn't leave your child with him, sick or not. If you do not think you should leave a sick child with a caring person, whatever the relationship is, you might want to look at that in yourself. Other people can love and care for your child, sick or healthy. If your husband is a responsible parent, you might want to question what you are afraid of happening in your absence? Is your guilt reasonable? What were your alternatives?
2006-12-30 10:58:21 · answer #6 · answered by Sparky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on why you feel guilty. Is your husband going to hang out in front of the television instead of give her the attention and nurturing she will need? If you believe that your husband will not take good care of her, I can understand why you feel guilty.
However, if you feel guilty because you are 'making' him care for her, no, you should not feel guilty. He is responsible for her, and needs to show her that he can be a good Daddy to her even when her Mommy can't be with her sometimes.
2006-12-30 10:44:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is a caring man then no because you can be assured that he will take care of her right! On the other hand if he is REALLY lazy and likes to just lay around watching television then I would stay home with her for a couple of days!
2006-12-30 10:42:56 · answer #8 · answered by Miranda T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't feel guilty. I think it's a normal way to feel though. Not guilty that she's "stuck" with dad, but sad that she feels lousy and that you can't be there to comfort her. Try not to feel bad. Remind yourself that going to work is important for your family and that dad will take great care of her. You can give her all the attention and comfort you want when you get home.
2006-12-30 10:48:29 · answer #9 · answered by Steph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for you to feel guilty, I would too, in fact most Mom's would. Just call home as much as you can to check in on her, and when you get home, give her lots of hugs and attention and kisses. See if you can get off a little early to go be with her. And tell yourself that your husband is just as capable of taking care of her as you are.
2006-12-30 10:43:25 · answer #10 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋