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my dad wants me and my bro to go to his house tomorrow for new years. his neighbor is going to do a bbq and his wife's family is going to be there...do you think it would be mean if i told him that i don't want to go because i have other plans?? he's suppose to give me 150 for christmas tomorrow too.......

2006-12-30 10:36:30 · 20 answers · asked by <3 2 in Family & Relationships Family

the reason why i didn;t get my x-mas present is because he lives far away and i didn't see him b4 christmas or on christmas.

2006-12-30 10:49:12 · update #1

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Now, my one question is HOW OLD ARE YOU? Now there will be a time, hopefully not too soon that your father may not be here, like dieing, and he won't be here to ask you anything or give you anything. At first glance at this question I thought that the only reason you would like another persons opinion is because of the Christmas present. Now what is 150 is it dollars, rocks, what. You are having trouble finding time for Dad. The words you used was we were not together on Christmas was for the distance factor,is this what you are trying to say? I feel in my heart of hearts you don.t want to go because there are emotions that are at play. My advice to you is talk to someone you trust. If you do not love your father and the only reason you would go is the money God help you. I would also ask you when did your Mom and Dad divorce? I think this has hurt you allot. Talk to someone close, your Mom or Sister? Tell your Dad the Truth, that would be if you want to be with him, Ask your brother how he feels. Then maybe you can group his feeling and your and find out why you don'y want to go?While your Father is still alive talk with him.He might have some real good answers for you and your brother. Remember still waters run deep,find out why you and possibly your brother feel the wqay you do?

2006-12-30 11:28:27 · answer #1 · answered by Mariberry 2 · 0 0

Why can't u do both? Be honest with your dad ahead of time and tell him that u have already made plans.Then tell him that u are still coming because u want to see him but that u can't stay for a real long time.Thats what a responsible person would do.I wish u luck and if he gets upset then that is his problem because u have done all u can.Happy New Year.If he lives that far and u can't do both then u need to see him since u didn't see him for Xmas.You will only have one father.Treat him good.

2006-12-30 10:49:26 · answer #2 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0 0

If you have plans, you have plans. So there is nothing mean about it and he should understand. However, you should try to do something nice for him to make him happy, and maybe compromise and go to his house early on to eat some BBQ but go to your other plans later. The $150 has nothing to do with it. That's Christmas, this is New Years you are talking about.

2006-12-30 10:41:17 · answer #3 · answered by A T 2 · 0 0

If you are telling the truth then yes it is fine.
You have other plans, it's not like you're cancelling for nothing. Just think if you don't go, your Dad'll be u[set and you won't get the money. If you do then you will and your Dad'll be happy. Plus if he lives far away then it might be good to make a effort to see him. It's really up to you i'm just giving my views :)

2006-12-30 11:25:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

At this late time, Yes you are mean. You should have told him sooner then later. Sounds like you want the money only from him and he wants a relationship with you. Try and find a compromise like eat dinner there and leave around 10pm.

2006-12-30 10:43:04 · answer #5 · answered by jewelsthomas 5 · 0 0

I think it's nice that your dad wants you to spend time with him. Alot of kids fathers (and mothers) are absent from their lives. Consider yourself fortunate. What does his wife's family being there or him giving you $150.00 for X-mas have to with anything. It's not about the money or his wife, it's about spending quality time with someone who cares about you.

2006-12-30 15:47:15 · answer #6 · answered by AngelWings 2 · 0 0

well, is it important for you to spend new years with ur dad and how important it is for him too. Maybe you can compromise. You can go to the bbq earlier and then leave (around like 8-9-sh) and go to ur other party.
Good luck

2006-12-30 10:53:59 · answer #7 · answered by Unicorn 3 · 0 0

I think it's always preferable to be honest. Tell your father how you feel and why you feel that way. It doesn't matter whether it's mean or not, it's true, and he needs to know so that he can change whatever it is that makes you not want to go and spend New Year's there. If he doesn't want to change it, then at least you know how he feels as well.

2006-12-30 10:40:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

i would tell him, your dad will be sad but it's better to be honest as soon as you can, and that way he doesn't have to be more hurt when he finds that your not having funn at all while your there. He's your dad im' sure he'll understand, and maybe spend the next new year's with him for not spending this one.

2006-12-30 10:42:51 · answer #9 · answered by jeannn. 1 · 0 0

spend some time w/ your dad then go on w/ your other plans. It probably doesn't seem like much to you now,but when hes gone forever, you wil wish you had spent more time w/ him. Plus it will mean the world to him.

2006-12-30 11:04:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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