I'm 25 and recently had to move home (there was no other choice) for a couple months for a seasonal job. I get along great with my parents (most of the time), but they have a tendancy to treat me like I'm 15 which really gets on my nerves. Recently, things have felt a little strained around the house and I'm worried that some day soon, someone is going to lose it. I'll be moving away in three months, but I need some suggestions on how to keep the peace until then. Any ideas? (Serious answers only please).
2006-12-30 10:32:13 · 15 answers · asked by spyhopper 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sit down with your parents and tell them how you feel then all of you can sort out the little niggles that are driving them crazy.
Remember that you're lucky they let you move back in and as you're living under their roof you will have to live by their rules.
I hope that as an adult you are paying your mum housekeeping and doing your own laundry, cooking some of the meals etc as this will be the adult way of dealing with this and will show you are an adult not a child.
2006-12-30 10:43:31 · answer #1 · answered by madamspud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and calmly talk to them about your issues. Open the lines of communication. You'd be surprised how much that can help. If you try to handle this like an adult they're more likely to treat you like one.
Also, you're leaving in three months so sometimes maybe you just have to relax and not let certain things get to you because they are only temporary, right?
2006-12-30 20:52:24 · answer #2 · answered by lupin_1375 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer to help out around the house (run the vaccum, empty the dishwasher, feed the cat, etc). Try clearing the air and explain to them (as calmly as possible) that while you appreciate that they are helping you out, that you are an adult and feel like you are being treated like a teenager {they may not even realize that they are doing it}. Just remember that the situation is only temporary and that both parties have to give and take.
2006-12-30 12:16:25 · answer #3 · answered by superpara12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a rough one. I am only 22 and been living out of the house since I was 18 and could not imagine moving home. You just gotta go out and stay out of each others hair for most of the time and suck it up when they ask you to something stupid
2006-12-30 10:36:10 · answer #4 · answered by bm10842000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your mom a bunch of flowers and let her know that you appreciate her...that should calm things down for a while. Then just remember it is their home and it is not a right but a privaledge to be there. Make their annoying habits into a joke and if you expect them to react in a way ahead of time you will cope better. Good luck
2006-12-30 10:35:57 · answer #5 · answered by Marmitemonster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's easy. Keep a busy schedule and stay out of the house as much as possible. Take this as an opportunity to expand on your social life. If you're always "busy" it won't be a big deal to them anyway and you won't go crazy being at home too much. Just get out of the house and stay out unless you need to be there....sleep, eat, leave.
2006-12-30 10:36:17 · answer #6 · answered by A T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
question is how do they tolerate you moving back in? remember you are a guest in their home, the same as if a family member needed to stay with you for any reason. as long as you're there, respect them and be understanding. that is being adult. anything they say or do is because they love you or think its right in their minds. you don't hv to agree, just nod and move on. it shldn't matter who is right or wrong, be greatful you hv a roof over your head and caring parents. basically change your perspective.
2006-12-30 10:37:50 · answer #7 · answered by bb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just try to stay calm and dont be the first to snap. If you have to dont do anything gross like have a girl over and you know...anyways...or you can tell your parents that you are no longer 15 and see if they will change how they are treating you.
2006-12-30 10:36:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
remind them and urself that ur 25, u need space n time. tell then how u feel , trust me they'll understand. if that doesnt work then move into a friends house or ur grandmas or sumthin like a hotel
2006-12-30 11:12:49 · answer #9 · answered by baby_booboo_77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we will always be 15 to our parents. My suggestion is to sit down and talk to them and let them know how you feel. Once you do this, you put the burden of change on their shoulders. Nothing may change but you have shown that you are adult enough to talk to them.
2006-12-30 10:36:06 · answer #10 · answered by Rick R 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋