My boyfriend and I just got back together after breaking up for 6 months. We were fighting constantly over his problems with intimacy. Since we got back together, things have been completely different. He is very loving and affectionate. Keeping the history in mind, I am really upset by a couple things.
First, I wrote him this really personal and thoughtful card with his Christmas presents. He read the card and I know he was touched by it, but then he threw it away. He lied about it (claims he didn't want to upset me) but finally admitted that it tore in his pocket and he threw it away. He told me it was the words that matter, that he read them and loved them, and apologized for lying and hurting my feelings.
Second, he told me he hadn't slept or hooked up with anyone else when we were broken up. Later, he tells me he made out with some chick on the dance floor one night. I don't care that he kissed some girl but feel like he lied to me.
Is it ridiculous I am upset over these things
2006-12-30 10:23:11 · 11 answers · asked by AbbyM 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no hun u arent! i believe any girl would get upset over these things, he sounds to me like he lies about certain things and that is not good. tell him you are worried because you aren't sure that u trust him! good luck, but be careful!
2006-12-30 10:26:50 · answer #1 · answered by katie l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The christmas card thing, I mean if he is telling you the truth it ripped so he threw it out then no, you shouldn't be that upset. You can be a little upset mainly because you put your heart and feelings into that card, but if he were to just throw it away for no reason then be upset, but not if something happened to it.
Secondly, with the girl thing, well he probably didn't tell you earlier on because he didn't want to make you mad, he should of told you the truth when you asked him the first time but he was probably a little worried that you would of gotten upset, the good thing is that he did tell you, he could of hid it and you would of never found out, but it is good that he did tell you. Anyways, it happened when you two werent together so don't stress over it that much, remeber you are the one with him now and that is all that matters. Good luck.
2006-12-30 10:32:30 · answer #2 · answered by vwbabe7463 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
noooo its not bad that u are upset because the same thing happened between me and my boyfriend he has lied to me about somethngs and then when i asked him about it another time he decided to tell me the truth. i got pretty mad at him but i love him and he had reasons for lying. I'm not saying that it was ok for him to lie but he at least told me the truth. i think that you should just wait and see what happens if he keeps lying then yea break up with him but if he stops......
you also have to think about how much you like/love him if u dont think that yall are going to get anywhere then break up with him if you think that yall can work through the problems and make it into something then stay with him.
its your choice
2006-12-30 10:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by Nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let these things go,,they are not too important but the future relationship is,,he isnt someone who is intimate easily and he is trying,,you have to accept that this is something he thinks is normal but is trying for you.he needs to get used to it,,to see the benefits of what closeness brings,,to feel that being an affectionate person brings great rewards if he wants a happy relationship with you,,he is trying,he is just a novice,,if you want change from someone who has had these ideas of right and wrong you have to accept it takes time,,it literally is a habit of a lifetime.to you affection given freely may be nothing,,to him it may be something he feels is something he isnt used to and change brings fear.encourage and reward,getting grumpy wont help you.
2006-12-30 10:32:36 · answer #4 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the words are what count, and guys aren't like girls in the fact that we hold on to things likle cards and such. also maybe he didnt tell you about the chick b/c he doesn't want to ruin a good thing over someone who he will never see again. also u gotta think that u were broken up, so good luck.. 8)
2006-12-30 10:27:33 · answer #5 · answered by sugar69c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all. It part of being human. I feel the same about my girlfriend. the way she lies, and when I find out the truth, I'm hurt. But I always forgive her, and she always does her best to please me, and make me happy. so you're a tad paranoid, everyone is. Best thing to do is forget about it. The only thing we gain from dwelling on the past is lost time. Be glad you have some to love you. there are some who don't(I'm glad I'm not one of those people)
2006-12-30 10:28:56 · answer #6 · answered by Snake 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would be nic if he told the truth the first time. This should hurt the most. The other yu could rwrite off as just him being thoughtless.
2006-12-30 10:27:12 · answer #7 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you have a right to be upset. He is a LIAR and a CHEAT. Move on with your life without him. Whats to say he wont do it again? THat card was a flimsy eccuse .. and it spoke volumes. Forget about him. He is worthless.
2006-12-30 10:31:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-15 11:51:53 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is alright to be upset that he is constantly lieing to you. A guy doesn't change, he will just keep lying to you to tell you what you want to hear.
2006-12-30 10:28:48 · answer #10 · answered by rose 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋