wrote a thankyou letter to santa thanking him for the gifts for xmas but the one that was at the top of her list was not fullfilled ( she wanted her father to visit and he never even called), i have thought about putting the letter through his door, would you?
2006-12-30 09:52:56 · 83 answers · asked by trouble 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yes - if the father has been good to you and the child before yes - however, if the father did not want her ever and has no regard for her, I wouldn't - it would only make him angry then and could lead to problems...so it basically depends on his attitude towards the child.....
Another good idea is to frame a pic of her father with a card and a note as though he wrote it...saying that he wouldn't be able to be there but he's sent his love and he thinks of her every day....
I think if u have no other option, a white lie won't hurt...
2006-12-30 21:13:00 · answer #1 · answered by honey007rmsas 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Why are some people so inconsiderate? For her to have that at the top of her list she must really love her father. Does he realise the emotional damage he is doing to his daughter?
I would photocopy the letter and send it to him. That way your daughter does't feel betrayed by you for not sending it to Santa.
One day your beautiful little girl will be all grown up and when she has no time for a visit or a phone call to her father, maybe then he will realise it's his fault.
You sound like a great mum, keep up the good work, OH, and I hope your little girl had a Merry Christmas anyway...
2006-12-30 10:02:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Don't put that letter through his door! Do you understand why dad didn't visit or call? Communicating this to someone so young can be painful even if his job truly prevented him from doing his parental duty. If dad is a deadbeat, then this isn't the first time he's copted out. Let your child know that even dads don't do what they're supposed to do, but that you love and cherish her and maybe one day dad will too. Be ready for tears, but she will soon understand. Maybe dad will mature in the future. The best to you and your child. Jinxy53
2006-12-30 13:39:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes I would...why oh why don't some Parents stop & think of the hurt & pain they cause their Children...this (if continued) will affect the rest of this poor little girls life...not to mention all future relationships with Men.
He has to be made aware how much he's hurting her...it just may be that he doesn't realise...no excuse though, if he lives close enough for you to put the letter through his door then he lives close enough to not have a reason for not turning up.
Why on earth wouldn't he want to be with his little girl & see her face light up when she opens her presents on xmas day.
2006-12-30 16:52:58 · answer #4 · answered by Funky 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If the father did not come because he is a scumbag. Yes, send the letter and your own letter telling him that you did not put her up to sending the letter. That she wrote to Santa at her own free will. If he did not come because he working e.g. Doctor, nurse , Pharmacist, Police, etc.... Then don't send the letter. But regardless let him know that his daughters heart was broken without a call.
2006-12-30 10:01:32 · answer #5 · answered by jewelsthomas 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one. My first response was to advise you to go ahead and show him the letter. Maybe he will wake up and realize he has responsibilities to a your daughter. But on second thought, maybe it would be better if he just continued to stay out of her life instead of simply popping up periodically whenever he feels like it and then disappointing her all the more when he doesn't. That may screw her up more than anything. Either he is committed to being a part of her life or he isn't. And if he can't choose then maybe you should choose to keep him out of it. It may be better for your daughter in the long run. Good luck.
2006-12-30 10:03:14 · answer #6 · answered by Girasol 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is a good idea, to put this letter through the father's door. Maybe it makes him think of his loving child instead of being just self-centred.
2007-01-06 11:09:59 · answer #7 · answered by Justine T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he deserves the letter. But most importantly, the child needs to know that it is not because of him/her that the daddy "never even called". It is because of the daddy. We can't control the doings of others, we just need to remember not to base our feelings of self worth on what others do or don't do. Remind the child that he/she is beautiful and very loved. Then name all the people who did remember the child at Christmas. Don't put too much weight on the daddy's not remembering. He doesn't deserve the air time.
2007-01-06 14:41:02 · answer #8 · answered by greeneyedgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately Santa can only make some wishes come true, He wishes he can make everybody understand the meaning of Christmas, (Love & Family). He can make presents, but can not make people do things....
santa tryed to make all the things on the list. but dad has to help to.....
Its just a thought, good luck.
(id put the letter under his door) . it can not hurt. If he cares he will try. if not sometimes thats the way it goes. your child will realise the truth one day..at least he/she has Mum.
and a caring mum.
2006-12-30 10:06:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
i think that is incredibly sweet that you child is so well mannered to write and thank santa! perhaps her father does not realise that by not visiting or even calling her had such a profound effect on her. maybe you should talk to him and show him the letter, rather than just put it through his door, it might have more effect on him.
2006-12-30 22:21:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
To be honest u should tell the father wot his daughter fells show him the letter if he does seem to give a sh1t then just do as u are doing and keep showing the love and that ur there for her no matter wot!if he doesn then its his loss there are words for people like that its well wrong!!!!G L
2007-01-06 06:14:30 · answer #11 · answered by steven c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋