I told my close female friend that I needed time away from her to clear my head after she kept giving me undecisive answers if we'll go further than friends.She said if that's how I feel then she respects that and that maybe I do need time to sort my head out.(told her I don't know what to think\do anymore about her undecisiveness,am confused,need to clear my head).
The conversation ended on this note, with her saying:
She then said there are too many ppl in the world who are 2 faced and selfish,who don't value individuals like she does.Is hurt that OTHER ppl don't value ppl the way she does.MEANING???
She hurt?Would she still be thinking about me?The friendship over? I've tried to call her 3 times-no answer and have txt her-no reply. Will she get in touch with me or has she decided she wants nothing to do with me anymore?
I really want to be friends-have accepted thats all we'll be.Is there anything else I can do?
I regret everything I've done...she's really special.
2006-12-30 09:48:48 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For xmas I sent her a xmas card and a small teddy(saying special friend)-just saying merry xmas and happy new year. I wrote a short message how special and unique she is+ how important the friendship is to me.
Am not sure if she has received it yet.Would she get in touch after receiving it?
p.s. the txt didn't mention any of this-just kept it simple e.g. hey,how are you? etc
2006-12-30 09:49:06 · update #1
it sounds like maby she does have feelings for you but she is scared of being hurt. fear is hard to deal with. after you told her you need your space, you hurt her feelings. i can't say if she will call you back or not but keep trying for a little while longer and if she doesn't reply, maby your friendship is over. and that should make you question your friendship anyways.
2006-12-30 09:55:54 · answer #1 · answered by ltonyasfun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the undecisiveness you are feeling in this situation is not yours. it's hers. and you took it over yourself to exercise it. it's a sentiment that does not belong to you, it is completely foreign to you and as such it feels utterly... well, confusing.
let me put it this way: if u look back at the beginning of your relationship (whatever that was) u might remember what exactly you felt, you wanted, how you were behaving. do you.
you might notice it's all clear.
if anyone has an issue to sort out, it's not you, it's her. gals have this mantra that males are not ready to commit and so on and so forth. well, guess what, it goes both ways. they can experience this behaviour too.
so what now? remember the beginning: u were clear and stable. once u did, if u still feel it's worth doing it, have a chat with her. and ask your questions. u will know if she is telling the truth or hiding it (she might do it unconscioulsy, mind you. be indulgent and allow her to tell lies: she might be lying to herself too).
try it, u'll see it's big phun to have a conversation from a position of stability.
take care man
2006-12-30 18:08:09 · answer #2 · answered by dan g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen mate, I am about to be very cruel to be kind here , Iapologise in advance. I know how much you like this girl(check out his questions people, he has 63 just about her), but she DOES NOT like you in that way, and probably SHE NEVER EVER WILL.
There is nothing you can do about this, and you certainly aren't at fault, it's just something that happens to us all, we like someone, they don't like us back, we fall in love, but they just want to be friends.........................or the cruellest of all, they did love you, but don't anymore.........
You seem a really nice bloke, but you are obsessed with this friendship you have with this girl, so much so she has withdrawn all contact from you!
You have GOT to let this go, be sad and angry and all that, but you have to move forwards and forget her.
Maybe one day you will be friends again, but I recommend you leave her alone, as hard as that might be
. Now go get drunk, smash up your room, whatever it takes to get you through what is sure to be hurting you really bad, and you will get over her, and get on with life.
Good luck.
2006-12-30 18:11:17 · answer #3 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time,maybe she wants to clear her head,did you ask her for more out of the blue or were you getting signs she wanted more,she might feel like she lost you as a friend when you wanted to go further
2006-12-30 18:02:24 · answer #4 · answered by NATALIE W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wants more than just friends and you with your cards and "friends only messages" are not what she wants to hear. She will ignore you until she feels she can have you.... give up on it....
2006-12-30 17:54:47 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she isn't interested in you romantically and didn't know exactly how to tell you.
2006-12-30 17:54:41 · answer #6 · answered by Joel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have i answered this question b/4 and more than once?
2006-12-30 18:11:25 · answer #7 · answered by snowflakes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋