How do i get him back?
i don't want to hear i can't.
He dumped me and same day he went to that jessica. he said he just did not like me anymore.he hasn't even seen her and he loves her and she hasn't seen him and she loves him too. But i love him and i introduced them to each other. and i told him about a guy name greg that doesn't even exsist. but i don't want to be the one that isn't loved. and it hurts me because he thinks we are cool and i was talking to jessica and him over the phone and he told her he loves her with me ON THE PHONE!!!!!! She even told me that he makes her say that she loves him and she doesn't say i love you.
How can i reslove this issuse my heart is one a string and i don't think it can hold on much longer it hurts the nites i cry myself to sleep. What can i do. He told me he loved me, what happened ??
my heart is really on a string i need a helping hand plz i.........i love him. i act like everything is fine but its not i am confident and it hurt
2006-12-30 09:44:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am trying but i am too shy
2006-12-30 09:47:41 · update #1
Honey, it will get better, even if it doesn't feel like it right now. He's not the one for you so let him go, cut ties with him, and move on...you're just keeping yourself miserable by continuing to communicate with him. Someone who really cared for you, wouldn't dump you for someone else.
There will be other loves and other experiences...let your heart heal and move on...don't let him rent space in your head and heart for free...he doesn't deserve that...
2006-12-30 09:48:26 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are a glutton for punishment. This guy has NO concept of love and I think you don't either if you want him back. Get a REAL MAN who knows his true feelings and quit wasting time on the losers. Once you experience a man who will treat you like a lady with respect, honesty, etc. you will wonder why you ever wanted this joker in the first place. Why would you make up a guy that doesn't exist? To make him jealous or just because you dont want everyone to know you dont have a guy now. There is NO SHAME in not having a guy attached to your arm. I would not lower myself to those standards if I never had a guy again.
2006-12-30 17:51:08 · answer #2 · answered by Deb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not gonna tell you thay you can't have him, but i'll tell you that you DON"T WANT him.
I just got through the same thing a some time ago. I don't know how long you were with him, but I was with my bf almost 2 yrs and one day after a minor disagreement he said he still loved me but needed some time alone. 2 days later he was going out with that other girl. and it hurt a lot and i thought that i won't be able to go on without him. my stomach turned into a ball every time i saw him and i wanted to punch her in the face every time i saw her.
but i am fine now. i just saw him the other day and i felt nothing (and believe me that's a lot!). give yourself time to heal. distance yourself from him and from her for that matter. don't call him, don't hang out with him, if he calls tell him you can't hang out no matter how hard it will be (and believe me, it will be hard!) Tell her you can't talk about him and about what's going on between them. If she's a real friend she'll understand. If she doesn't then she's not worth having around.
surround yourself with many friends, preferably not mutual, and do as much stuff as you can. and don't forget to do stuff for yourself. think about something u've been meaning to do for a long time (start working out, join a particular club at school, etc) and do it. Now is the perfect time!
I know it hurts and it seems like life sucks and tomorrow might never come. But it will, and it will be better than today. It will take time to heal, but you will come out a stronger and a better person.
Write back if you need to talk to someone.
2006-12-30 17:57:29 · answer #3 · answered by Unicorn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when people say they Love you their definition of Love isn't the same as yours. Sometimes people say it to get what they want, but don't mean it. As painful as it is the relationship is over, there's nothing you can do about that now. You can however, stop him continuing to hurt you by not talking on the phone, or in person. As long as you still Love him it will hurt, but the hurt heals given time and that's easier if you're not in contact.
2006-12-30 17:50:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are You? Please start to learn this now girl. Let him go and don't ever go back. I'm not a man hater but the sooner you let him go and get on with your life the happier you will be. You don't need to be playing games with him or that Jessica girl.Your heart will hurt bad for awhile but it will mend and you will be all the wiser for it.
2006-12-30 17:52:19 · answer #5 · answered by miss-snoopy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are, but I see you as very young. I am a grandmother now but I can still remember a boy that hurt me like that! I know you are really hurting, but everyone looking at this is thinking you'll get over it, and you will, in the meantime, tell him and her how they've hurt you. How will they know if you don't say it? True Friends and people who really love you won't treat you this way.
2006-12-30 17:54:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look, if he is interested in someone else then what fun is it to crush on him. i know youi don't wanna hear this, but focus on other things. obviously he's too preoccupied with this other girl to even give you the time of day. just forget about him and let him feel sorry for himself for missing out on what could have been if he chose you.
2006-12-30 17:56:41 · answer #7 · answered by Surfergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him realize what he left. surround yourself with friends and loved ones that can help you through this. don't stoop to his level act like the queen you are and hold your head up. nothing makes a man feel worse than seeing that they did not cause any damage.
2006-12-30 17:50:19 · answer #8 · answered by ltonyasfun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you he will be there with you and not Jessica. Tell him how you feel. And if hes still with Jessica after you tell him then you and him aren't meant to be.
2006-12-30 17:48:58 · answer #9 · answered by Dareisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop him like a bad habit! Girl, you need some self esteem. You're too good for him!
2006-12-30 18:24:13 · answer #10 · answered by Laura O. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋