Idont have like any real friends in my church. Like friend where you would go to movies and hang out. Everyone klnows each other but not me they dont know I exist. Im so embarrassed and noone even tries to talk to me. Everyone sees me as the quiet person and they all ignore me. I like my church I've been tere since kindergarden and I like all the teachers. I dont have any friends there and its too late to make any cus I didnt talk to anyone and if all of a sudden I'm tryinmg tto be this fake person I'm not thepeople there would know I just want friends. I know you're suppose to go to church for god but its hard when you dont know anyone there and they all know each other. Everytime I go to church I feel more upset instead of happy. :( My parents always give me a whole lecture if I say I want to change churches they would be like you dont go to chruch to make friends and that it is bad to change churches.
2006-12-30 09:36:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You must be under 18 if you have to obey your parents. I never went to church to make friends, but there agan I am a loner by nature. I don't really like people all that much.
Read the bible starting with the new Testement with Matthew and read it through again and again, You will begin to see what God really wants and what the bible really says and I think your life will change.
By the way so as not to mislead you, I am pagan, Wicca is my religion, but I have a very strong background in Christianity and was a preacher over 25 years. I have read the bible hudreds of times and I know that if you read it with the attitude that it says what it means and means what it says and beleive what is in the bible instead of what you hear at church, it is a whole new experience.
My faith changing should not have any effect on your faith.
2006-12-30 09:48:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you like the fact that you've been there a long time, since kindergarten, and you like all the teachers. It's never too late to make friends. Why do you feel like you would have to be a "fake person" to make friends? If that is truly the case, then it is not worth it. Perhaps you could find friends elsewhere. Try joining a sports team or a gym, go to summer camp, stuff like that. And if you still feel that you don't like church, talk seriously with your parents again and see if you can get them to move past the lectures and listen to what you are saying.
2006-12-30 09:43:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest you consider what it is that you expect to get out of going to church. Personally, I go because God asks us to go and to recommit ourselves to him in the process.
There is far more to being a part of religion though than attending church. It is about making God a part of your life i.e. living your religion.
If you feel where you are is not true, first honestly ask yourself whether or not you are living by the precepts it teaches. If you are, then there is something missing and the best thing you can do is get down on your knees and ask if it is true. If it is, you will know deep inside - I don't mean a booming voice from the heavens, but a quiet warm assuring feeling inside. If not, ask to be guided to the truth that you may be a part of a "family" where everyone cares for you and you for them. Sometimes becoming a friend means you need to take the first step. Enjoy the opportunity of discovery :)
2006-12-30 09:45:42 · answer #3 · answered by Doug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your church isn't bringing you close to God, I would say don't go there to try to "please" God. The church's goal should be to encourage and strenghen believers, so if that isn't happening, maybe you should change churches. Or even better, you can make a difference. Perhaps there is someone in your church that needs a friend as much as you do. Maybe you can change the atmosphere by being kind to someone else, and help someone else feel secure. Also, remember that you are not junk, your someone who has purpose, and that God will always appreciate you and be with you.
2006-12-30 09:48:57 · answer #4 · answered by Kyle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry your having this hard time, I don not know what to say? however I can sympathize with you, and I do understand your feelings!
I went to OCIA- Catholic school to learn to be and understand Catholicism, 9 whole months- even got baptized on the Easter vigil, and was soo happy that I finally had a secure church and family to go to.
A month or so went by and I got really sick and was out of church for almost a month- nobody called to check on me, nobody come by to see if I was OK? and not even a note to see how I was?
I was taught the whole 9 months how to be a good example to the outside world, and to love and bring communion to the elderly and the sick.
I called the OCIA teacher and told him I had been sick all month and just wanted to let someone know, and he said:
"Oh hi, Nobody really noticed you were gonna, because nobody really knows you"
It killed my heart- after 9 months of classes, walking in front of the whole church every Sunday holding the book, and so on, and not even one person noticed I was gone.
I no longer go to any church. but I still pray and love God.
2006-12-30 09:47:26 · answer #5 · answered by BubbleGumBoobs! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww, i'm so sorry!! that must be so hard. and i don't think parents realize how hurt teenagers are when they don't have any friends like at a specific place.
i would try to go to a different church, but if that's not an option, just hang in there. talk to your pastor and tell him you want some friends and maybe [s]he can hook you up or something. just try and hang out with others. they just need to get to know you. volunteer and work with some of the others, and maybe they will start hanging out with you.
either way, good luck. and i hope you will find some cool friends to hang out with. :)
God bless.
2006-12-30 09:44:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you involved in a youth group? Could you talk to one of your teachers about starting one? In our Church there are activities for all age groups., it's a great way to make friends. And it's normal stuff like bowling, movies, concerts, dinners together, sporting events. Maybe let your parents know why you're disappointed?
2006-12-30 09:40:54 · answer #7 · answered by <><><> 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. I don't know if you are legally of age or not, but if you aren't, then you have no choice but to follow the wishes of your parents. They are in the wrong here.
Fortunately, I knew God was telling me to leave, so I did and didn't look back. They people didn't like it, but I didn't care. They'd been stabbing me in the back for far to long, and God and I both were not going to take any more of the pain that I was going through.
I wish you the best.
2006-12-30 09:44:20 · answer #8 · answered by Barry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a New CHURCH!
http://www.toughlove.faithweb.com/find_a_true_christian_church.htm
2006-12-30 09:40:39 · answer #9 · answered by whynotaskdon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the really tax a church does not pay is on donations, they pay sources tax and the employess pay earnings tax. Many church homes do placed up the homeless. Many church homes also feed the homeless, furnish clothing, pay a bill for them. have you ever performed the "Christian component" and helped out the homeless? have you ever opened your doors to them or given money to such charities as church homes that furnish one in each of those care? Catholic Christian †
2016-12-01 08:30:58 · answer #10 · answered by miracle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋