I don't really ever try to flirt and I'm a junior with 3 AP's. I don't find very many guys attractive in my school, and I'm not desperate. Although people tell me that I'm really pretty and guys stare a lot, I'm beginning to think the reason I havent had a boyfriend or my first kiss yet is because I'm ugly =(. I feel like girls tell me I'm really pretty only because they pity me and guys only stare because I'm a girl.
2006-12-30 09:34:27 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Don't sweat it. I didn't have my first kiss until 18.
Didn't have an S.O. until 19. I think part of my deal was I was a pretty darn competitive pianist who only practiced hours on end besides the reading. It'll happen for you.
2006-12-30 09:38:36 · answer #1 · answered by Philip Kiriakis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you're not really interested in the guys you know. That's probably what it is right there. If you don't like the guys around you, then it's natural that you won't have had a boyfriend from those men.
There's nothing wrong with you. I'm guessing (not seeing your pictures) that you're not ugly, you're not nasty or anything to be pitied. You've got a lot on your plate academically and you're probably busy with other things outside of school.
Just like not everyone gets their period or grows breasts at the same time, not everyone finds someone they are wanting to date at the same time. It's better you wait a bit longer, find a guy you really are attracted to and enjoy being with and date him, than to find just any guy and go out with him, for the sake of saying you've been out on dates.
Give it time; believe it or not, 16 is still young. You don't need to rush this. Take your time, find out who you really are inside-what you like, what you believe in, what you value. Then, when you do find someone you want to date, you'll be self-assured, confident and will know you are good and beautiful-inside and out.
If you know who you are deep down inside, you are less likely to get caught in an abusive relationship, because you will have the self-esteem, self worth and self awareness to say 'this isn't right' and to leave before the abuse is able to carry on for any length of time-you won't believe the lies abusers tell, like "It's for your own good" or "I only do it because I love you".
You will also be able to better assess if a guy is right for you, or if the relationship won't work out long term.
I have lots of friends who, at 12-16 were dating and kissing and all the kind of stuff you're worried about; every single one of them now tells me they wish they'd waited, learned more about themselves and took things slowly, so they wouldn't have had their hearts broken as many times, wouldn't have lost as much trust and in some cases, wouldn't have messed up their lives because they got caught up with an abuser, got pregnant and had to leave school and so on.
2006-12-30 09:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by VeryQuietGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in same boat when I was your age. I had girls flirt with me, but wasn't sure about relationships at that time. Was more into schoolwork and relaxing with friends. When I hit 17 I found a girlfriend, and she lived 80 miles away. It sucked and my grades suffered. I wrecked a good part of my life being impatient. When you fall for someone and give your heart out too easily, the easier it gets stomped on. If you stick to what you are good at, and go through school with a strong head, I promise you will meet new friends, guys and girls, and you will be happier you didn't spend so much times with young boys.
2006-12-30 09:42:17 · answer #3 · answered by FearDragons 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do not think anything is wrong with you. You should feel proud of yourself. You respect yourself, and that is a great quality. My older sister met her husband when she was 17, they kissed when she was 17 1/2. They dated 5 years and then got married. You are most likely very pretty inside and out. Guys like good girls. You are definitely girlfriend material. Guys like a challenge. They know you are not desperate. keep on doing what you are doing. When you least expect it you will find the right guy!!!!!
2006-12-30 09:42:08 · answer #4 · answered by chilly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you don't have a boyfriend it doesn't mean you are ugly. Maybe you just havn't found the right guy yet. I'm sure one day he will come along.
I'm also in the same situation as you so I no what you are feeling, but if you get on with life, do your own thing and stop worrying about not having a boyfriend, you will have alot of fun : )
2006-12-30 11:26:02 · answer #5 · answered by Black Rainbow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys usually only want one thing from girls at that age, and its not a kiss. Maintain your standards for who you are and what you believe in, you will find the right person. Being 16 and not kissed is normal. What is not normal are the kids who are 16 and have kids of their own already. STay true to yourself.
2006-12-30 10:26:02 · answer #6 · answered by Ross P 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying to sound patronising but, in the grand scheme of things you're still a baby, you have your whole life ahead of you to get kissed and have boyfriends! I suggest be outgoing and make friends, socialise with groups, sports, etc and you'll meet a guy who's right for you.
When guys stare it's not because we're trying to be creepy, the guys want to talk to you they just don't know how, try smilling back so they know you're not unapproachable, make friends with them and the rest will take care of itself! Take care.
2006-12-30 09:49:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-15 11:47:47 · answer #8 · answered by moncalieri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey my beautiful daughter didn't date anyone all through school. She didn't even go to the prom. My brother always told me that the right guy hadn't come along and he was right. One day she met her Prince Charming and they've been together twelve years , married eight of those years. There's nothing wrong with you. You just don't want to kiss a lot of frogs because you're waiting for your prince. Believe me Honey, he'll come one day.
2006-12-30 09:40:35 · answer #9 · answered by Pearl 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself time. You are smart so use your smartness and know that getting a boy to be interested in you isnt that all that important. Just be yourself sweetie. There is a boy out there for you who will be interested in your brain and also for yourself. YOu are beautiful on the inside and that is where it counts. Dont give up hope after all you are only 16. Lots of time for boys . Just consentrate on your inner self.
2006-12-30 09:38:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋