I don't really ever try to flirt and I'm a junior with 3 AP's. I don't find very many guys attractive in my school, and I'm not desperate. Although people tell me that I'm really pretty and guys stare a lot, I'm beginning to think the reason I havent had a boyfriend or my first kiss yet is because I'm ugly =(. I feel like girls tell me I'm really pretty only because they pity me and guys only stare because I'm a girl.
2006-12-30 09:33:52 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sound exactly like my current girlfriend. She wasn't desperate, and was never like other ditzy girls that thought every guy was cute. She didnt go "shopping", she waited for the right guy to come around.
She didnt have a bf until she was 19, and that was when she met me. She is now 21 and we're still together. I am her first everything, which I think is great!
Honestly I couldn't ask for a more perfect gf, and the fact that she's not skanky, or had like 15 boyfriends by the time she was 16, is also something that I treasure. Girls like that are hard to find. Trust me, you'll be respected more by whoever the lucky guy is.
You don't need to be like everybody else and follow trends. When you're ready you'll know, it wouldn't be as special when you first kiss a boy if you feel forced to, just to be part of the "IN" crowd. Wait for the right guy. If you're not desperate then that's normal, and it's a good thing. It shows that you are mature and you don't cave in to peer pressure. +1 for you!
And teenage boys stare at anything with b00bs lol . And if they're always staring at you, then you must be a pretty girl.
2006-12-31 15:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by JDM_BA4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl i wanna give you a hug or a high five. that was me a few months ago. i hated being touched by guys, i had never kissed a guy (I'm 16 as well), i thought i was the ugliest thing on this earth, no guys ever came near me (bf wise) and even though i was told once and a while that i was pretty by my gals i didn't think so. i was pretty much a feminist to the core. (and i still kind of am, power to the women! lol) but there was nothing wrong with me and there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. i honestly gave up on love because my best friend always had a bf and guys fell at her feet, so i just thought they would always like her. long story short (possibly too late?) through a series of crazy events i got a bf and he told me how much i mean to him. now i feel a lot better about myself but i kinda feel bad about having to have him tell me in order to believe it.
2006-12-30 09:57:55 · answer #2 · answered by lmdlcc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have nothing to worry about. I've been there. Even though I flirted and had lots of guys that I liked and guy friends, I didn't have my 1st official boyfriend til my freshman year of college. You're not ugly. You just continue to be you and you will get a boyfriend when the time is right. Just have fun, continue being open and friendly with your peers. It will happen.
2006-12-30 09:39:17 · answer #3 · answered by You Don't Know Me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey i wouldnt worry about it, different people work at theyre own speeds, some are just looking for the right person, and some people dont like anyone, by the sounds of it you dont like anyone at your school and thats ok, theres nothing wrong with you.
sometimes in terms of relationships people are late bloomers and its usually the late blumers that have the most fun because the people who have been dating since they were 13 are bored of everything already.
Just be confident and have fun with your life, being happy is the most attractive thing and when the right person comes along thats the person they'll see you for
good luck i hope i helped
2006-12-30 09:46:05 · answer #4 · answered by Shemeroids 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound super sensitive... if you think guys stare at you all day.. perhaps you're being paranoid.
It's nothing not having a bf at 16.. Enjoy your life! Keep doing the things you enjoy! If you don't find anyone attractive right now, you'll find them later but don't make it a habit of constantly thinking about it.
2006-12-30 09:39:46 · answer #5 · answered by lyssaria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not that Im the same way Im so shy and I just got my first b/f I've been asked out a number of times but always said no because I didn't really like them but I came across someone I do like so here I'am I just had my first kiss/peck 2 days ago and we have already been going out for 2 months so theres no shame in waiting.
Guys stare and ask me out but I just wasnt intrested in them so just take your time. (im almost 16 myself so your not alone)
2006-12-30 09:40:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said "guy's stare because you are a girl," no... guy's won't stare at an ugly girl. They must be interested. Talk to more people, but don't extremely flirt.
2006-12-30 09:37:11 · answer #7 · answered by Otter Pop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's absolutely fine! I know the nicest girl. She's never had a boyfriend, is really pretty, super nice, and is19. So don't worry. No need to rush things.
2006-12-30 09:39:22 · answer #8 · answered by wutsup? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can either go out with guys to experience or wait and find the right guy for you.... as long as your sure that hes the right guys for you... and theres nothing wrong with not going out with anyone Im 16 and I found the girl that I really love in my second relationship...
2006-12-30 09:39:09 · answer #9 · answered by metal_same 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no sweet girl there is nothing wrong with u . ur interest in da opposite sex just hasn't blossomed as yet. just relax n when it do happens it would have been worth da wait. it would be like a world wind so, be on guard.
2006-12-30 09:39:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋